@AllThatSweetJazz A male dominated society where masculinity and "male traits" are seen as more powerful and better overall and femininity and "female traits" are seen as weaknesses and are less desirable. So a man being "emotional" is weakness in a patriarchy. Only men being forced into wars because "women aren't strong or strong willed enough" is because of patriarchy. Men paying for everything because it's assumed men should make more and show that he can provide for a potential wife is part of patriarchy. "Women and children first... Because women and children are weak and need protecting" patriarchy. Women getting custody of children more than men because caregiving is skewed in favor of women, because of the patriarchy.
I know lol but the same guys who complain about this kind of stuff are the same guys who are against feminism, something that tries to dismantle the patriarchy. @hypno-trip
They complain about this stuff and distance themselves feminism because they feel feminism doesn't represent their issues. Feminism doesn't seem to attempt to dismantle this idea of patriarchy so much as undermine men altogether. If those things are because of patriarchy then feminists are dismantling it halfheartedly. Women are still seen as weak and in need of protecting expect that protection comes in the form of victimhood and freedom from accountability and responsibility - and though policy changes that favor women, not equality. There's a lot of picking and choosing what changes are made. Disadvantages go, special treatment stays, because vagina.
@AllThatSweetJazz policy changes? You mean the ones where feminists fought for more fathers to get custody? Or when the right for women to fight in wars was fought for? Or the demand for things like changing tables in men's bathrooms? I don't know what feminism you're talking about but real feminists try to uplift men as well, and tell them that they are allowed to feel human and have emotions and that its okay to have weaknesses and thoughts other than sports and fighting, that they will be heard if they come forward with rape allegations, that if a teacher raped them they will not be given a high five and told they should enjoy it and that they are lucky. That's some of the little things about patriarchy that feminists want to change.
@allrhatsweetjazz and if women are still seen as weak it's because all of these campaigns like heforshe, the "dove real body types" or "throw like a girl" thing are made fun of. Something that is showing women as MORE than just sexualized models and weaklings is meant to uplift women from that oppression. Feminists fight for women rapists to be put behind bars just like men. Women do not want women pedophile teachers to go off the hook, but it's men who say things like "lucky kid" and vote "not guilty".
When exactly are we free from accountability and responsablility? When men still think of us as weak and incapable of horrible crimes and let us go?
Why is it that women's requirements of physical ability to join the military are lower?
The feminism I hear about is trying to call men using "logic" abuse. It's trying to make cheating on a girlfriend criminalized as rape while the same woman who pushed for that admitted to cheating on her partner with 5 other guys. It's getting people kicked out and banned for life from CalgaryExpo and affiliate events for trying to criticize feminism. It criticizes Spiderwoman illustrations and calls them sexist, then turns out to be completely wrong. ShirtStorm. Worst of all on my mind at the moment; a scientist was forced to resign and was shamed out of his career for saying something that could be interpreted as sexist if you were so inclined, when it shouldn't matter what he thinks even IF it was sexist.
You could say that's not all feminists but they sure do have a loud voice, actually make ground and do damage, so I'd say you have a tough time reining them in.
That is illogical, the term patriarchy is rule by a father or in the context your using it man. In the context you are using it it would be impossible since according to feminst theory patriarchy is rule by men for the benefit of men which this is not. If it in no way benefits them then how could you claim its patriarchy? Thats is just a bigoted cop out so you don't have to change your views on men and see them as human beings that are subject to the same, pardon my language, bullshit that women are.
@hellionthestage the country, and most of the world, does exist for the benefit of men. Mostly white men in power in the government, all around the world the son inherits the family wealth and daughters are a burden because they are given away and the family also has to give money and gifts to the grooms family. Sons get the family name and pass it on, not daughters. Women historically have had less privilages (owning land, voting, marrying who they want) Even entertainment is catered towards men (though there has been a positive shift in recent years) half naked women in video games, random naked women in action movies, unneeded sex scenes with he hero and a forgettable hot girl, commercials for food with half naked women, commercials for women's products with sexualized women. Serialization of women in general, we can't go topless like men can, even though it used to be illegal for men to be topless too. Because breasts are for male sexual enjoyment and should not be shown,
@hellionthesage breasts are at the same level as ACTUAL SEXUAL ORGANS (genitals) All of these things dehumanize women and lift up men. Of course since it's a very flawed way of living there are set backs for men, can't be "too girly" or you will be seen as "lesser" because being a female is lesser. A matriarchy would be the opposite, major leaders and politicians would be mostly female, but that would probably also have flaws. We need a society and the world to be equal, and feminism works more towards that than patriarchy.
