Guys, what is a big turn off for you in girls?

Question

Anything from physical appearance to the way they act?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would say one of the biggest turnoffs for men is single women's demand "lists"... Yes it's obviously good from both men and women to have some requirements and standards but what men hate and makes them irate is single women that have these huge enormous check lists that literally go on and on and on and on and she is so effin adamant about her stupid "list", she refuses any guy cause she has literally 100's of pages of "requirements" and looking for that "Mr. Perfect".

Ugh men just want to go up to her and put some sense into her that there is no "Mr. Perfect", he's not going to instantly fall out of the big blue sky onto her lap, there is no effin such thing as the "white horse" and she definitely needs to quit balking at "Mr. Good enough". Cause you know what women Mr. Good enough is your "Mr. Perfect". Also another huge turnoff is when single women clammer together and start there bi*ch session about men and how he wasn't oh "tall enough", he wasn't that, he wasn't this, he did this, he did that. Then she starts her crying and is like oh boo hoo I want extremely tall I DEMAND he be at the absolute minimum 6' tall even though she's all of 5' up to like 5'4", 5'5" . The "DEMANDS" are usually an instant turnoff when she has that aura about her that radiates he must have this huge complete stupid a** list of things!

Another huge turnoff for men is when single women do the snooty nose up in the air, stomp around like a two year old, and do the exasperated ugh sound. Single women that do the exasperated ugh sound makes men cringe and we want to run from her... Another HUGE turnoff is when women THINK or want to THINK they can tell that either he's the one or he's boyfriend material in like the first TWO, THREE TO LIKE FIVE minutes of the first date... Yeah there are obviously occasions when you (both men and women) initially just don't get that "vibe" and know it's not going to work... Women have that kind of attitude men simply throw their arms up in the air and are like s*rew her cause she's expecting this "magical, firework flawless first date" and on top of that she wan't him to have this flawless absolutely perfect conversation without being any kind of NERVOUS! When women have that kind of attitude it immediately makes men ULTRA ULTRA nervous, and instead of him being relaxed he's going to be so unbelievably uptight cause he's immediately thinking if I say anything wrong, if I have any kind of pause in the conversation if I hint that I'm even a bit nervous is she just going to up and stomp her feet, start throwing her fit/temper tantrum, go to the bathroom to call her "friends" and start the bi*ch session about how he wasn't immediately great, and oh effin excuse us we were NERVOUS! That's so much pressure, way too much pressure that it will immediately chase off men. Dating takes TIME... Time as in MORE than one date to get to know each other and hang with each other!

bobair · Accepted Answer

I get turned off is she's more masculine than me... I'm not interested in arm wrestling her every time she feels she needs to prove how tough she is. She can wrestle the next guy while I meet a more feminine woman!

I get turned off when she's criticizing me. She might be right, but she'll be right AND single.

I get turned off when she drags her teeth. No explanation needed.

I get turned off is she smells bad (breath, arm pits, too much perfume, etc) How she smells is a huge indicator as to how clean she is. Too much perfume tells me she's over compensating for some hidden stink.

I get turned off when a girl is so insecure that I have to hand hold her through every life situation. I'm not looking to daddy her, so if she's not independent I move on.

I get turned off is she wears too much makeup. This is another expression of insecurities or at the very least a lack of social calibration.

I get turned off is she lacks sexual curiosity, or harbors deep religious sexual self hatred. It's unfortunate but I'd rather be with someone who's made their sexual boundaries based on love - not on the rules their church taught them when they were 7 years old. If she can't challenge her old beliefs then she's just a robot - a clone of her parents.

I get turned off is she's easy and is desperate for my attention. This tells me that the next guy will gain her affection just as easily as I did. This implies she has low value, and not for me.

I get turned off is she's jaded and hard. Being guarded is fine, because it makes my job of seduction that much more fun... but if she's actually jaded and angry... well those are issues her next boyfriend and worry about.

I get turned off is she's selfish and acting entitled. I find most women to have levels of beauty I can admire, but I refuse to place a girl on a pedestal while trying to kiss her. I'd rather be with someone who's modest and grounded. If she's conceited then she can be conceited alone. I blame other men for helping some beautiful feel isolated in this way.

