Love letter: I don't know what to do? Please Help!

[Deb1234]

Well I gave this guy I like a love letter about how I feel. Well gave it to him on Monday and now it's Saturday. What should I do wait till this week Wednesday to ask him what he thinks or what? What should I do? Cause I really want to know what he thinks about the letter. Please help me.

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Well about 2 weeks ago this guy I like told me to write a love letter or my feelings for him. He asked me before why do I love or like him. But he has bad timing when asking questions like that. So I really didn't talk to him about it cause I was nervous . So what do I still need a reply even tho I am doing what he told me to do?

[Skyler123]

Girl don't you go and ask him about that letter. You will just be setting your self up for more heart break. If he truly liked you he would have replied to your love letter within the same day he got it either by text or through a phone call. The fact that a whole week has gone by and still no response? He isn't interested. I'm sorry to say. But when a person likes someone and wants to be with them and they don't know how the other person feels? Aaaand they get a letter from their crush validating all of their hopes and wonders about that person liking them? You think they're going to wait a whole week to reply? NO because they don't want to ruin whatever chance they have of being with that person.

He doesn't like you. Take his silence as an answer...because it does mean something and deep down you already know.

I'm sorry. :(

[palek]

This is the only advice needed. Well said. ; - )

[Alouette]

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but the letter may have ruined things for you. I did that once with a friend, because everyone told me I needed to tell him how I felt. I didn't think he would be too weirded out by it, since he had kissed me before, and people who saw us together often thought we were a couple. But he didn't respond to it. When I asked him about it upfront he said he needed time to think about it (this was a little over a week later). He never said anything more about it, even when I saw him afterward, but things were never quite the same between us. Now it's almost two years later and we hardly talk at all; I still have feelings for him, but he's with someone else, so I guess I got my answer. 

[Deb1234]

Well my friends didn't tell me to write it. He told me to write my feelings or why I love him. Cause he asked me why do I like him or love him? And I tried telling him but ge has bad timing on asking these questions. So I just did what he told me to do. Is that wrong?

[Skyler123]

No he never liked you like that. He may have had feelings for you, but not in the way that you liked him. Trust me. If he really did liked you then nothing like that would have ruined your chances of being with him. I mean REALLY? If a guy likes a girl and she took out the time to write a HAND WRITTEN love letter to him and he liked her? He's have felt like a million bucks. You didn't ruin anything you just got the truth. And I think its what you needed to know in order to move on.

[december1990]

Yes, you should ask him how he thinks ALONE not with his guy friends. Honestly there are NO rules. You shouldn't wait, you should ask him straight up what he thinks because if he likes you it doesn't matter if you ask a day or a week later. If the guy likes you he's gonna be flattered and is going to reciprocate whatever feelings he has for you. And you never know what can happen just tell your parents about this relationship (so they know what your up to) and a friend so people know if anythign comes out of it.

[MoreThanLuck]

To respond to your update: No offense, but this guy sounds like a douche. He was either making fun of you, or went on an ego trip because he knew you liked him. Seriously don't bother with him. I can understand being nervous around someone you like, but if hew is trying to make you really work hard to get him he probably isn't worth it. Just move on and find someone else. Guys go nuts for girls who are open and can talk about their feelings. If you like a guy in the future, don't jump through hoops for him, just ask him if he wants to hang out, or get coffee or something. There's nothing wrong with a girl asking for a guy's number.

[Skyler123]

He said it right. I think a best answer is in order?

[SamuelKRascal]

Interesting - can I just ask, how did he originally know you had feelings for him, in order for him to ask you to write him a letter?

Whatever the case, I think you have a certain amount of right to know what he's thinking, if it's been that long. Especially since he asked you to write the letter in the first place. If you aren't too nervous you could ask him face-to-face, that would give you the quickest and most revealing answer. I would encourage you to do that - he should respect your confidence to ask outright. If not, maybe just write another note or something, however you can get in touch with him.

All the best=)

[ncsquirll99]

Well.. I mean he might not return the feelings. As a guy if I get a love letter I will probably bring it up or at least say something about how sweet it was. As people are saying this isn't a good sign but other than that there isn't really much you can do. Honestly at this point I would just ask him if he got a chance to read it -- BUT understand there is a good chance this will end up with him giving you a line about how he just "doesn't feel the same way about you" .. idk. good luck.

[peach87717]

if you gave it to him on Monday and now its Saturday, I think when you see him again just go up to him and ask him. walk with confidence and don't be shy to ask because you don't want to wait to long. might as well do it. and most importantly don't be nervous, he would be lucky to have you! Goodluck :)

[yopyopyop]

A love letter which gets no answer after a week is not a good sign.

Especially if you saw him in person on Friday and he didn't tell you anything about it.

[Skyler123]

Exactly. If someone cares they're not going to leave you in the dark. They're going to respond.

[yopyopyop]

@ Update: it seems he confused your feelings with attending a job interview. I think you shouldn't have written anything to him, and should have moved on at that time already.

[MoreThanLuck]

Let me tell you, he hasn't forgotten it. If he is too nervous to reciprocate those feelings, or not interested in you, it's his loss. Move on.

[ncsquirll99]

@ the update.. this is just too much drama.. I mean this isn't middle school it is about time to stop playing games. And I mean that as much for him as I do for you.

[no1knows]

I have a feeling it's actually middle school...

[ncsquirll99]

lol yea maybe so!

[gpitt]

yeah defiantly ask him, being a guy I can tell he defiantly remembers it and he's probably been thinking about it nonstop.

[Deb1234]

You really think so? Cause when I try to ask him on Friday a question about it but was to nervous to say it. He answered what to me as he was doing his calc homework. Also we really haven't talked. Like it makes me think that he forgot about it. Am I wrong?

[gpitt]

I've been in a similar situation so I can tell you its probably one of three things:

1: he's not interested, however if this were the case I don't see why he wouldn't just tell you unless he doesn't know how.

2: he doesn't want to seem eager, this means that he is interested but doesn't want to scare you away. If this is the case then he's probably just as nervous as you are.

3: he's playing hard to get, why he would do this is beyond me.

[stercor]

That letter needs a reply. You've waited too long for him.

If you want to know what he thinks, ask him. Guys are simple like that.

[Anonymous]

just the bullet and ask asap

[Anonymous]

paste it on his back

[Blackeyed]

A love letter?