@AllThatSweetJazz I don't know much about the military, but I'm assuming it's different for women because of simple biology. I'm not going to pretend that the majority of women are just as strong as men because it's simply not true. But holding a gun and shooting people and your ability to be TRAINED is not affected by your gender. Not sure what you're talking about with cheating=rape if it's a guy? The spider woman picture was a perfect example of sexism and how normalized it is. io9.com/check-out-spider-woman-1-starring-spider-womans-ass-1624535918 Spider-Man never posed with his ass sticking out like that as if he's waiting to be fucked up the ass. The comparison I tire they used shows him with a curved back as if he's crouching, not as if he's sticking his ass out like that. Trying to justify a picture like that just shows how fucked up societies perception of women is. I haven't heard of the scientist, what did he say?
I believe women are more capable of being in the military now because of the nature of modern warfare, but it makes sense to me to have single standard of ability for a soldier, as in this is what we expect from you (regardless of gender) to ensure we have a strong military. It makes me have to ask what else are women bringing to the table that men aren't to permit lower standards?
I think you're reaching to try and draw tiny differences from the pictures, it's an illustration, it's not perfect, I can't tell the difference. Even if she is sexualised, so what? It doesn't mean she's powerless just because she's sexy. Plus it's just one picture that is essentially fan submitted art, it's not like the rest of the time you see her she's being sexualised. Guys seeing her as "waiting to be fucked" and wanting to fuck her is entirely different, you can't just assume that's how guys think of her, how would you know?
He was a talk at a university in Korea and said "Let me tell you about my trouble with girls. Three things happen when they are in the lab: you fall in love with them, they fall in love with you, and when you criticize them, they cry."
It could have just been a point about the difficulties of both genders distracting one another and compromising the work but whatever, even if it's the most horribly sexist/racist/homophobic etc. thing in the world a researcher's opinion holds no bearing over the data. It's like saying racists can't do math; it's dumb.
It seems like he was trying to be lighthearted and his joke flopped. I think that's just how the university crowd is nowadays. Even Jerry Seinfeld, Chris Rock (I think) and others don't want to tour the college circuit now because apparently even normally "very tame" comedy like Jerry's doesn't fly when people are so hypersensitive (to the point of insensitivity) that nothing is funny anymore.
@AllThatSweetJazz I think it's more that just racist and sexist and homophobic jokes aren't funny anymore... What that scientists said is offensive and sexist, but he shouldn't lose his job over it, but it's completely fair if that college doesn't want him to come back. Allowing people who publicly announce their offensive ideas reflect badly on a college.
And "if she's sexualized, so what?" Are you kidding? The whole problem is that it's normalized. It's normal to see batman and superman in body suits, but Wonder Woman, batgirl, and super girl are all in crop tops and underwear and thigh high boots or skirts. Or the one superhero with the boob window. There are no superheroes with bare legs or with their abs and midriff showing. Because comics are for guys, and guys want a strong mans man hero to look up to and curvy half naked women to look AT
Because it makes men see women as only sexual objects for their viewing and fucking pleasure. It's dehumanizing, objectifying, we are treated as second class citizens because no one takes us seriously because we are only seen as sexual objects. This is something that needs to be changed in order for there to be equality and it's something feminism is working towards. but since so many people want to have their sexy women, we've gone into sexualizing men (why magic mike was such a big deal, finally something for women) but stuff like that only makes men deny anything is wrong. "Magic mike sexualized men, therefore specialization of men and women is equal"
And the guy who said that to the Korean university lost his job at London University and has that shame over him now, making it very difficult for him to continue his career - and all for telling a shit joke? Ridiculous.