If get turned off is she smokes, drinks, or dabbles in drugs. These are continued expressions of self-destruction and lack of maturity. Gross.

I hope this helps ;)

~ Robby

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Nikkii98 · Accepted Answer

I'm not a guy (obviously), but my boyfriend has told me many times that if I were to get any tattoo's or piercing he would find me unattractive. This is mostly because of the way he grew up though, in a conservative household so I can understand that.

He also gets really annoyed by girls who insist on being all over him even though they KNOW he has a girlfriend and he's fought them off.

Anyway, just thought I would add that.

sweetnsassy23 · Accepted Answer

From a girls point of view I hate it when (other) girls act like their all that and look down on other women and are gold diggers.Thats just one thing I can't stand that women do especially when most of them aren't that great looking...its like lower your standards woman!Youre not the greatest woman on the planet either!My advice to men is if you see a woman like this start running!

Reeses-pieces777 · Accepted Answer

physically I think guys prefer a girl who takes care of herself, nice hair, appropriate makeup and clothes that suit her or accentuate her positive assets.

metaldave20 · Answer

its hard to decide what a turn off is in a girl, because what you're looking for is biased, so like for example I could say I'm looking for a red haired green eyed beauty, yet am I supposed to say blondes brunettes, and any other eye color or body, a turn off. no because its just something I prefer over the others, but sure id go for all types of hair color and eye color, that's besides the point though

my turn offs are basically anything I wouldn't do myself. if I can't relate to her, I can't hold a convo with her, if I don't smoke and you do, we'll always be fighting about it or what not.

one thing I cannot stand about a woman is when she lies. I'm probably a hypocrit for saying that, because I'm known to tell little white lies, more to help people then to hurt them, but when you're lying to hurt me, or someone else, that's just an automatic dealbreaker and a definitie turn off.

self centered and egotistical girls are a big turn off for me. its ok to be confident but when you're acting as if the world revolves around u, then I'm not ur man.

girls who aren't down to earth, is another turn off for me. talking to a girl that's not down to earth, is like talking to a wall. in fact, I think at that point it'd be better to talk to a wall. haha

theres more, but I'm on a rant now, I think you get the basic point though. that turns offs are different from preferances.

giantmothlbr · Answer

physically, unkempt appearance is a big turn off, especially hands, feet, and untrimmed pubic area.

my biggest fear in relationships is that I might let her down or steer her wrong somehow. when girls expect you as a man to be a mind-reader, it can be very frustrating. my last girlfriend was constantly testing me, so much so that I felt like I was dealing with an irate customer who wasn't going to be satisfied with anything I could offer. for instance: it's kind of a long story, but for certain reasons she didn't want me to cut the grass at her house, even though I offered numerous times. then later when something unrelated went wrong she would insist that I didn't care about her because I never cut the grass. this is just one small example of the "180 degree philosophy" that I eventually adopted to deal with the relationship. in other words, whatever she told me to do, I did the exact opposite, 180 degrees in the other direction. this, however, also backfired a couple times. after awhile I was convinced that I couldn't do anything right, that she would never be satisfied with me. she also insisted that just being with me made her happy, but so often she made me feel as though I let her down. when I tried to bring up how I felt she would never admit that any fault was hers. it was ALWAYS my fault. her anger and hostility over these failures of mine to be clairvoyant eventually led to me breaking up with her. not surprisingly, she was dumbfounded.

just be more direct, ladies. say what you mean, and mean what you say. stop testing us so much. I promise no matter how badly you want it to be true, MEN CANNOT READ YOUR MINDS! also, even if you're right, it DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE WITHOUT FAULT. learn to recognize and admit your faults every once in awhile, and I promise you won't fight as much with your man.

Anonymous · Answer

Rotten attitudes.

Insincerity...in their body language, in their opinions, in every thing.

