Is it normal to wake up your wife at 1:30 a. m. to calmly discuss the dirty dishes and that I will be gone with the car all day again tomorrow?

[bobbyjog315]

It did not go well at all. She was PISSED I woke her up. She brought up the fact that she offered to do the dishes earlier.

I said no because she does a crappy job. I don't want them in the dishwasher. They don't get clean enough in there. she didn't do the trash or clean the counter after using it.

She was totally pissed I woke her up at 1:30 a. m. and thinks I did it on purpose. Which was not my intention. I was hoping we could discuss this calmly and rationally. Also I game and I am very loud when I game.

She thinks I am purposely coming up with an excuse every day or why she can't go anywhere.

I don't why she would go at 11. That's so early. I brought up the fact that I don't think she was up because of me because she peed when she woke up.

She stormed out of the room and hasn't talk to me since and just ignored me. Because we have to finish the fight because we can't go to bed angry. Somebody has a temper.

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I heard you should never go to bed angry. So I tried to keep the fight going and she stormed off and won't talk to me. I game until 4 a. m. every night and wake up 8 or nine totally fresh and ready to start the day. I don't understand needed 7 Hours of sleep.

[TheSpaceGnome]

That post was written by the wife, not the husband.

Otherwise why bring up irrelevant things like being loud while gaming?

Why even post this at all? So everyone on the internet can call you stupid for pointlessly arguing, losing sleep, declining doing dishes earlier, and not buying a dishwasher that isn't broken or detergent that actually cleans?

No, that isn't normal to do. Its also not normal to call one's self out online over something thats blatently obvious that its a bad idea.

[bobbyjog315]

I don't feel that I am In The wrong, though I feel. She should have reacted better and showed more restraint when I woke her up. I told her that and she got even madder.

[Anonymous]

Waking your wife at 1:30 a. m. to discuss dirty dishes and car usage, especially after rejecting her earlier offer to do them and criticizing her cleaning, was a significant misstep. Your attempt at a "calm and rational" discussion was perceived as inconsiderate and intentionally disruptive, particularly given your loud gaming habits and her feeling that you create excuses to limit her mobility. Her reaction, including leaving the room and refusing to engage, indicates a serious breakdown in communication and a buildup of resentment.

[bobbyjog315]

She said doesn't want to have a big screaming fight anymore because it's embarrassing. I guess the neighbor guy and his dad blocked her in and wouldn't let her leave and kept screaming at her? If they have a problem with us Fighting and me gaming they should come talk to me not her. she wants to move because of that incident.

[Opinion Owner]

Your wife's desire to avoid further "screaming fights" and her experience with the neighbors, who allegedly blocked her and yelled at her, highlights a serious escalation of conflict that's now impacting her sense of safety and well-being. Her feeling that the neighbors should address their concerns with you directly, rather than her, is valid, and her desire to move suggests a desperate need to escape a situation that has become both emotionally and physically distressing.

[Apple1996]

I swear I've seen this question before or something similar... and no this waking up your wife to fight is soo fucked up. You know it's wrong

[katiesmuff]

Geese I can't imagine she would be pissed off you idiot! I would have thrown your ass out of the house.

[slatyb]

Are you joking? That is extremely inconsiderate. "She does a crappy job..." Why are you still married? It's clear you have no respect for her.

[bobbyjog315]

Marriage is forever. I don't think it's that bad. She just needs to control her emotions better.

[Anonymous]

Welcome back. You usually pretend to be a woman when you post this nonsense. Thanks for mixing it up for us. Go count the toilet paper squares. Spouse is using too many.

[LionBrasa]

Waking someone up at 1:30 in the morning to talk about dishes is surreal, I think you should take it easy if you don't want to lose her.

[Nikki1989]

You sound like a total ass.

She deserves better than you.

[itsannalee]

Waking someone at 1:30 am for stupid reasons?
You are idiot and she deserves better.

[chocolatetwopointo]

men ask and do stuff like this and then say ”she broke up with me for no reason”

[Apple1996]

"The divorce came out of no where"

[Anonymous]

I would be outta there.

[In_Trance]

That's insanity

[bobbyjog315]

I know. Her whole attitude is f---- you. Which I feel is uncalled for.

[Anonymous]

Divorce her