@AllThatSweetJazz I replied why sexualization is bad up two comments, and it is shitty that a sexist joke is making this guys life more difficult. But it's the same when someone makes a sexist joke, I remember one basketball announcer was fired because he called the girls "nappy headed hoes" you can't make such gross jokes in a professional setting and not expect anything to happen
You're just assumung that how men interpet sexualised images. Finding a woman physically attractive doesn't mean we think we're entitled to her body or that she's just an object to be used or that she's good for nothing else or that we won't respect her. It's not a given that men view sexualised images that way. It comes down to how you take it. Any male comic book reader who doesn't take on-board that perhaps women would actually prefer to dress more modestly the first time it's mentioned to them is an idiot.
I don't think it's bad to have some sexualised content. You can have fanservice or porn catering to specific sexual tastes (for men or women) and that's fine e. g Twilight, 50 shades of grey. Then there's just certain content that's geared toward those people and if you're a girl consuming content designed with males in mind then naturally aspects about it would make you feel intimitated/disheartened/objectified/disrespected and so on, the same is true when genders are reversed.
There's obviously a demand for content that appeals to a more general audience, that's what you're really asking for and comic creators are aware of that and do tend to illustrate their characters keeping wider audience appeal in mind nowadays. But some women see female superhero characters with boob windows and such, yet can appreciate that they are powerful as well as sexy and unashamed.
The reason it's supposed to be bad is that it injects a worldview where women are sex objects and men are entitled to their sexuality. But I don't see that actually having any real influence on the way males in geek culture think about women. There is a basic level to which we all objectify each other and are attracted to one another, it's not objectification in it's proper use of the term unless it's outright corrupting people. But the vast majority of guys in my experience are mature enough to digest this content and not be poisoned.
For the most part it seems like the issue is well in hand. Objectification that is true, full blown, harmful objectification is limited to men and women that are bad eggs - and you're always going to have bad eggs.
That man is stupid. That is all. He has no knowledge. But most men do not. So that is normal in our society.
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I think in my opinion there is a huge one missing off here, feeling the need to work on getting lean so u have muscles to impress the girls because u r constantly told that girls like muscular guys and if u aren't they won't like u
I don't think it applies anywhere near as much for women as men, women look good with a little fat in them because that's how they are meant to be around 20% I believe but they seem to expect men to be around 10 and Below
I LOOOOVE OLDER MEN, I really do, and honestly I hate going out with guys of my age, many of them are super silly.
I don't think you are "28", why "1999" then? Many guys have to deal with these problems. Tell me, you get what a woman says? Everything of it? I can't even understand myself. Don't you have awkward boners? Will you have boners when you are 60? Is you dick size perfect for all girls? Won't you get called a fagg if you can't open a jar or if you cry? I don't know how's your life in USA but for many mexicans guys the struggle is real.
Nah. I'm just not seeing it esp. since military services in many industrialized countries isn't required and #6 "stereotypes" sits in with... a bunch of other stereotypes?
Yes, everyone have there problems, let us face it. Sadly that is true my one of my lecture show the steretype and I in my country I always see these all the struggles.
You're welcome. After seeing so many misandrist posts and the way society doesn't care about men's rights, this take has completely refreshed me. Again, thank you! :D
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This is so accurate. You've got great image finding skills! The dick size one, what a match.
Hahah THANKS!
Great... I don't agree with the 4th... NOT ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THAT...
Yeah haha I know, but some have to live with it.
Most of these are because of the patriarchal society we live in lmao
Can we skip the sulfuric acid and go back to rubbing meer salt in wounds?
OTOH this is the same patriarchy we all need to get rid of.
I don't even know what patriarchy means anymore...
@AllThatSweetJazz
A male dominated society where masculinity and "male traits" are seen as more powerful and better overall and femininity and "female traits" are seen as weaknesses and are less desirable.
So a man being "emotional" is weakness in a patriarchy. Only men being forced into wars because "women aren't strong or strong willed enough" is because of patriarchy. Men paying for everything because it's assumed men should make more and show that he can provide for a potential wife is part of patriarchy. "Women and children first... Because women and children are weak and need protecting" patriarchy. Women getting custody of children more than men because caregiving is skewed in favor of women, because of the patriarchy.
It may be because of patriarchy but don't assume every guy born on earth agreed to all of it, the system can be burdensome to us too...