There are two types of guys I am aware of in the world. Those who's mission is to have sex with everything that's technically female and those who are looking to enrich their lives by getting to know a woman on a level where you don't just make love to her, but to her soul, to get to that point where when she looks at you you see nothing but adoration and trust. To know that in a crowded chaotic location, a busy room at a party for instance, she will turn, see you, and suddenly only the two of you will be there, and she only has eyes for you, everything is fine now because your here and she doesn't need any other man, because she is strong enough to just be happy with the love and respect of one.

So if a chick is being insincere with me it grinds my gears. :)

top_cat · Answer

First off, no lying or smoking.

Personally, a girl that looks too pristine prevents herself from being approachable. A girl who doesn't need makeup, silky hair, and fancy epithets of clothing to enhance her looks is a girl that a lot of guys would want to get to know. Simply wearing an A shirt and sweats is enough for a guy to notice you - because that's when I believe a girl is looking her best: when she's not trying. So don't try too hard to look good because trust me, you girls have already got it.

JustDance · Answer

Turn offs:

dependant, needy, insecure, poor mentality on life/social values, rudeness, dishonest, cold(to people/animals), no passion in life, no determination, no courtesy, high maintenance...

as for the physical aspects, turnoffs would be yellow teeth, poor hygiene pretty much, doesn't take care of her hair, skin... this may seem shallow but hey, we all got preferences, I don't like a girl (physically) if she has a huge bootay, huge boobays, fat (I know but I'm not exactly a big girl type myself) someone who isn't fit or at least average bodybuild... I can't exactly be with a girl who is 50 pounds over me. -_- annnnnnd lastly, hair where there shouldnt be and not so pretty eyes or smile (thats a big one for me.. eyes and smile makes me go crazy) also, poor taste in music :)

1FastFC · Answer

***BEHAVIOR***

too much make-up

arrogance

curse way too much

take too long to get ready

eat a crumb of bread and say theyre full

they flirt with the whole world

clingy

***PHYSICAL***

fat

out of shape

fat

fat

i just can't be with a girl that doesn't care about her body, so I prefer sporty girls

2toybike · Answer

Hands down the most unattractive quality in a woman for me is a girl with the princess complex. Nothing is more gross than a girl who thinks that because she is attractive can do anything (or anyone) that she wants. So many girls are attractive but the special ones to me are modest about it and won`t sleep around with people to make herself feel better about being a crappy person. I don`t care for girls who act like gang banggers either and threaten to beat people up. Like you for example just by looking at you I think that you are beautiful , but if you were also understanding,  funny , and willing to be single rather than hook up with somone you don`t care for... Then you would be Fine as hell in my eyes. Basically personality is where it`s at.

amstel · Answer

When a girl thinks it is her body that is most important, a girl that wears provocative dress(es), talks too much, does not think, does not read, lazy, not serious, flirty, trying to catch my attention with her body, uncaring, disrespectful, lacks vision, lazy, though I may not date a girl with much make-up or any additional beautifier like jewellery or tattoo, but excessive make-up is a real p*ss-off, impolite, rude, lacks self-control and not self-disciplined, a tigress and miss wild is not good, not thoughtful. This makes me dislike a girl.

RED-LIGHT · Answer

The main physical turn-off to me is when a girl stinks. If you play sports, you were just exercising, you need vagisil, just walked your dog, OR WHATEVER IT MAY BE, smelly is a no-no, & I'm only emphasizing that because I've been around a hot chick that didn't smell too well before & her looks were damn near irrelevant, so that's definitely a turn-off.

As far as personality, its a huge turn-off when a girl doesn't have very much common sense & just can't get a clue about simple things.

joshnumber21 · Answer

a few:

*girls who are always saying they are young and just want to "party" (which apparently means sleep with every guy they meet)

*girls who are always on the cellphone

*girls who have NO girl friends and ALL guy friends

*tattoos are GROSS on a girl

*smoking

***most of all is being stuck-up. I absolutely HATE girls that are stuck on themselves and really think that they are so much better than everyone around them.

