Girl at the gym approached me to tell me I had the nicest ass & skinniest waist in the gym. WTF is her problem?

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Who the hell does she think she is, how dare she!. Surely this is inappropriate behaviour or is this an American cultural thing to approach strangers like this. Kinda creepied me out. I can't imagine commenting to another woman that she has a big set of funbags. Yes I wear yoga pants and a sports bra but I also wear a long t-shirt over them so she must have watched me changing in the women's lockeroom.

Cormac995 · Accepted Answer

This is actually a common frustration for a lot of people at the Gym. There are some people who just want to work out and some people are trying to put on a show. That said it's interesting a woman did it because it ties into something that bugs me.

Women are constantly posting tick tocks of them working out in skimpy cloths and men looking at her for ego boosts and to see the comments rip the men apart for being perverts even though she's the one working out basically dressed as a stripper. The fact is the Gym attracts two demographics. 1. people who want to work out and improve themselves. 2. Insecure men and woman that need the validation of strangers. Both are in decent supply at every gym as a rule o thumb.

Also, if you're new to America something to keep in mind is culturally woman can't really be rapists or sexually harass people. There are female Pedo's that get positive feedback for being a predator because they "Made the boy a man" and "He got lucky really early". I personally have been harassed before and nobody cares cause I'm a dude.

I was drinking at the bar with my friends and this woman kept on flirting with me and grabbing my arm without permission. I have very strict boundaries, and she would let go. I yanked my arm out of her hands and went outside for a cig to get away from her and she followed me and grabbed my arm again and wouldn't let go until me and my friends left the bar. I felt sick and disrespected but I'm a dude and she's a girl, so nobody cared.

If the situations were reversed and I kept touching a woman without permission trying to get her to sleep with me and following her around the bar they'd have called the cops and beat me up. Something I've noticed that's a flipside of this is there is a demographic of the lesbian and bi section of the woman population that seem to have this idea that since their a woman they can't sexually harass other woman and so saying things like that in their mind are ok to do.

Culturally things are very different here and there are a lot of double standards for both sexes and all races in this country. You just experienced one of them.

MisterWack · Accepted Answer

The fact she watched you in the women’s locker room then said that out of nowhere is beyond me. That is disrespectful, inappropriate, and is a total stranger like WTF?
That would creep me out too, whether a woman or man or whatever said that to me like “you have the biggest bulge, nicest ass I’ve ever seen”. Like what? This is heinous. You deserve to feel comfortable, content, and ‘in the zone’ doing what you are doing not worrying if a creep of any kind will come up to you and say sexually charged sh*t like that. Disrespect and awful, hope you never go through that again and shame on her for doing it.

Apulu_backagain · Accepted Answer

It's just as offensive as a man saying it. Compliments from a stranger should be subtle like you have nice hair or nice shoes or fit.

In gym settings, she could have said you have a nice form or complimented you about your core strength or leg strength.

People are forgetting about boundaries and formal etiquettes to have while exchanging words with a stranger. And the fact that she was probably observing you for a while makes it slightly creepy.

itsannalee · Accepted Answer

What’s your problem?
Lol I don’t see any problem here , she just being nice and complimenting you. I often get compliments from other girls about my small waist or flawless skin and have bo problem with that, just think that they are being nice to girls. Not all people are gays.

Your thoughts depend on what's in your mind, you think something like that is creepy because that’s what in your mind when you see other girls 🤔

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

She was hitting on you. It was definitely hitting on you in a very forward way. However, its not in any way that should offend you. It's not an insult or an affront. I can totally appreciate you being taken aback and surprised. It's just a matter of turning her down. "Sorry I'm straight" or "sorry I'm married" should be the end of it.

I guess it's an American thing. It's not inappropriate that she hit on you. The specific comments about your body... i agree were in poor taste. It's not like people are going to approach you at the gym regularly. But it is totally fine that someone did. People certainly do. It just was a little too sexualized, and about your body. I think that's kinda messed up (in the same way I'd find it messed up if a man said this to you)

🙂

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I think commenting on her boobs would be too much, unless they're friends, but another girl complimenting another girl's waist and ass isn't seen as taboo by American standards. It's normal even for straight women to admire and comment on each other's bodies. If you heard some of things my female co-workers said to each other, you'd think they were lesbians.