I know lol but the same guys who complain about this kind of stuff are the same guys who are against feminism, something that tries to dismantle the patriarchy. @hypno-trip
And it's sad that so many guys are thumbing me down. I wonder why?
Well I'm sorry I was being reactionary...
They complain about this stuff and distance themselves feminism because they feel feminism doesn't represent their issues. Feminism doesn't seem to attempt to dismantle this idea of patriarchy so much as undermine men altogether. If those things are because of patriarchy then feminists are dismantling it halfheartedly. Women are still seen as weak and in need of protecting expect that protection comes in the form of victimhood and freedom from accountability and responsibility - and though policy changes that favor women, not equality. There's a lot of picking and choosing what changes are made. Disadvantages go, special treatment stays, because vagina.
@AllThatSweetJazz policy changes? You mean the ones where feminists fought for more fathers to get custody? Or when the right for women to fight in wars was fought for? Or the demand for things like changing tables in men's bathrooms?
I don't know what feminism you're talking about but real feminists try to uplift men as well, and tell them that they are allowed to feel human and have emotions and that its okay to have weaknesses and thoughts other than sports and fighting, that they will be heard if they come forward with rape allegations, that if a teacher raped them they will not be given a high five and told they should enjoy it and that they are lucky.
That's some of the little things about patriarchy that feminists want to change.
@allrhatsweetjazz and if women are still seen as weak it's because all of these campaigns like heforshe, the "dove real body types" or "throw like a girl" thing are made fun of. Something that is showing women as MORE than just sexualized models and weaklings is meant to uplift women from that oppression.
Feminists fight for women rapists to be put behind bars just like men. Women do not want women pedophile teachers to go off the hook, but it's men who say things like "lucky kid" and vote "not guilty".
When exactly are we free from accountability and responsablility? When men still think of us as weak and incapable of horrible crimes and let us go?
@AllThatSweetJazz
Why is it that women's requirements of physical ability to join the military are lower?
The feminism I hear about is trying to call men using "logic" abuse. It's trying to make cheating on a girlfriend criminalized as rape while the same woman who pushed for that admitted to cheating on her partner with 5 other guys. It's getting people kicked out and banned for life from CalgaryExpo and affiliate events for trying to criticize feminism. It criticizes Spiderwoman illustrations and calls them sexist, then turns out to be completely wrong. ShirtStorm. Worst of all on my mind at the moment; a scientist was forced to resign and was shamed out of his career for saying something that could be interpreted as sexist if you were so inclined, when it shouldn't matter what he thinks even IF it was sexist.
You could say that's not all feminists but they sure do have a loud voice, actually make ground and do damage, so I'd say you have a tough time reining them in.
That is illogical, the term patriarchy is rule by a father or in the context your using it man. In the context you are using it it would be impossible since according to feminst theory patriarchy is rule by men for the benefit of men which this is not. If it in no way benefits them then how could you claim its patriarchy? Thats is just a bigoted cop out so you don't have to change your views on men and see them as human beings that are subject to the same, pardon my language, bullshit that women are.
@hellionthestage the country, and most of the world, does exist for the benefit of men. Mostly white men in power in the government, all around the world the son inherits the family wealth and daughters are a burden because they are given away and the family also has to give money and gifts to the grooms family. Sons get the family name and pass it on, not daughters. Women historically have had less privilages (owning land, voting, marrying who they want)
Even entertainment is catered towards men (though there has been a positive shift in recent years) half naked women in video games, random naked women in action movies, unneeded sex scenes with he hero and a forgettable hot girl, commercials for food with half naked women, commercials for women's products with sexualized women. Serialization of women in general, we can't go topless like men can, even though it used to be illegal for men to be topless too. Because breasts are for male sexual enjoyment and should not be shown,
@hellionthesage breasts are at the same level as ACTUAL SEXUAL ORGANS (genitals)
All of these things dehumanize women and lift up men. Of course since it's a very flawed way of living there are set backs for men, can't be "too girly" or you will be seen as "lesser" because being a female is lesser.
A matriarchy would be the opposite, major leaders and politicians would be mostly female, but that would probably also have flaws. We need a society and the world to be equal, and feminism works more towards that than patriarchy.