Adam0889 · Answer

i can't stand it when a girl is CONSTANTLY moody... I mean, during Aunt Flow's monthly visit, sure I can understand that, but I'm talking about like moody on a daily basis... and I apologize in advance, but fat or  rather, "chunky" girls... this is just me... I mean, I personally have tried, and just can't get into them, and I really have nothing against them, I'm just not attracted to a girl who is up there in weight. now to me, they usually make good friends, but yeah, otherwise it's a turn off.  umm.. girls who flirt with other guys constantly, like when you are trying to get to know her and she flirts with the waiter or you are hanging out with her and she flirts with your or her guy friends... lying and when they don't appriciate what you do for them, oh and when they have a full on chewbacca down below. haha. that's just not my thing... gotta shave or AT LEAST trim down there ladies...

Incognidude · Answer

For me its a combination of both;

If they act too conceited, that's an extreme turn off for me.

Another thing is if they degrade them self, not like by saying bad things about themselves when they aren't, everyone will do that when they're feeling down. I'm referring to when girls will act a certain way instead of them self, like when an obviously intelligent girl will dumb them self down because they think others will like them better for it.

The last thing is physical, and I feel like a jerk for saying it, but its just how I react to things. Its the weight thing, I'm not saying pounds on a scale, I mean more along the lines of chubbiness..., I don't know, its just that I'm not attracted to those girls.

Well, that's about the lot of it for me.

vspectra · Answer

List form seems to work best

Physical Appearance

1) Wearing clothes that don't compliment the body, too loose or too tight, goes both ways

2) Personal Hygiene is a must (some girls don't take the necessary steps)

3) Don't Smoke (it wasn't cool in high school, its not cool now)

Actions

1) Unable to cut herself off from drinking

2) If you're interested in me, Don't hang all over other guys at the party

3) Loudness is ok in the right place at the right time... Use volume wisely

4) Bluntness and sarcasm (overly used its ok occasionally)

5) Clinging (nobody ever liked those hitchhikers that stuck to your socks after walking through the fields, never have never will)

6) White lies, they suck don't do it

7) Over caring about your appearance, if your hot, you will be hot in a burlap potato sack too! wear whatever, if we don't have time for you to choose.

---Im sure there are more these are just some that come to mind----

BlueGender · Answer

I don't like girls who seem one-dimensional. What I mean by that is girls who always act a certain way and refuse to explore or sometimes even acknowledge things that don't relate to whatever social face they have created or are clinging to.

As for physical, I'm not attracted to short girls which is unfortunate because I'm about average height and it seems girls only want to date guys taller than them so guess who I usually end up with lol I want someone I can look in the eyes, not down at and kiss without getting her a step ladder

MadHatterni · Answer

On - when they can keep up

off - when they are gold diggers

On- they care and have time to spare

off- sex once a month

On- toned in shape body

off- someone that lets them selves go

On- someone who thinks outside the box

Off- a female who just does the basics

On- When a girl makes sounds

Off- when a girl fails with sounds due to she doesn't have the ability, she just lays there and wants you to do everything

On- innocent

Off- slutty

On- kinky

off- closed minded to new things like adding food to hand cuffs

SeaCadet · Answer

I don't like fat girls that dress like they are thin. It puts me off my food

I don't like girls who think they are so above everyone else when they really aren't

I don't like it when girls won't stop chasing me (this girl kept bothering me wanting to talk to me when I was having a conversation, or in front of everyone asking me to sit with her) and this other girl kept calling me and I didn't even know how she got my phone-number. (I didn't like any of them)

I don't like smokers

Track4roy · Answer

anything negative... Random, calling too much... alll guys are different... I wouldn't worry about the negatives... Be positive... know what you want... tell him your goals what your good at...talents for example...be funny... it's hard to find a girl that is funny it has to be 50/50 for both parties... See I'm like one of an example of how I answered this...remember everyguy is diff... how parents raised them people around them... rolemodels...if you have more question feel free to ask...

rickjames155 · Answer

It turns me off when a woman lacks common sense and sophistication.  and above all else, I hate women  who act like they don't know what they want as far as relationships.

Verbal · Answer

The biggest turn offs for me are liars and drama. Nothing turns me off more then a girl with an agenda.

A woman mind turns me on, her dreams, ideas, wants, needs, thoughts, een of simple things. I mean sure the body is fine as well but I am not that shallow when it comes to that. She needs to be strong, motivated, with drive of any kind. Creative...the list goes on and on I suppose. But really when a woman is just herself without any added b/s.

