How can you tell if someone you are dating has no morals or conscience?

[Anonymous]

there was this guy I used to date (not anymore, we don't talk anymore) and I got this really bad feeling from him. not just that he is a typical jerk, but something worse. I got this impression from him that he has no conscience or morals. that instead of a heart he has a black hole. that he is morally bankrupt and would do ANYTHING to get his way, even if it means hurting something or someone else.

he was a pathological liar. lie after lie after lie and if you confronted him he would just deny it. he hid tons of things and I just never felt like I could trust him. even when he was being nice it felt fake and it usually was an act.

no one ever set me off like this before but I got this panic in my gut like this guy cannot be trusted and he has potential for a lot including violence or verbal abuse. he could get very mean, he never was violent but I sometimes worried he had the potential to be.

i never got the uneasy feeling from anybody else in my life that he gave me, ever.

do you think my instinct is right, that this guy is morally bankrupt and lacking in conscience? he lied so much that some parts about him were a total mystery or total blatant lie. he lied about where he lived at first, even. and some things he would just refuse to discuss.

[Confucius16]

Perhaps he is a psychopath. Everybody has morals, to some extent, except for psychopaths, who are incapable of feeling remorse. If he is indeed one, then that is cause for worry.

Everybody has morals to some extent, but some people have a lot more than others. Find someoen who believes firmly in morals and virtue, and you are set. People with strong values of morality are more likely to be respectful and considerate.

[Racez]

Not really.

He's just insecure about himself, and doesn't easily trust other people that's why he lies a lot.

[Asker]

he lied about SO many things. he has spoken about violence how he would kill an animal because he doesn't like it...etc..

[t-real]

When he's about to leave a room, sneak up behind the door and try to startle him. Make sure to do it skillfully, if he doesn't react, like he stays absolutely still then he's a psychopath, if he gets startled then he's probably not. That's like the only way to determine if someone's a psychopath, they don't get startled. If that's not it, then he probably just invents his own morality so he can do whatever he wants.

[t-real]

"If that's not it, then he probably just invents his own morality so he can whatever he wants." Is also a sociopathic tendency, but differs from psychopathy in the sense that it is developed and not a mental defect.

[Anonymous]

Difficult to say, hearing only one side's story about what happened.

If your perception is 100% true and 100% right there are certainly reasons to distrust him.

[Anonymous]

I dated a sociopath once and my girlfriend now is close to one. The more I know about her the less I like