You are not crazy at all. This is completely normal. Just read other questions guys post, they are just as scared as you are of rejection. There is nothing abnormal about it.
A lot of people fear rejection, so they decide to hide in their shell. In the process, they end up missing out on a bunch of great people. I think you need to find a way of coming out of your fear and just asking the guy you like out.
The worst that can happen is that he doesn't feel the same and says no. Yes it's scary, yes it hurts, but you won't know until you try.
What would happen if he secretly likes you too but is also too scared to ask, and so you both miss out! That would be a big shame and you two would be missing out.
If he doesn't like you and you ask him out and he says no, just move on. Realize that rejection happens to every one and it's nothing to get worked up about. There is probably a guy right now who likes you but is afraid of the same things you are :) So don't feel bad!
Just take baby steps. Start with kind of flirting with this guy you like. If he seems receptive, keep going. Work up the courage to ask him out for a coffee or something. Then maybe to a movie. Spend more and more time with him. If he doesn't say no, then there's a good chance he likes you.
I don't even believe in asking guys out. It is such a mistake. Honestly, if a guy likes you he will ask you out. Don't buy into the whole "shy guy" myth that makes it seem like a guy would be too shy to ask you out. Some guys can and do move at a slower pace than some girls would like. For a guy like that you need to exercise some patience or you risk overwhelming him with your interest and coming across pushy.
Beyond that, if a guy is not asking you out there is a good reason for it. Now, yes, you do need to be approachable. The idea that a girl can just look really pretty or sexy but unable to smile, make eye contact or talk to a guy she is interested in, well that won't work real well. You have to be an equal participant in holding a conversation and showing interest. But if you talk to him regularly, you smile at him and otherwise show a level of attention that is beyond polite conversation, AND he is interested, he will ask YOU out.
Oh, and 1. It is normal to be scared of rejection and 2. It will make things awkward if you ask him out and he is not interested, especially in your age range.
your not crazy at all..nobody wants to be rejected and :) but taking a chance is part of life and if you REALLY like the kid then it would be in your benefit to find out. IF not you'll end up kicking yourself in the butt with the what if's. (for example: what if asked him out? what if he said no? what if he said yes?) I mean if you guys have mutual friends you could use this to your advantage because you could ask that mutual friend to find out what he thinks about you and if he comes back with good news then go ahead and tell him how you feel.
go for it, you have nothing to loose. its better than always wondering what if? rejection is a part of life. and its going to hurt. but you must keep moving forward, otherwise you will never be a winner.
remember life is not about how many punches you give out, its about how many punches you can take, and your wiling to get back up and try and again.
what you could do is ask him out in a joking way, see how responds. if he says no, you can say it was a joke. so really you have lost out really anything. you have kept your ego in contact so to speak.
Welcome to our world. You're going to have to take that chance if you really like him.
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