I’d rather do onlyfans at 27 than settle for a man…is that wrong?

Question

The idea of having to settle for a man who I don’t really live or find attractive scares me… I’d rather 1000 attractive men gawk at me than to settle..

I’ve never been chosen.. I’ve never been picked.. I’ve been left for a tranny, for a woman with kids, other attractive women… men have done nothing but let me know I’m not enough by treating me like ish and leaving me..

Lately I’ve been trying to get into onlyfans and I desperately want to get my body done… I want that sense of validation… I’ve never gotten it

Never gotten flowers, kissed, loved… chosen… never.. not even at 16..

I’ve been average looking my whole life and I’ve hated it.. now that I have some money saved I can get some work done finally

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

"I’ve never been chosen.. I’ve never been picked." So, you pursued the men in every relationship you've ever had? "I’ve been left for a tranny, for a woman with kids, other attractive women… men have done nothing but let me know I’m not enough by treating me like ish and leaving me.." What this tells me is that you were picking men because they were handsome, wealthy, or high-status, rather than picking men because of their morals, values, and life goals. Which is what most women do, and what society and your friends tell you to do. The problem is not all men, the problem is that you are choosing the guys who are exciting, who give you butterflies, who aren't "boring" - because the guys who are loyal, who treat women well, who have morals and values, and who are reliable, are BORING to you. You are choosing the chaos because it gives you the feels in the beginning, but to no one's surprise but apparently yours, it quickly blows up. You can live your life however you like - it's not my place to tell you what to do. But if I kept putting "ultra hot sauce" on my food and then complaining that my food was too hot and my eyes were watering and my ass was burning, you'd look at me as an idiot, because clearly I was causing my own problems by making poor choices. And you'd be right in that case. I don't know who you are, and all I know about you is what you've written here, but this has all the signs of a woman who is making shallow, short-term choices and then getting surprised that she's not having great long-term outcomes. If you already don't like men, I can promise you that going on OF is going to make you FAR more miserable, because you'd be dealing with the very worst men 24/7/365 - and the consequences of doing that will NEVER GO AWAY - NOT EVER. You will be recognized everywhere you ever go, and many of the people who have seen you will treat you as the person they see online, and that won't be pleasant for you. And you will NOT be in any position to complain about that, because it will be the path YOU chose, and no one is going to have any sympathy because you knew what the likely outcomes would be before you made that decision. I would recommend that you take some time to really consider what you REALLY want. How many Birkin bags are worth the rest of your life? Hopefully, you have an answer for that before you make your choice.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

So rather than take accountability of why all these men left you you’ll just blame all men even though you have not dated 99.9% of all men. Another woman taking a lack of accountability. When you look at all this, the one thing that is constant in all this is you. So maybe it’s you. Bad personality. The fact that you’re thinking of getting into onlyfans says a lot about your morals. Maybe that’s why men don’t want you. But go for it. It’ll last for so long then you’ll age out, men will stop knocking at your door. I wouldn’t doubt if you were one of these younger girls who fell into this whole strong independent women bs, we don’t need men, etc. Then as you got older your thoughts changed, now you can’t find someone to take you serious so now it’s all the men’s fault.

emeraldsaphire · Accepted Answer

omg that's awful. As a painfully average girl from small town America I can relate. I've been where you are. I've send nudes and done things for strangers online and offline. And it only brought me trauma. I think Only fans can be done safely and I wish you the best, but don't choose sex work out of desperation. Trust me there are good men out there too.

Bricealan · Answer

Your life is your own to do with as you see fit, and you should have no reservations about that. You dont' need validation or acceptance from this site to live your life as you see fit to live. If Only Fans is a way to get validation an make money. do that and to hell with what others may say.

ohsheeT · Answer

And out of those thousands of men that you pick what happens if not one of them have $1 or 50 cents or a quarter then which direction are you going to go

slatyb · Answer

Suit yourself. But I agree that you should not settle. If you want a partner, what are you doing to meet someone?

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Go make that money sugar plum. Do whatever tf makes you happy ok?

Anonymous · Answer

What does any of that have to do with whether you want to do OF?

Graptemys79 · Answer

That seems like an empty life.

hotman5 · Answer

yes its wrong because its sin

Fury_storm · Answer

ugly people do what ugly people do

jahaims · Answer

Go to therapy

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

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