What is wrong with this woman?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

We've known eachother for years. She's very attractive and I've never pursued her. In fact the whole reason were friends is because she asked me on a date and I told her we would make a terrible couple but great friends.

At the time she really appreciated it as someone who was comodimized for her body.

This morning I pick her up from her job, she's a bartender. She was totally shitfaced. Like when I got in there people were telling her not to drive... She doesn't have a car right now. She's touching dudes backs and acting a fool.

She had a call with who I thought was her boyfriend and he sounded really annoyed so I offered to get us lunch and give her some time to sober up.

She knocks out hard, wakes up way later. Mind you, I've pushed everything I need to do today because I never met her boyfriend and I didn't want her location to be popping all over.

Maybe I should have just dropped her off and let her deal with that. I don't know if I did the right thing anymore because when she woke up, she's acting like I did something sus. I told her how she was acting and at first she was acting like why would he care if I'm wasted at 10 am right after my bartending shift. And then I started to feel like she just didn't believe how drunk she was. (She has a lot going on in her life rn)

I'm so fucking pissed right now. I was up all night, slept for an hour, shoveled my grandma's driveway in like 15 minutes, drove to her and I guess looking back on it I can see how I sorta walked right into this one. I just wasn't expecting it from someone I've only ever treated like family and nothing else.

And to be honest, she's really hot and has a great personality but she was touching some guys back at the bar and that's the kind of trait why I never dated her.

I dunno maybe I blew up too fast. She just started throwing accusation words at me and that's when I told her what I saw. Half of me feels betrayed and the other half feels like she just needs a friend.

[c704710]

Addiction creates a "circle of one." As the dependency grows, the person's brain prioritizes the substance above all else. This isn't a personal vendetta against you or anybody else. It is the addiction's defense mechanism. To protect their ability to keep drinking, they push away anyone—and everyone—who represents accountability or reality.

[Brady]

If needed c if there r video cameras or even ask the bar if there r hidden cameras. This can prov that she was touching guys baks. Then ask if they can show her the video.

Also if needed go there n c if u can c the guys whose backs she touched or people who were around with her around whenever u get a chance. Next time somethin like this happens record with your cell phone, etc.

[This_is_me_86]

How old is she? How come you didn’t want to pursue anything with her?

Does she have any responsibilities?

Has anything major happened for her to get shit faced that early in the morning. (Bad break up).

[Telekinetic-Potato]

She's 26. I didn't want to pursue anything with her because when I met her I was dealing with a breakup, I was in have quick sex and never talk again mode, not relationship mode. I told her that and over time I realized we make great friends but she's just not what I'm looking for as a partner to start a family with.

And ya she's going through a lot. Taking care of her father who she was estranged from previously, the rest of her family is trying to steal his money and her older sister who she thought was on her side is causing problems over the last week or two so I feel like something sudden happened either the night before or the morning of.

Wish I thought of that in the moment

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you suspect that she is alcoholic? Or an alcoholic in the making?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

She's definitely on a bad path after what I saw this morning. We used to party a lot. We've both experimented with some pretty wild stuff neither of us have touched in years so it's a little hard for me to accept that she might be an alcoholic.

But the more I think about it the crazier I realize the situation is. I was sleep deprived so I wasn't really thinking much about it. I hope she didn't get fired this morning.

I haven't seen her act like this since we were 25

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Like she straight up, does not remember big details. Or at least she acted like she didn't believe me

[OlderAndWiser]

And not remembering what happened is one of the signs of alcoholism.

[NathanDavis]

alcohol...

lots of it

that's what wrong with alcoholism

[Raydergman26]

Just remind her to say sover so she doesn't have like Alzheimer's disease meaning the lack of B1 which means should be so drunk she needs to get silver right away

[Anonymous]

lol why haven’t u pursued her then

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Because she’s loose and gets drunk at 10 am instead of 5pm.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

And also not everything is about fucking

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah , because she’s single So she’s enjoying lol. You sound toxic af , expecting exclusivity without marriage , hahaha. U wanna keep her trapped in a situation ship. Wdym loose

[Opinion Owner]

And you clearly stated at the start you would be just friends

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I think you need to read it again

[Opinion Owner]

Nahhh. She’s single. So she can do whatever she wants