Why does her friend text her mad?

[Anonymous]

I was just with this girl and she was texting but she was in my arms so i see her screen and she kept sending snaps in my arms to people but one of her friends kept asking who she was with and got mad when she heard it was me and texted her ‘you’re unbelievable’.

So does her friend just not approve of me or what could be going on lol. I also barely know her friend

[HollyK21]

You had her right there, why wouldn’t you just ask? Because you don’t want to be invasive or you just don’t want to outwardly show care? Like you already know we can’t tell you why someone feels how they do. You’re better off pretending you didn’t see it since you won’t ask.

[Asker]

Her friend ‘doesn’t think i am a good fit’

[HollyK21]

So you already have an answer to your question🙃

[HollyK21]

If the real question here is “why” she doesn’t think you’re a good fit, that’s also worth asking the girl you’re seeing. However I’m willing to bet the friend is annoyed because this girl has talked to a of shit about you and still is hanging around you. It can be really frustrating, watching a good friend cry/hurt over a guy, listening to her vent constantly about the issues, only to go back. If your girl had just kept the problems between you guys, just between you and not went to her friend, then her friend wouldn’t feel that way whatsoever. She only knows what this girl has said and it’s clearly been bad things.

[Asker]

Yeah but I find it weird, the reason she doesn’t like me seems personal.
Her other friends seem supportive as I’ve heard

[HollyK21]

Yeah, she’s taking it personal because this is her good friend and she’s being told not so good things. Her other friends may not be privy to the same information that this other friend is. I have several female friends, but I don’t share the same information to each one. If those friends ask about my relationship I keep it super neutral because I don’t want them in business like that. Meanwhile my best friend knows everything, seen it all. She loves my fiancé but hated my ex, while my other friends were cool with my ex, but now you can see why.

[Asker]

Yeah but I know her best friend (girl she is with like half of the time) and she encouraged it.
The girl that doesn’t approve is like her second best friend I guess. So yeah maybe she told her something she didn’t tell the others but she certainly doesn’t act like it

[HollyK21]

I can’t speak for every single woman, I’m just telling as one myself, what’s usually happening behind the scenes in this type situation. The girl you’re with will most likely never tell you the things she’s told that friend. Who knows, maybe they’ve grown apart a bit or maybe this friend is distancing herself from your girl, but I know that her dating you is the problem. That’s why she “can’t believe her”, because she’s talked excess shit to this best friend about things you’ve done, then turns around posting on Snapchat in your arms. It’s a slap in the face, really, but not your problem. If the girl is still dealing with you then don’t concern yourself with the approval of her friends. They don’t all have to like you and you aren’t dating them, you’re dating her.

[Asker]

Probably yes. We have a history, mostly none of my doing to be really honest.
I wouldn’t say we’re dating now but on the other hand she said she will do what she wants and not her friends.
Though I know her approval does matter to her, I have never even met the other girl.

[HollyK21]

The thing is, you don’t know what has been said to this friend to make her be so against you. Like with your history, even if you don’t feel as though what happened was your doing, your girl may have had an entirely different experience, or felt a way about it that you didn’t know she was feeling. When it comes to talking about feelings and stuff with men who aren’t their boyfriends women can be reluctant. They don’t want to cause issues or push you away when instead they should be communicating. I’d really think twice about this girl, mainly because of her need to have everyone in her business. It’s just messy.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot for your advice, will do!