@AllThatSweetJazz I don't know much about the military, but I'm assuming it's different for women because of simple biology. I'm not going to pretend that the majority of women are just as strong as men because it's simply not true. But holding a gun and shooting people and your ability to be TRAINED is not affected by your gender.
Not sure what you're talking about with cheating=rape if it's a guy?
The spider woman picture was a perfect example of sexism and how normalized it is.
io9.com/check-out-spider-woman-1-starring-spider-womans-ass-1624535918
Spider-Man never posed with his ass sticking out like that as if he's waiting to be fucked up the ass. The comparison I tire they used shows him with a curved back as if he's crouching, not as if he's sticking his ass out like that. Trying to justify a picture like that just shows how fucked up societies perception of women is.
I haven't heard of the scientist, what did he say?
I believe women are more capable of being in the military now because of the nature of modern warfare, but it makes sense to me to have single standard of ability for a soldier, as in this is what we expect from you (regardless of gender) to ensure we have a strong military. It makes me have to ask what else are women bringing to the table that men aren't to permit lower standards?
I think you're reaching to try and draw tiny differences from the pictures, it's an illustration, it's not perfect, I can't tell the difference. Even if she is sexualised, so what? It doesn't mean she's powerless just because she's sexy. Plus it's just one picture that is essentially fan submitted art, it's not like the rest of the time you see her she's being sexualised. Guys seeing her as "waiting to be fucked" and wanting to fuck her is entirely different, you can't just assume that's how guys think of her, how would you know?
He was a talk at a university in Korea and said "Let me tell you about my trouble with girls. Three things happen when they are in the lab: you fall in love with them, they fall in love with you, and when you criticize them, they cry."
It could have just been a point about the difficulties of both genders distracting one another and compromising the work but whatever, even if it's the most horribly sexist/racist/homophobic etc. thing in the world a researcher's opinion holds no bearing over the data. It's like saying racists can't do math; it's dumb.
It seems like he was trying to be lighthearted and his joke flopped. I think that's just how the university crowd is nowadays. Even Jerry Seinfeld, Chris Rock (I think) and others don't want to tour the college circuit now because apparently even normally "very tame" comedy like Jerry's doesn't fly when people are so hypersensitive (to the point of insensitivity) that nothing is funny anymore.
@AllThatSweetJazz I think it's more that just racist and sexist and homophobic jokes aren't funny anymore...
What that scientists said is offensive and sexist, but he shouldn't lose his job over it, but it's completely fair if that college doesn't want him to come back. Allowing people who publicly announce their offensive ideas reflect badly on a college.
And "if she's sexualized, so what?" Are you kidding? The whole problem is that it's normalized. It's normal to see batman and superman in body suits, but Wonder Woman, batgirl, and super girl are all in crop tops and underwear and thigh high boots or skirts. Or the one superhero with the boob window. There are no superheroes with bare legs or with their abs and midriff showing. Because comics are for guys, and guys want a strong mans man hero to look up to and curvy half naked women to look AT
You still haven't made a point. So again, so what? I'm totally open minded to hearing you out, but you need to make a point of why that's bad.
Because it makes men see women as only sexual objects for their viewing and fucking pleasure. It's dehumanizing, objectifying, we are treated as second class citizens because no one takes us seriously because we are only seen as sexual objects. This is something that needs to be changed in order for there to be equality and it's something feminism is working towards. but since so many people want to have their sexy women, we've gone into sexualizing men (why magic mike was such a big deal, finally something for women) but stuff like that only makes men deny anything is wrong. "Magic mike sexualized men, therefore specialization of men and women is equal"
@AllThatSweetJazz forgot to tag you
The sexualization I mean.
And the guy who said that to the Korean university lost his job at London University and has that shame over him now, making it very difficult for him to continue his career - and all for telling a shit joke? Ridiculous.
@AllThatSweetJazz I replied why sexualization is bad up two comments, and it is shitty that a sexist joke is making this guys life more difficult. But it's the same when someone makes a sexist joke, I remember one basketball announcer was fired because he called the girls "nappy headed hoes" you can't make such gross jokes in a professional setting and not expect anything to happen
You're just assumung that how men interpet sexualised images. Finding a woman physically attractive doesn't mean we think we're entitled to her body or that she's just an object to be used or that she's good for nothing else or that we won't respect her. It's not a given that men view sexualised images that way. It comes down to how you take it. Any male comic book reader who doesn't take on-board that perhaps women would actually prefer to dress more modestly the first time it's mentioned to them is an idiot.