Americans are very open. If they have something to say they'll say it, especially women, because it's not as frowned upon if a woman says it.

So yeah. It's different with men, but with women, this is completely normal in America.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/lR-3WM31biQ

Levin · Answer

Well, I suppose the logic is that women are innately moral and righteous creatures, unlike men, so her comment would be naturally deemed to have come from a good place.

On top of that, she probably thought it was a compliment because people tend to go to the gym to sculpt their bodies.

It does seem pretty coarse but you are in an American gym, so...

I should imagine if I entered one of those it would be 3 seconds before some loud mouth gobshite was offering me advice. Comes with the territory in those kinds of places.

Brokenheartedx · Answer

there was a time women would have taken that as a compliment from another woman as most times women bitch at each other.

Few decades later the knives are out as how dare she make comment on me!!

What would u have said if it was a male that said it?

emmie12 · Answer

honestly it depends on comfort for me that wouldent fly but if your a woman who dosent mind showing off then sure so ima just say this if your uncomftorble tell her how you feel about it if she continues go to another gym second of all she could be lesbian and ima just point out it may just be she is very bold and thinks your into women to and third when you work out all that shows pretty visibly specifically stuff likes squats for the ass and mabie you wore a tight shirt one day ig what im trying to say is this does come off as creepy but dont just assume she meant it that way now thats not to say dont set boundries but rather that you dont know what she wants so rather than complain about it mabie talk with her about it and set everything up so she knows you dont like it that way there can be no mistakes or misunderstandings in the future

NathanDavis · Answer

must have been a Northerner...

FreyaRed · Answer

Take that compliment and forget it. It's funny when they make compliments with such disappointed undertone, like you have something they want to have but they don't.
I make sometimes compliments to other girls, to encourage them, but surely not to random people I don't know.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

I've had similar interactions at my gym over the years. Both out on the floor and in the locker room itself. Unless they ask me what workouts I do, I just say thanks and move on. Don't get me wrong, some of them do make me feel uncomfortable, but at the same time I'm not gonna go out of my way to make a fuss about it and ruin my own day with it. Now, if someone touches me, theeeeen it's a whole other deal 👊😤

Valdemort · Answer

Either she was just impressed and working on the same goal, or she was hitting on you.  Don't think it meant anything bad, but if you didn't like it... yeah, can get weird.

lilBigPotato · Answer

I mean I have been approached by girls in the gym but none have ever made a direct comment like that. More like subtle compliments, ask questions etc.

Guys on the other side can be really direct sometimes

Bricealan · Answer

@gwendoline Gwen, are you bragging or complaining? From what you say, you must have the nicest ass and most trim waist in the gym...(You just made my shorts slightly tight !) No sexual harassment intended LOLOL 😁😁

You should take that as "praise from Caesar" If a girl made that comment to you, the guys must be drooling over your nice ass and waist!

Go with it... AND DON'T CALL ME SHIRLEY!!! lolol
@sage2021

NicholasRedone · Answer

@gwendoline must've been either skin cleavage or it was really really tight to show off your figure to such an extent, you made some woman flip sides even lol from men to women lol 😆😆😆 💋😘 just making a friendly joke 🤣

Babygirl_S · Answer

I routinely get compliments from women and I usually say thanks. Unless I’m dating him, bois usually don’t. Sometimes those compliments from women keep me going when a shitty person whose eyes were almost brown started bragging about how “light” they were. Some idiots literally make their eye colour their whole personality. Even if the rest of their appearance and personality are cooked. You should be glad because I have also had nasty women who hated me for looking better than them.

Shiprex · Answer

I think it is a woman thing rather than American. Women feel that complimenting other women about their appearance is a right that they are open to abuse.

Communicationisking · Answer

Take the compliment... most women probably hate you because your attractive and talk shit behind your back.

