Purpose: What We Need More Than Confidence

[pavlove]

Confidence is great, but what is it that actually gets you where to where you need to go? What fills in the gaps between what you want to have happen and what is needed to actually get there? Why do some get there, while others only take weak stabs at it?

They have Purpose. They’re a great level of intention into what they’re doing. They’ve had the inception of an idea and even if it’s not that real yet for them they’re on the path there. They take steps to the goal, while others take steps around, backwards and under it…

When you’re talking to someone you like…what is your purpose? To seduce them? To be protect yourself from being seduced by a player? To fall in love? What about just enjoying the process? When flirting isn’t any fun you know you’re not on your Purpose.

Your purpose is not only active but it’s immediately achievable. Your goal shouldn’t be the best soccer player ever…it should be to play soccer. It shouldn’t be to meet the girl or boy of your dreams…it should be talk to girls or boys you like. The fun is in the pursuit. The fun is a revelation of the Purpose acted upon…

When you’re nervous and paralyzed with the “what do I do next” or the “what do I say now” think only one thing:

What do I want to do? Often times you really want to kiss her or him and you don’t because you think it’s too early and so you ask “what do I do?” but there’s no script and you fail, but what if do kiss her or him. What if you realign yourself with your purpose of kissing someone you are into.

And if someone is boring you with their conversation let’s say talking about working out or getting their nails done while at a loud party and you think it’s really boring but you’re “hanging” in there because you have a crush…what if you just say “hey we’re at a party why are you talking about x?” 10% of the time they’ll get offended. 90% of time they’ll see you’re on your purpose and respect that you had the balls to live it regardless of consequences and with indifference to them.

[davidpossey]

i fucking love this post man and your right which is why i watch elliot hulse and rsd and for me my purpose is to be the best version of myself so until the day i die i will always be improving myself in all areas of my life my purpose isn't to be the best soccer player but to be the best soccer player that i can be

[BrianSmith]

Excellent take. The concept can be expanded into all areas of life with multiple purposes/intentions.

[oddwaffle]

Confidence is having your purposes fulfilled or at least working towards it.

For most people, they just fake it until it works because having a purpose and work at it is hard (looks at weight loss challenges)

[takumii]

Don't your fingers ever fall off?

Or your gym trainer told you that you need to workout your petite fingers more?