I'm in this same boat right now...
In fact, when going out in a group all of his friends will be loud complimenting me (in excess actually) and he will just sit there... Which is probably why his friends do it in the first place. This was before we started dating and it hasn't changed much... He complimented me once out of the blue about how smart I'm and he was red like a beet...
Maybe he's just shy or maybe he thinks that since everyone else is already complementing you, that it's a given and he doesn't need to overdo it? Because most guys don't even consider dating a girl they aren't attracted to physically.
And usually most girls wouldn't consider dating a guy who doesn't compliment them =(
I hope things got better between you two.
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The only way he'll change that particular behaviour, is if you let him know that you NEED the occasional compliment. That he must be spontaneous about them. Not constantly, as you said. But that they should come about with some frequency.
And when I say let him know, I don't mean some "subtle hint". I mean that you need to tell him. With words. In plain English. No hints. No clues. No subtleties.
Complimenting your partner is often subject to learned behaviour. If he never saw his father compliment his mother on a regular basis, for example, it simply wouldn't ever occur to him that he should compliment you as a matter of course.
It doesn't necessarily mean anything about the relationship.
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