I don't believe my boyfriend's compliments..

[Sammacdude]

I absolutely hate it when my boyfriend compliments me. I don't believe him when he says I'm beautiful or gorgeous. I can't just say thank you to them either... He's starting to get annoyed which makes me feel like he's saying them not because he means them, but because he thinks that's what I want to hear. He has told me before that with all his previous girlfriends, he's just told them a bunch of lies to make them happy. I am a very insecure person and have very low self esteem... I was just wondering whether I should just accept them to make him happy.

[Anonymous]

Your guy gets frustrated because he sees you as beautiful, and he probably gets mad cause you might as well call him a liar. It would anger and annoy me too. I'm a woman, and I don't give compliments because it's socially expected. I give them because I mean them. And it's annoying when people suggest, either through body language or words, that I'm a liar. Your opinion of yourself is not mirrored in other people's eyes. Your opinion of yourself is the most important opinion. And if you don't see it yourself, you will never believe it from someone else. We all have strengths and weaknesses. Don't be blind to either, and build on your strengths and work on your weaknesses. Self esteem comes from knowing both and accepting them. Just because you don't believe yourself that you are attractive or attractive enough, don't condemn others to your low self esteem, say thank you. I'm sure you have met ladies who know how to take a compliment, parrot their response and you will become a pro at taking compliments. When you do this, over time you will start to believe it too. Worked for me. But remember it takes time. Don't give up on yourself.

[irishelen]

You can start working with yourself. You need to start building up your confidence and accept the person you are. By really accepting the compliments and trying to see it from his perspective can make you feel better about the person you are. He is doing what ever guy that cares about a girl does. He is showering you in compliments because he thinks you are beautiful and wants you to believe it. He will not stop until you see it for your self. Start working on your self-image and self-esteem. When you can start by accepting his compliments and continue. After getting you self-esteem back you will adore everything that comes out his mouth about you.

If he says it and lies about it. You should tell him straight up that you will not accept the compliments if he doesn't mean it. Just be straight up to him. If he says something like: "You are beautiful" and you feel like he is just lying to make you smile a little. You need to question him and ask him if he is being "real" if he says yes than take that compliment and run with it. I am sure you are beautiful. Don't worry just work to become confident in your skin.

[LiquoriceKiss]

He loves you and to him you are the most beautiful women on earth, he couldn't care less about his ex's when he's with you. You are an attractive girl from your picture and you have no reason to have low self esteem. I know it's hard, but you need to do something to build your confidence up so you can accept compliments like this. Your boyfriend might get frustrated but this is something you need to do. If you don't believe him try to see what he sees and stop focusing on the negatives. Don't lie and accept them to make him happy if you're not truly accepting them. Try and explain why you can't, get him to help you build your confidence. If nothing works do something so out of your comfort zone surrounded by people who adore and love you. You'll soon see yourself for the amazing person you are. Lol my thing to build my confidence was karate. When you're in a room full of 6 foot guys all screaming at you before they attack you, you quickly build your confidence XDD It's different for everyone though but just try to work through this and you'll be fine :)

[qwer1234]

That's exactly what I said. How come your answer was selected as the best answer and not mine?

[Anonymous]

If I had a girlfriend like that I would get frustrated as well. I wouldn't be saying those things because that is what I think she wants to hear, but because that is what I believe and I would be frustrated that the woman I really like or love (depending on how long we've been in a relationship) doesn't see what I see.

I can be this way too, so I sort of understand. When I used to get compliments from a friend on how I'm looking good, I would think "no I'm not". But later on when she would compliment me I would think instead, "oh, she's such a great friend for giving me a compliment" or on the rare occasion "I do kind of look good". My take away from that is to try to think optimistically and be thankful for compliments, even if you don't believe them at the time.

[qwer1234]

If I were you I wouldn't believe him either. He's probably betraying you with another girl and every time he compliments you he just had $€x with her. And complimenting you is his way of solace his guilt.

At least that's what I always did to my ugly girlfriend.

[Sammacdude]

yeah.. I know that he's not cheating on me.. he's not that much of a d***

[Anonymous]

Have you heard of the 5 love languages? Basically, there are 5 ways in which people show their love/feel they are being loved. Google it! There are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. So it's possible that his primary love language is words of affirmation, and that is why he is constantly giving you compliments - that is how he shows he loves you. Your primary love language might be something else. Lots of relationships have trouble because the people in them express and receive love differently.

[jesuisinclassable]

In a way you're being selfish. If you truly care about him, you would say thank you because you know it would make HIM feel better. Quit thinking so much. You're his girlfriend so he obviously finds you attractive. My boyfriend rarely compliments me and I wish he did.

[xzinax2]

you're a teenager,that's how you're meant to be-insecure. hopefully,you'll grow out of it. a lot of women don't. but stop annoying your boyfriend for no reason-if you can't believe it,just fake a thank you and be done with it.

[qwer1234]

I'll tell you what you want others to parrot you: "Oh, dear, you are truly beautiful. You only have self esteem issues. But you don't have to, I mean look at you... blablahblah."

Now select this answer as the best answer.

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way when girls compliment my looks. As you said, it's a self-esteem issue.

[Anonymous]

well just try and appreciate them if he say them he means them becasue he likes you.

[Anonymous]

you should just tyr to not over think them,

[Anonymous]

just try to accep them