MemeSupreme · Answer

just take the compliment lol

this is coming from someone who DETESTS comments made about their body just in general. don't get into the habit/mindset of overthinking things people say. try to run with it if you can

Lynx122 · Answer

I don't know, it sounds weird to me but I'm more of a reserved person. Some people will just say anything XD

Lokiion · Answer

She just complimented you, yes it might be weird, but I don't think there was any ill intent since you didn't like it just give her a weird look next time she says something like that next time or better yet say it made you uncomfortable.

slatyb · Answer

I agree that it is generally inappropriate to comment on another person's body, no matter the gender of the speaker or the subject.

alice55 · Answer

She just gave you a compliment how is that bad? If I had to blow a fuse each time people gave me a compliment, touched my hair, or asked to take a pics of me I would not have a voice anymore XD

Jennz6 · Answer

I wouldn’t mind someone telling me that I have a nice ass 💃💯

FunkyMonkee · Answer

She wants you. Why is that a problem? Either that or she's just complimenting you on your looks.

BobbieBoy666 · Answer

Getting a compliment is a good thing. I wish I could get a compliment. Once in a while. 😇

Anonymous · Answer

This is what happens in the gym. People go to either people watch or show off. If you don't want to do either, I recommend exercising at home.

HighlyQuestionable · Answer

It was a bit forward of her, but when you see someone you're "into" and may never see again, well "strike while the iron is hot"

hahahmm · Answer

Okay. You could always put on the outfits women war to the gym in 1950 and then nobody will bother you. You also could have told her to mind her own business when she approached you instead of telling strangers about it.

fish5505_87 · Answer

I would say that's a tad inappropriate! If you're creeped out keep away from her. At least it wasn't negative feedback! Just trying to add a little levity.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

What makes it creepier is that it's coming from another girl, not a guy, it seems that she's a lesbian!

Phoenix98 · Answer

Sounds like she was just complimenting you, I mean she for sure could have gone about it a more polite and respectful way. But I don't think she meant any genuine harm.

loveslongnails · Answer

She was hitting on you. Didn't seem like a problem in her mind.

Med_guy1978 · Answer

It's just a compliment, it's nice people can admire and express their admiration for others. Once upon a time people did this more, respectfully though.

worldscolide · Answer

That's just about as creepy as when a guy does it. Ew.

Wiredone · Answer

She was just giving you a compliment. You shouldn't be offended by it.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

let's get these creepers out of the locker room! at least the trans men don't approach and stare instead with their phones for likes

katiesmuff · Answer

She doesn't have a problem, she wants to eat your pussy and play with you!

elizamichale1 · Answer

I wouldn't mind n i always feel happy when someone complements me... It's creepy only if it goes beyond a simple n general compliment

StevenMcGarrett · Answer

I think she was just being friendly and nice. Relax.

David318578 · Answer

So she gave you a complement and that made you mad? Or did you take it as an insult because being fat and having a terrible ass your goal?

Sunrising · Answer

Post a photo, and I'm sure us guys will give you our opinion of your figure!

Guanfei · Answer

That's the thing, it's highly frown upon if a man does it, but if it's a woman it's accepted.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I think your over reacting she just gave you a compliment

RedInnocent69 · Answer

She thinks you’re attractive and wants to be more like you

Sono83 · Answer

I doubt she meant it in any way other than a compliment, but it was awkwardly delivered.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t know many straight women who would say nice ass , she might have been hitting on you

Anonymous · Answer

Girl at the gym? Sounds interesting, but it seems she likes girls.

WonderingManII · Answer

I think you should just be like ok, thanks. Wait and see if she bothers you again.

Kelly6 · Answer

@gwendoline if she complement in good way, then I would mind it.

DCVsMarvel · Answer

I didn't know complimenting someone, was a bad thing now?

nudeNhorny · Answer

What's wrong with her compliment, why don't you just feel flattered by it?

Professor-college · Answer

That's odd. I've met women who would be excited and proud that others complement and notice improvement by their exercise

RavVid · Answer

Another creepy girl!

LiamJHayden · Answer

That is weird.

Staximus · Answer

She wants to fool around

NoDecision · Answer

Was probably a Transgendered guy. 😯

wkhan_87 · Answer

Maybe she compliments your appearance

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Would you have liked a BOY to so compliment your body?

glennos89 · Answer

You made me curious 🫣

exitseven · Answer

sounds like she likes you.

Lilly1979 · Answer

Could be she attracted to you.

DrPepper12 · Answer

It's a safe compliment or flirting.

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