Do girls lie about having a boyfriend to test a guy??

[Anonymous]

I can understand a girl lying about having a boyfriend if they aren't interested in the guy that's talking to them, but this girl started talking to me and mentioned she has a boyfriend and I just found out she doesn't have one. What gives?

[TheDigitalSaint]

The "I have a boyfriend" line means one of a few things:

1. She does have a boyfriend and she's happy with him, thus, not interested in you.

2. She does have a boyfriend, and is not happy with him, and hoping that you might press the issue so she can dump the original guy.

3. She does NOT have a boyfriend, but wants to test your aggressiveness to see if you'll still continue, and if you do so in a funny manner, she'll fess up that she doesn't have one.

4. She does NOT have a boyfriend, and is not interested in a boyfriend, or at least not interested in you due to looks, the way you approached her, your height or any other number of reasons you may or may not be able to control.

If you get that line, try to determine which one of "IHAB" she is throwing at you.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No point in trying to determine it.

If she says it for reason 1, she's taken, so not worth trying to be with.
If she says it for any other reason, she's either insane, or doesn't like you, so still not worth trying to be with.

[Quigly]

Most girls want nothing to do with a guy that can't except no for an answer.
It's a huge red flag behavioral issue for them.

[Charlesbrandonf]

Not everyone does but there are enough number of people belong in this category

[Anonymous]

We lie about having boyfriends so they think that we are taken and will leave us alone.

[stillagoodgirl]

Did she recently break up with him?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

“Talking to you” what exactly does that mean? I talk to guys all the time (friendly talk not talk as interested in them) Maybe she lied about having a boyfriend so you wouldn’t mistake friendliness as something more than it was so she made it like she was unavailable for anything more than friendship because she had a boyfriend. Now if she was talking to you in av” I’m interested in you as more than a friend “ or a sexual way and then lies about having a boyfriend that makes no sense, unless she changed her mind and was no longer interested but then she should just say that instead of lying🤷‍♀️

the only time I’ve lied about having a boyfriend or still being married is when the guy don’t get you’re not interested, don’t want to accept no as the answer…Sometimes now if they ask if I’m married, I say yes from the get go because when would be honest and say widowed they automatically assume you’re lonely aka desperate or something….

Whatever “reason” she lied, I’d see that as not someone/something you should pursue

[Gibbons44]

It's one of those things that goes all wrong - from my perspective - whichever reason they say it for.

I have met more than one that 'has a boyfriend' but then got very receptive to me if I just ignored that and kept being interested. That would, for them, create instant sex appeal (probably showing me as alpha enough).

That being said, in my sane/soft/rational/calm personality (read: when I want no regrets) - any mention of a boyfriend is an instant and (I think, or, so far) irrevocable disqualifier. First - is it a boy-friend or already-consumated-marriage (piece of private life I cannot ask about unless she is entirely single)?

Second - whichever it is, why would I want to deal with it for her? If she is stuck dragging someone she doesn't like she should end that relationship, not me. If she likes him/wants to marry him - why is she flirting with me.

It is incredible how otherwise very cute and loveable girls can ruin their own chances by being/hanging out with a male or mentioning they might 'have a boyfriend'. Girls that I'd otherwise seriously invest myself in.

There was one that introduced herself properly - she said 'I have a brother and a sister'. It was - if you are looking to start a family, I've already given you the intro.

[Anonymous]

I’ve done this before.

It was with a guy I was INSANELY attracted to. INSANELY.
I don’t remember being this interested or attracted to any man in my life.

He had broke up with his girlfriend. So he was now single and he had been telling several people how single he is now.

On the day I worked with him. In a conversation about me smiling at my phone. He asks me if I have a boyfriend. Somehow.. in front of the other people in this conversation. So I look down towards my phone;

and I didn’t want to look like a lone lonely loser, virgin loser that I truly was at the time.

So I lie, and I say; YES?

As if he was meant to know. Mainly I also lied about it because he and some of the people there were friends with a guy who was sexually harrassing me and trying to grab my hand. So I also had told the pervert; I HAVE A boyfriend. Because I want him to stand down. So it would be weird if I told pervert that; YES I HAVE A MAN. While I told Brad Pitt; NO IM SINGLE.

Then the pervert could have gone after me all over again and this time with anger.

_____________________________

So it could be a lot of things. Are you sexually attractive? Are you appealing? Are you highly attractive? Do you notice that women are all over you? Cause if you’re very attractive and handsome and look like Hero. It’s weird for a woman to turn you down. Otherwise, she really DID just turn you down. She’s not interested. And lastly, she does in fact have a boyfriend, but she doesn’t want him anymore, and she’s now interested in someone else. So she lies.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I forgot to add;
That yes, I did also do it to test the guy.
The guy I was attracted to.
To see his reaction.

He looked down, he got red. And he said
“THATS GOOD THATS GOOD”.

Then he followed that up with.
“DID YOU KNOW I SUCK AT RELATIONSHIPS?”

[magiusX26]

and this ladies is one factor into ruining a good man. lets say the guy passes this "test" (mind games) and you enter into a relationship, well now you just started a telationship based on a lie. the truth will eventually come out and likely wind up with you (the "tester") dumped, often then blaming the guy, likely thinking something along the lines of "if only i had not accepted his answer to that "test" all that time ago as a passing" when in reality if you had just been honest and NOT played nind games ("test") to begin with i can understand a degree of the logic of not letting the guy you were not interested in hear a different answer.

[Opinion Owner]

@magiusX26
This makes no sense at all. You read nothing I had to say. I had to lie so that the old pervert would t follow me around. He was friends with the pervert.
And this guy wasn’t even a “GOOD MAN”
He was a cheater and cheated on all his exes.
Whatever test I put him on, he deserved it

[lightbulb27]

It's a way of sending you away without creating a confrontation, since "no" means you could challenge that, but she doesn't think you will challenge "boyfriend". You should be able to tell if she is lying. If you respond well, you can get past the BS and then she wants to date you, otherwise, your relationally dead there.

There's no way to know why she is lying until you get to know her.

Some confident women will just say "no".

You can discern some of this from the Bible Genesis 2 and 3... it's a story, analogy, but paints the picture.

In other words, don't just believe what people say... they will lie... straight to your face. What matters is how you hand it.

Also be warned, some women that have boyfriend or husbands will cheat. Even more hazardous.

Re-check that Bible... some dudes figured this stuff out long ago...:)

Choose wisely...

[SolitarySolace]

Wouldn’t surprise me. Girls have so many options it’s ridiculous and they don’t understand that men cave tend to cave to them because of their bodies yet they dismiss this and flaunt said bodies on the internet without a care in the world while crying my body my choice 😂

[melanieeeB]

To test a guy? Nope

To get away from a guy and him leaving you alone? Yes

[Nikki1989]

It sounds nicer than sorry, not interested in you.

[Pacquet]

I feel like if she’s telling you she has a boyfriend that’s a bad sign and I’d eject from the situation.

[KrakenAttackin]

Who knows. He is probably Chad Thundercock Fuck Buddy who she wants as a boyfriend but he only wants to use her as a cock holster.

[Anonymous]

No, they lie to brush off your advances.

[Asker]

she advanced on me.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe a preemptive strike, maybe changed her mind, maybe just a kook, who knows. I wouldn't follow that.

[Quigly]

Sounds like she is mental. Stay away, Stay far away, you've been warned.

[Anonymous]

She's a manipulative bitch

[es20490446e]

Whatever it is, I would not be interested.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Because they're assholes.

[NewClassic]

I don't know what her deal was either

[Agape93]

Nope

[Anonymous]

I've never

[Anonymous]

Mostly yes