Is it always a bad sign when a girl crosses her arms?

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I've read from numerous sources that when you're flirting with or dating someone and theory cross their arms and they are not cold, it usually means something is wrong. As in she doesn't like you or is bored or upset with you at worst.

How true is this?

rockingpianoman · Accepted Answer

the internet can say what it want , but you can't go 100 M by body language. they say the same thing for guys - crossing arms GENERALLY SPOKEN is an act of defence , so he (or she ) doesn't like you. okay that's what the body specialist would say.

but here's the deal . I can tell you that I cross my arms sometimes because I'm feeling awkward , or , because I'm cold , or I just don't know where to put em else ... ( kinda goes together with the awkwardness)

so , generally spoken , yes it's true , but you should see the whole picture (eyes , feet , facial expression , voice ) (and even then , not 100% certaincy)

she isn't totally comfortable when she does it I guess , could very well be because she's shy or not used to the situation/place.

Lostboy77 · Accepted Answer

Crossing ones arms is usually a safety thing protecting ones personal space . It is a sign of being closed, not comfortable, nervous, do not really feel like talking, you are sitting to close and so on

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YourBruise · Accepted Answer

When I'm around a guy I like I always seem to end up crossing my arms unless I'm really comfortable around him. Its probably only as I'm self concious. If she crosses her arms but the conversation is going well then you can take it as a sign that they're either nervous or shy :]

upood · Accepted Answer

Not always. Sometimes she's insecure or cold. If I feel my stomach looks big that day or I'm painfully nervous/shy I may do it out of fear subconsciously just like I may touch my hair or nose etc. And I'm always cold so I have to warm myself up.

LizTheWeirdKid · Accepted Answer

Ive heard that a lot too but I don't know if its true for me. I cross my arms all the time whether I'm sad, happy, or bored, mad, excited, shy, nervous, etc. It doesn't really mean much though.

When a guy does it, what does it mean?

bittersweet17 · Answer

I usually won't cross my arms for subconcious reasons. I actually avoid crossing my arms knowing that people can misinterpret it... but sometimes I do it anyway and that fact lingers in the back of my mind.

throwit · Answer

i know this is what body language is supposed to mean, but if I say something stupid or do something weird I notice I cross my arms, its not always the guys fault.

and sometimes its just a habit to cross your arms!

girl_1992 · Answer

Very true.  I cross my arms when I don't want any advances and/or if I feel uncomfortable.  Bad sign if on a date.

kmhco · Answer

Sometimes it might be, but for me my arms are default crossed and I have to make a serious effort to keep them uncrossed if I am trying to send the right impression.

aMuse · Answer

It's defensive body language. It could be that they are uncomfortable, do to you or their own anxieties. It's not necessarily that you messed up, they could just be shy.

99PROBLEMS · Answer

for me its not true. I used to have ahuge crush on this guy and whenever he talked to me, I crossed my arms. not because he was annoying, boring, etc... it was   because I was shy.

Hyrule · Answer

In general body language, crossed arms equals a defensive position. For both guys and girls.

Anonymous · Answer

I've herd it was a bad thing before so if I catch myself doing it I'll quickly stop to not make the other person uncomfortable as well

Anonymous · Answer

For me ill admit this is sometimes true haha

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