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I personally love the woman that are girl's girl. Why do some of y'all so cruel to one another? Don't we have enough problems? We should be praising and uplifting one another. I understand insecurities but why would you want someone else to be insecure also?
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7 mo
Wow. Apparently this question was rage bait. Lol. Or just summoned the women projecting their own insecurities.
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Insecurities mainly but some women r just plain nasty for no reason
I agree. I have learned that. Like the ones in the other comment made. It went from 0 to 100 real quick lol. It's unfortunate.
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She is lying
That's what she she said verbatim lol
Very insecure. They both blocked me and then Dear Abby continues to still comment on my post lol. I'm not sure what she's trying to prove here. Definitely my point, I don't why some women are like this.
I don't know what happened here lol
If you really wanna have a heart to heart with women, you’d do so without anonymity. Hiding yourself is disingenuous because you wanna secretly say what’s on your mind rather than actually own it. @Abbycado why anonymize if she’s really trying to connect?🙄
Good point, Holly. Being anon is a strange way of supporting each other.
Good point then again it also is a detergent. It shows it doesn't take much to get fellow women to lash on each other for no good reason. My name is thatgirl2000. Want to be friends.
@Abbycado would you also like to connect? thatgirl2000.
Than again, it's still anonymous technically. It's online and that isn't my real name. Also you didn't answer the question you just responded basically with a diatribe.
Who’s lashing on you? It’s a general observation. You want us to have a serious conversation and open up to an anonymous user? No I didn’t answer the question because you aren’t being real.
Deanonymize the question and I’ll consider further engagement. Like thanks for sharing your username in the comments but not every woman who comments is going to read this conversation. They just see an anon.
Yeah, I’ll connect. I just have a few things I have to take care of this afternoon.
@Abbycado cool thank you. 🙂
Do you follow me by chance?
@Abbycado I just followed
I already shared my username, thatgirl2000, so if identity is the issue, there it is. But let’s be real: we’re all anonymous to some degree online. I don’t know if ‘HollyK21’ is your real name either. So what are we really measuring, authenticity or comfort?
The question I asked wasn’t about identity, it was about empathy. And ironically, the responses have shown how quick we are to deflect or dismiss instead of engage. If we only open up to people who meet arbitrary standards of ‘realness,’ then we’re not here to connect, we’re here to gatekeep.
And let’s be honest: half the things people say online wouldn’t be said face-to-face. That’s the keyboard warrior effect. So maybe instead of policing who’s ‘real,’ we should ask why we’re so quick to lash out, especially when someone’s trying to start a meaningful conversation.
If that wasn’t lashing out, then I guess it was just a gentle rinse with a side of passive-aggressive bubbles.
Okay, let’s unpack some of this.
“But let’s be real: we’re all anonymous to some degree online. I don’t know if ‘HollyK21’ is your real name either. So what are we really measuring, authenticity or comfort?”
First of all, whose name has numbers in it? Lol. Like I said, if you really wanted to have a heart to heart with women, you would’ve initially done so without the veil. What caused you to anonymize in the first place? Excuse me for being leery, but I won't apologize for that because my line of questioning was in no way disrespectful. I’ve found that a lot of anonymous users on this site more specifically use the feature to say all kinds of ridiculous shit that they would not with their actual usernames. Therefore, I don’t have a lot of trust in those conversations to begin with. I never accused you of anything, I simply asked why hide your identity if you really wanted to connect with us. Especially if it’s as meaningless as you try and make it sound.
“And ironically, the responses have shown how quick we are to deflect or dismiss instead of engage.”
Deflect or dismiss what exactly? Because this response of mine:
“Who’s lashing on you? It’s a general observation. You want us to have a serious conversation and open up to an anonymous user? No I didn’t answer the question because you aren’t being real.”
Was a response to this comment here:
“Good point then again it also is a detergent. It shows it doesn't take much to get fellow women to lash on each other for no good reason. My name is thatgirl2000. Want to be friends.”
So I did respond. My initial comment here was just me making an observation, not me trying to engage in conversation over the topic. Thats the thing with free will though, you know? You can read something online and openly question or comment on it. That’s all I was doing. Don’t like it, oh well.