NotSoBad · Answer

narrow-mindedness.  it is the ultimate turnoff.  I think many people become narrow-minded as a result of insecurity.  Narrow-mindedness is like a defense mechanism.

confused4now · Answer

Appearance is... well, can't we all think of someone we would never be with?  Besides that... girls who are angry, picky, self centered, gold diggers, nagging, stuck up, man haters, ball busters, etc.  All I'm looking for is fun, easy going, spontaneous and supportive.  The first kind of girl destroys a man... the second kind makes him better.  Unhappily ever after is not for me... but that's just my opinion.

bpg2011 · Answer

my number one turn off is being a bitch. never act as if your better than some one else, guys hate this.

another is lack of common sense. you can't fix stupid as comedian ron white says.

dont get mad. I think anger is a wasteful emotion and doesn't solve anything just tell people what you think

clevername · Answer

Girls who do things just to fit in. Stupid girls. Girls who do things for attention. Girls who talk about people behind their back. Girls who don't care about anyone but themselves. Manipulative girls. Loud Girls. Girls who judge others too much. Girls who expect everyone to go out of their way to do things for them. One who expect you to pay for everything without you offering first. Girls who think they are smarter than everyone else. I could go on...

Snorkledorf · Answer

Smokes.

Lies / hides the truth. (this includes faking orgasms; if you keep reading me the map wrong, we'll just keep winding up at the wrong destination...)

Tattoos & piercings. (I've seen a handful of pretty tats, but truckloads of generic ones)

Plays games / attracts drama.

I suppose all the above could arguably fall under "lacks common sense," so let's go with that as my biggest turnoff.

here4you · Answer

smokes

doesnt know where she's going in life

cant hold a decent convo

unconfident

un-genuine

thinks a a fun night is getting so drunk that you don't remember what you did the night before

and her track record

tanning

fake boobs

too many tatooos

too many piercings

those are the biggest turn off

esp smoking

Anonymous · Answer

I hate when girls are insulted and they just accept it. Fight for yourself. Don't Let anyone insult you and walk away.

Confused614 · Answer

Ha I don't think you have to worry about about the physical appearance. Damn!

Smoking would be my biggest turn-off as well. When I have dated girls who smoke as long as they are considerate and don't smoke around me I'm fine.

fdsa1 · Answer

Smoking (I personally smoke a handful times a year), too much makeup, interrupting attention whores, wears clothing that is way too revealing, women who are unable to know when they've had enough to drink.

angel713 · Answer

I don't like girls who want all the attention.

I don't like girls who talk and laugh a lot it just gets annoying. By a lot it means that it goes on for hours.

Another thing I don't like is girls who dress innapropriately.

tyrantfuryre · Answer

Behavior...ha..3,000 characters isn't nearly enough..so we won't go there. Physically, when they're really over weight, smokers, tattoos and too many piercings.

WeaponZero · Answer

physically my biggest turn offs are tattoos, fake tans, and obviously dyed hair.  smoking is also a biggie to me as a former smoker who quit a few years ago.

Anonymous · Answer

hairy bodies fat rolls bad teeth bitchyness manly apperance and taller than 6'5 I'm 6ft if she's 5 inches taller then me that's to much can you help me with my question?

Pants · Answer

Physical, all girls are beautiful in their own way.  I hate dishonesty and girls that play games...and I also hate smoking.

martyfellow · Answer

Always bragging about how much guys spend on them...hinting that you should put in your bid! This is prettty common with mainstram US women...hopefully not among Persian women!

kspytz · Answer

Girls got to smell sweet and fresh, if you get sweaty at work, take a shower before meeting up with your guy, even if you been together for  years, its a turn off to have a stinky near ya.

Nashton · Answer

i iget turnd off  by girls that think they are so hot and have no humility  i mean, there's always some one better then you right? some girls just don't know that and that's sad...