I don't think it's bad to have some sexualised content. You can have fanservice or porn catering to specific sexual tastes (for men or women) and that's fine e. g Twilight, 50 shades of grey. Then there's just certain content that's geared toward those people and if you're a girl consuming content designed with males in mind then naturally aspects about it would make you feel intimitated/disheartened/objectified/disrespected and so on, the same is true when genders are reversed.
There's obviously a demand for content that appeals to a more general audience, that's what you're really asking for and comic creators are aware of that and do tend to illustrate their characters keeping wider audience appeal in mind nowadays. But some women see female superhero characters with boob windows and such, yet can appreciate that they are powerful as well as sexy and unashamed.
The reason it's supposed to be bad is that it injects a worldview where women are sex objects and men are entitled to their sexuality. But I don't see that actually having any real influence on the way males in geek culture think about women. There is a basic level to which we all objectify each other and are attracted to one another, it's not objectification in it's proper use of the term unless it's outright corrupting people. But the vast majority of guys in my experience are mature enough to digest this content and not be poisoned.
For the most part it seems like the issue is well in hand. Objectification that is true, full blown, harmful objectification is limited to men and women that are bad eggs - and you're always going to have bad eggs.
I have had to perform 'the lunge' to pee occasionally. Loved that chart!
It's pretty funny XD
I go for the squat. You won't find it on in that pic, I'm that rare :)
@DaveyYourFavey Show me!! XD
If I was 16 and a guy said I was a bundle of sticks for being a virgin he would be looking for a plastic surgeon
That man is stupid. That is all. He has no knowledge. But most men do not. So that is normal in our society.
I think in my opinion there is a huge one missing off here, feeling the need to work on getting lean so u have muscles to impress the girls because u r constantly told that girls like muscular guys and if u aren't they won't like u
That goes for girls too. Most guys like fit women o. o
I don't think it applies anywhere near as much for women as men, women look good with a little fat in them because that's how they are meant to be around 20% I believe but they seem to expect men to be around 10 and Below
I don't know what kind of guys you are hanging out or know but you need to go from boys to men. I'm not like this take at all.
I LOOOOVE OLDER MEN, I really do, and honestly I hate going out with guys of my age, many of them are super silly.
I don't think you are "28", why "1999" then? Many guys have to deal with these problems. Tell me, you get what a woman says? Everything of it? I can't even understand myself. Don't you have awkward boners? Will you have boners when you are 60? Is you dick size perfect for all girls? Won't you get called a fagg if you can't open a jar or if you cry? I don't know how's your life in USA but for many mexicans guys the struggle is real.
The guys you are describing then need to get over their insecurities. My self-worth of self-esteem is not affected or determined by others
the jail one i can see why the others i don't care or i agree with
Yup, people have mixed feeling about it.
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Nah. I'm just not seeing it esp. since military services in many industrialized countries isn't required and #6 "stereotypes" sits in with... a bunch of other stereotypes?
that virginity pic. LOL!!!
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Hahaha yeah, we are meaaaaan XD
I never understood why women couldn't be on the front line if they wanted to or voluntarily drafted.
Actually I think men should have voluntary draft as well.
Yes, everyone have there problems, let us face it. Sadly that is true my one of my lecture show the steretype and I in my country I always see these all the struggles.
About time someone laid it out like it is.
Yeah 8)
Yeah all of thoses seem to suck.
Yup :(
We need more girls like you. I like your thinking.
Aww thanks <3 U need kind boys like u :)
You're welcome. After seeing so many misandrist posts and the way society doesn't care about men's rights, this take has completely refreshed me.
Again, thank you! :D
Fuck, you've discovered my virgin abilities.
OMG, your username is hilarious lol
Busted! XD
lol, Thank you! :D
Funny take yet very true, thanks for sharing lad
Welcome :D and thanks :)
and you didn't ask me...
I get it.
Babe, I'm so sorry hun, I got many messages and I just wrote what they said. I totally forgot about asking more guys.
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