“And let’s be honest: half the things people say online wouldn’t be said face-to-face. That’s the keyboard warrior effect. So maybe instead of policing who’s ‘real,’ we should ask why we’re so quick to lash out, especially when someone’s trying to start a meaningful conversation. If that wasn’t lashing out, then I guess it was just a gentle rinse with a side of passive-aggressive bubbles.”
By definition, lashing out is reacting to strong negative emotions, like anger, hurt, or frustration, by attacking either physically or verbally. Where was the attack? Also by definition, passive aggressiveness is characterized by or showing indirect resistance to the demands of others and avoidance of direct confrontation. Where did I demonstrate any of this? Your overuse of the phrase “lashing out” is really giving gaslight at this point. I’m allowed fo question your question and then decide if I’d like to engage in further conversation based off how you respond. If you ask me this entire response of yours was hostile and defensive. You could’ve deleted or ignored my question altogether if you felt as though this was my way of attacking you or something.
The tone of the response seemed frustrated to me.
At the end of the day, I asked a sincere question about why women can be so cruel to each other, and somehow, that was enough to trigger suspicion, sarcasm, and a whole lot of projection. I wasn’t hiding. I was trying to understand.
You say you don’t trust anonymous users because they post ‘ridiculous shit.’ But this wasn’t that. It was a serious, compassionate question. And the irony is, I ended up interacting with someone who proved the point: sometimes, it doesn’t matter how thoughtful or kind you are, some people are just waiting to criticize.
You invoked free will like it’s a shield. Cool. I’m using mine to ask why empathy feels so threatening. If that makes people uncomfortable, maybe the question hit closer to home than they’d like to admit.
The space between what I say and how you interpret it is none of my business. Respectfully I won’t be reading the rest of your response because I can already see the gaslighting with triggering of sarcasm and projection, I don't know where any of that happened. Have a good one.
You’re absolutely allowed to question my post. And I’m allowed to notice when the tone of that questioning feels more like a cross-examination than a conversation. You didn’t just ask why I was anonymous, you implied that anonymity invalidated the question itself. That’s not neutral curiosity. That’s gatekeeping.
Now, if your intent was simply to observe and not engage, that’s fair. But I came in asking a serious, compassionate question, and the reaction I got felt more like a tone check than a dialogue. I wasn’t trying to provoke anyone. I was trying to understand something that affects a lot of women.
You mentioned free will, and I agree, we all have it. I used mine to ask why some women tear each other down. You used yours to question how I asked it. That’s your right. But it’s also mine to reflect on how quickly a sincere question can be met with suspicion or critique.
I didn’t expect everyone to agree. I just didn’t expect the question itself to be treated like a provocation.
That's an excellent point though. When people are just reading essentially texts back and forth, you don't see the expressions on thier face or tone of their voice. There is much more room for misinterpreting things. I wish the best for you as well.
@Abbycado lol 😆😆😆
@Abbycado I did respond to you. Though lol i said nice to meet you. You guys are fun.
@Abbycado
I bet you and your friend are an absolute blast at the bar, like lost contestants from Flavor of Love. Drama by appetizer, shouting by last call, and someone crying in the parking lot with one shoe and a broken acrylic. The kind of night that ends with security escorting you out while someone yells, ‘I was here for love!’
And just to clarify, I was responding to what your friend said. That’s how conversations work. She jumped in swinging, I replied. But apparently, engaging with a public comment now warrants a full meltdown and a block party. Wild.
Honestly, I didn’t realize asking why women are so mean to each other would summon the exact kind of energy I was questioning. The mean ones really do come out swinging, with insults, accusations, and a level of rage that felt less like dialogue and more like a casting call for chaos. Tremendous rage bait, apparently.
Y’all take care, and maybe look into therapy or anger management. That kind of volatility deserves more than a comment thread.
Anon, please hush already. I’m not interested in this conversation. Abby was gracious enough to allow you to chat with her personally and you’d rather go back and forth here. No thanks.
lol at the update. Liar.
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Now I’ve blocked you for being a liar. She will of course claim this is false. If so, please post an image of my profanity laced meltdown XD
Not all the girls are mean to each other.