BloodMerchant · Answer

1) Girls who play mind games

2) Girls who smell bad

3) Girls who act shallow and are stuck up

4) Girls who lie

5) I don't like girls who have a certain 'aura', like how a girl acts all trashy and slutty and dress like a whore

Atmos · Answer

I like small girls although I am 6ft so not many girls are bigger than me.  Although I agree where everyone says looks are not important, they are to some extent as you must be physically attracted to them aswell.  As for the way they act they must not be too loud but not too quiet either to the extent where they just sit there listening to you.  She has to be fun but also there for you to listen to you when you need her

saulito · Answer

a girl that goes against the current instead of embracing a guy...if a girl understands the way a guy is, then that is a plus...realize that if we stare at a girl doesn't mean we are cheaters...its in guys nature to look at women all their life...

GiJoe · Answer

The ones that think there better than you and above you that's just annoying.

adventurousguy · Answer

1.) laziness 2.) they don't like to try new things 3.)wayyyyy to crazy in the mall. 4.)constantly critisizing herself.

unexperienced101 · Answer

women who are too loud and shouty, excitable not exactly, but the loud arrogant ones. also, ones who brag  with the other guys theyve been with, and how man they have been with

justabit444 · Answer

Biggest turn off for me at first site is a mustache lol with arm pit hair . Runner up is tobacoo  smoker.  Third. To much makeup.

beatus87 · Answer

cheaters, stupidity, lack of self respect...sorry but I'm a bit spiteful right now

stevo · Answer

And negative, selfish behavior. It gets under my skin when she thinks it's all about her, but that can apply to either sex for that matter.

canadianguy58 · Answer

the whole emo goth look is a huge turn off for me. the look makes it look like you don't like life and I want to be with a happy enjoyable person like my self hope it helped the guy from up high

tanara · Answer

i'm not a guy but I read the anwsers...just a little tip to some of the guys who answered if you can't  say the same about yourself that means you are very picky. I hate it when people expect the perfect 10,but they're like a 3

uncleoinky · Answer

Attitude : Narcissism/Selfishness/Moodiness. They all pretty much say the same thing, and the focus is me me me.

Expectactions : Can't expect things read in a romance book, tv series or movie to be a part of your everyday life and get upset if they are not delivered.

Looks : Smokers can quit, Piercings can heal, dyed hair can grow out and weight can be lost (if they are issues). That said, there are a lot that let themselves go, usually in the weight department.

ohioguy · Answer

I find girls that worry about turnoffs are a big turn off. Be who you are and if you're worth the price of admission to me, we'll go further.

FaceInTheCrowd · Answer

When I hear a woman say things that are rude, mean spirited or otherwise ignorant I make a personal note of it in my "Do not sleep with " book and it really doesn't matter how hot she is.

faatoota · Answer

I have no problem with smoking but I hate the girl who show character that she haven't and also who said I'm the best and I don't like fat girl but the really big turn off is the girl who joke with all people without stopping

993099142 · Answer

Guys do not like girls who disrespect them or question their manhood.

Xavier2389 · Answer

a girl thinks every dude wants them...or a girl that day she happy and single they get a boyfriend get dumped than say f*** dudes I'm done with them

Jpalms56 · Answer

1. A girl who's shallow 2. Fake girls 3. Bitchy 4.  No personality these are basically it. And I know when girls are shallow lol..i know enough of em to know

AKA_Kiwi · Answer

I might not be a guy but I will tell you this men might like to look at trashy dressing girls but they really don't like owning one lol

The_Love_Guru · Answer

i hate stuck-up girls, just bieng yourself its good i don't like girls that buy hollister shirts and that have a big belly because it looks like jelly when they are really over weight

Mitzdaking · Answer

Looks are important

however style and the way she looks/talks/acts is a good turnon for me

if a girl/woman knows how to touch you with just a look

and turn offs are attitudes,i can't stand arrogant people

Justin111 · Answer

I think it's such a turn off when the girl acts retarded thinking I will like it (I don't ) and if a guy goes out

with a girl because they are acting stupid he most likely Is just trying to get some!

hunglowman4you · Answer

HAIR UNDER THE ARM PITS AND HAIR UNDER THEIR NOSES!

sadnddepressed · Answer

turn off. attention whores. brats. they are such a turn off. also when a girl is obnoxious.

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