Girls, how do you feel about taking your husband's last name?

[Anonymous]

I did it

I want to

I didn't

I won't

[Anonymous]

I'll take his last name. When we have kids I want them to know we're a family, a team.

[Asker]

Do you feel like you're losing part of your identity?

[Opinion Owner]

To me, no, I feel my identity will become the family my husband and I raise. If I have a daughter, I will want her to make her own identity by doing the same.

[Anonymous]

Makes you feel owned... and safe🥺

[Asker]

Do you want to feel owned?

[Apple1996]

I kept my name. At first I was gonna take his name but after getting married I realized how important it was for me to keep my own name. We're still separate people who came from totally different backgrounds so there's just no reason to take my husband's last name

[NordicInScandinavia]

I will be getting my partner's last name when we do finish up and get married but I'm also keeping my own.

[Nikki1989]

We decided not to do that, along with many other outdated, wedding and marriage traditions.

[debbiedenise]

I meant to put I would like to. Add my maiden name with a hyphen though. Great Question.

[Jooying]

I didn't. We don't have the culture doing it. Also we just too lazy to change everything after that.

[WhitneySnow]

What about a hyphenated last name like my mom did?

[Anonymous]

I’d hyphenate mine and drop my middle name if I get married

[Asker]

Why drop your middle name?

[Opinion Owner]

Name would be too long if I kept it

[MemeSupreme]

better be a good last name

[Asker]

How do you feel about it in principle?

[MemeSupreme]

i'll probably do it bc im not close to my name/family, altho it does sound like a lot of paperwork to go through lol

idc if others do it

[chocolatetwopointo]

why should i?

[Asker]

Why shouldn't you?

[chocolatetwopointo]

bc there's no reason to

[Asker]

It's been tradition for thousands of years. It shows family unity

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay and? whats ur point?

[Asker]

When you get married and have children wouldn't it make sense for you all to have the same surnames?

[chocolatetwopointo]

i won't have kids.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ok so i should change my whole identity js bc of a man?

[Asker]

Everyone says they won't have kids when they're young and it's also because a man is taking responsibility for your well-being while you undergo one of the biggest life changes.

[chocolatetwopointo]

well i won't have them, and i won't be able to get a man anyways so where would i get the kids?🤷‍♀️ why would he take responsebility over me? id be a grown woman not a child? and as i said, i won't be having kids. and then why can't he take my name if its all about ”family being united”

[Asker]

Men traditionally take responsibility over women because they're the providers and protectors so it's only natural that his last name would be the one adopted and unless you're unable to most people end up having children

[chocolatetwopointo]

well im not a child and can take responsebility over myself and i provide for myself and i dont need a protector. yeah no, i won't be able to get a man so where would the kid be? and im not giving birth to a kid and going through fucking hell js for the kid to get HIS last name, hell no. as i said, i won't be able to get a man and i dont want kids. i could give u a long list of why i dont want kids if that helps u realise why not everyone wants kids.