Are ugly women doomed to be alone forever?

Question

An ugly man can make himself more attractive to women by working on his wealth, status, and personality, since women do not place such a high value on a man's looks as men do for women. However, a woman can't make herself more attractive unless she improves her looks. Even if an ugly woman had a good personality, a man wouldn't approach an ugly woman because she does not capture his interest, and her personality will never be known. Are ugly women doomed be alone forever?

VoiceOfReason · Accepted Answer

Women who appear physically less appealing to men to the point where men don't approach her aren't necessarily "doomed." It just means she has to become more involved. For one, her personality may be great, which if that's the case, then she may need to utilize that strength.

She may not be afforded the luxury of waiting to be approached. She may have to become proactive and start doing the approaching. Engaging a guy in casual conversation I the first step to showcase her personality traits, things not visually seen.

She can also work on her wardrobe and dress more appealing. That doesn't mean showing more skin and dressing like a prostitute. Wearing nice casual clothing can work as well and will give off a respectful vibe.

Perhaps she can also change her make-up regimen. Maybe one reason she doesn't appeal to guys is because of the way she wears her make up. Change up her looks, perhaps color or change her hair style.

The type of guys she approaches could also be a factor. Some guys clearly rate physical appearance with a level of importance that they won't compromise on. These guys are the guys she really needs to avoid, being given circumstances. She may need to seek out guys who do place more emphasis on personality and try and find a niche where she can fit in with their personality so she can get a better chance of acceptance.

Of course, this may mean more rejections, since she can't tell a guys personality just by looking at him, but she may have to develop a thick skin and endure it, but be persistent and confident about eventually finding an ideal guy. Eventually her confidence should pay off. She may not enjoy the same rate of success as her more attractive friends, but in the end, it will be more about her and her guy anyway, so she shouldn't view herself as competing, but instead, she should be just consider it looking to fill a void in her life.

Abhijit3101 · Accepted Answer

You are under 18 - a teen age. This is very soft period in your life. At this age no girl can be ugly - there many be many butterflies in your heart and you must be having perfect bodu figure just now or within short period of time. If you will start loving some activity and some person, you will turn out much more beautiful than you might be thinking for your self. Its tough at your age because most girls your age still have capacity of being beautiful because of hormonal changes and strong emotions. Look around you, most people are not attractive or looking like hero. Below average looking is not ugly side.  Real beauty is your thoughts and inner qualities. And for every girl there is a guy and for every guy there is a girl - you will get somebody for you when it is your time. I know several girls who are beautiful but worst than ugly by their social behavior they are horrible, and they have boyfriends who are crazy about them. Love something and love somebody is the way to be beautiful if you are suffering from some complex.

britannny · Accepted Answer

HA! No. Look around you. Most people aren't attractive. The average looking person is a little on the ugly side. And for every girl that's a little bit ugly, there's a guy that's a little bit ugly. So it's not really hard to find an ugly guy to get in a relationship with. I can think of like 5 different examples just off the top of my head of very unfortunate looking girls I know who have boyfriends. It happens all the time. I know several girls who not only are dog ugly, they're actually HORRIBLE people also. And they have boyfriends who are crazy about them.

No matter how ugly you are or how sh*tty your personality is, there's someone worse than you who's in a happy relationship. People fall in love with people far less deserving of love than you are. (not insinuating ugly people aren't deserving of love, I'm talking more about bad people when I say that)

udolipixie · Accepted Answer

Are ugly women doomed to be alone forever?

Not necessarily as I've known plenty of ugly gals in relationships not happy ones or even content ones however they had relationships.

In my opinion if a gal is ugly it's suited for her to work on her body and get plastic surgery for her face then get a less attractive partner as studies show that how well a guy treats his partner depends on how good she looks (gals who were less/equally attractive to their partners got treated 'worse' than gals who were more attractive than their partners)*

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lauramor · Accepted Answer

No, they just need to try to approach guys instead of waiting to be approached

Anonymous · Answer

You're right that a truly ugly woman will not be approached. But that doesn't mean she's doomed.

As VoiceOfReason says, it just means she can't afford to be as passive as an average or good-looking girl.

The fact is, many average and pretty girls don't get what they want because they refuse to do the approaching.

If you're ugly, you might get an average guy if you put your mind to it. Most guys don't have strong self-worth when it comes to their own looks. It's not impossible that an ugly girl could get a hot guy who doesn't know he's hot.

kheserthorpe · Answer

In my experience, butterfaces with good personalities do pretty well in their 20's.

Its tough at your age because most girls your age still have pretty good bodies. But give it 5-10 years and the majority will be fat. A naturally not so pretty woman with a good body and hair and style and a great personality is going to be more attractive then the average woman her age at that point.

ryanontario · Answer

well doomed if she doesn't do anything to fix the problem , even an overweigh women can still get a nice haircut or some new clothes to improve her image if that's the problem and its not like there isn't enough gym's out there if she wants to start working out . but there is a lot of guys out there who would date anyone if you've ever seen the types of guys on dating sites that I think with a bit of work she could still get some dates if she tried

abzence · Answer

You are describing a myth. Men don't ONLY go for the outside. Sure, if that guy want that girl for only one night and nothing more. If a guy want to have a long term relationship he wants to have both the outside and inside. The outside is generally more important to men but that doesn't mean the inside is irrelevant.

A girl with a great personality will be more attractive then if she looked the same but had a horrible personality.

exitseven · Answer

I do not think ugly is a proper term to describe anyone. A girl not endowed with beauty can still be presentable and can have a nice personality and talents that will make her desirable to men. I have dated women that were not considered beautiful. They had other qualities that made them attractive,

Anonymous · Answer

believe it or not but I have friends whose girlfriend (or wife even) are waaaaay below their league. I mean, the guys aren't exactly handsome either but I sure as hell think they can do better. So yeah, it IS possible although you'd probably have to settle for the not-so-good-looking guys

Belgie · Answer

No, ugly women are not doomed. Unless they doom themselves.

All an ugly woman has to do is lower her standards, and take steps to improve her situation.

But not all women are willing to do that, even the ugly ones.

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

Rule #1.  Any woman can get laid any time she wants.

jmurk · Answer

Women will never be alone unless they choose to  but it will never be by fate. Its a stupid unwritten rule that guys have to make all first moves    start everything etc.

MikeK · Answer

Well, lucky for the ugly woman - men are MUCH more willing to settle than women are... So no - ugly women ARE NOT doomed to be alone forever.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol no. Ugly women can still get laid/relationships/married.

dwiller943 · Answer

Nope.

Anonymous · Answer

No she can date ugly guys

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