Everything about the Shy Guy

[Memora]

We all know that being shy or insecure can prevent us from making a move and talking to a guy if you have never talked to him. So I decided to write a myTake that would so guys out there could understand what shy girls would want guys to know.

A few weeks I ago I wrote a myTake called Everything About The Shy Girl. I received a lot of great responses from guys but also a lot of other ones where guys had a point here are a few:

Anonymous: The problem is that other people can't tell if you're shy or if you don't like them. They will not keep pressing you trying to overcome your shyness unless you are giving them indications you want the interaction. Nor should they. Nobody can read your mind. As long as shy people do a great job of acting like people who don't want to talk, they will continue to be treated like those who don't want to talk.

@Dragonstarterplus : The problem is the guy usually can't tell if you're shy or just not interested if you can't look at him and don't have anything to say.

@Yaeza : What guys have to understand is that girls over think things too much we think of so many scenarios that could happen." I'm only at this point in the myTake, but I would like to say there are lots of guys that over think things too. I for one am one of those guys and it can be almost impossible for me to have a conversation with a girl I find cute because A) I start overthinking things and lose my nerve or B) push past the over thinking, but am so worried of making a fool of myself, I do anyways and am super awkward.

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What I want girls to understand is that if you are interested in a guy don’t expect them to make a move. I have to admit that in High School I was always hoping that guys I like would be the ones to talk to me.But the truth is guys are also shy and if you don’t talk to them or at least try they well think you are not interested. Here is what happened with a shy guy( Long story short)I noticed a guy in my English class staring at me during lunch while with my friends.We never really talked but it kept happening for years. So one day I got all the courage I could get to go up and talk to him. However all that I got from him were short answers, fast replies and nothing more. The same thing happened every time. What I am trying to say is that not every time you start a conversation will go great.But don’t worry if the guy does not try to put in effort after a few times forget about him and move on. At Least you tried take it as a learning experience.

However there are guys out there who are willing to talk to you just have to let them know you want to talk to them by...talking to them. Simple huh.If you are also shy and don’t make an effort to try to talk the relationship won’t work or will never even happen.

There are many ways to tell if a shy guy likes you but the easiest way to find out is to understand their body language. If he won’t tell you he likes you his body language will. Keep in mind guys do this unconsciously. I encourage you to search Body language of attraction on google. To be more spacific add Shy guys.

[Anonymous]

Long story short: Girls, if you're not shy then stop playing 'giving sign' game. Strong signs or even obvious signs are not enough most of times. Just slowly but directly drop the bomb after opening the guy. You won't need to work after opening XYZ guy. Many are more fun than typical crazy fun. You only need to push start button.

Shortest and easiest way to open a shy guy: Text him!

Few things to keep in mind white approaching:

- Approach and start conversation
- You need to lead conversation (at first; don't worry about later)
- Do not dominate him, give him space
- Listen when he talks and give him time to talk
- If pause is awkward then continue without making it obvious that you find it awkward
- Ask him questions about his interests
- Go into deep of his interests
- DO NOT engage him in small talks
- Try to listen him and hold longer conversations (YES! LONG conversations - shy people don't get an ear to listen them and people don't give a damn about talking to them)

When you're texting you can be more flexible with the things I mentioned.

Best way to open him: Start with texts and open him and then face-to-face. He'll need to be opened up once again face-face but it'll be easier.

And if you're a shy girl interested in shy guy... well, good luck 😂

[FM223]

I always talked to my crush, and he is starting to get the hint that I like him. He stares at me ever since I switched my seat to the back of the class (he still stared at me before), and even turned around just to see what I was doing. He knows I like him, but he never tried to come up and talk to me. I did it before, but stopped ever since I noticed I was being too obvious. Do you think he doesn't like me and finds it awkward that I like him?

[Memora]

Just the fact that he looks or stares at you is a good sign. Don't worry about being too obvious because he is also being obvious that he likes you just by the fact that he takes time to look at you. I think you should keep talking to him, he probubly wants you to talk to him. Remember it is way harder for guys who are shy to start the conversation it's just to hard for them. What will be awkward is if you stop talking and just stare at each other this will make it more harder for him and you to talk since you both let this awkward tension build up. I don't think he finds it awkward that you like him I think it's the exact oppisite he is happy. It's just know that he knows you like him, he might get more nervous around you. When you talk it's ok if he don't speck a lot. This may be due to his nervousness around you. He don't want to say anything that might make you not like him. Take baby steps.

[FM223]

Also, mind answering a question I wrote?

[Memora]

I thought I did what is it?

[FM223]

And when he looks at me, he never smiles. He just stares blankly and waits for me to look at him. When I do, he doesn't look away-which means he wants me to know that he was looking at me. Doesn't that make him confident?

[FM223]

Mind sending me a message? Sorry if I am bothering you, it's just that I am in a very complicated situation.

[Memora]

yeah , he probubly want you to notice. If he is a little more confident that is good you don't want a guy who is so closed off because that makes things a little bit more harder.

[FM223]

Also, there was this situation where his friends were involved. It may take a little long to explain it here, so do u mind sending me a comment? I really need to sort this out.

[Memora]

ok...

[FM223]

What if your crush talks about you to his friend, and I noticed his friend pushing him towards me. When they were talking about me, the two looked at me and smiled widely as I looked down when they noticed I was looking. After they finished talking, that was when his friend was pushing him, and he was stepping back.

[Memora]

he must have been embaressed or something.

[Kirah]

Why don't you approach him yourself?

[John_Doesnt]

What about this shy guy? Does he stand a chance at true love?

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[Toughspot123]

😂👍🏻

[ArtDent]

It really doesn't matter, confidence is built from having success with women, there will be no confidence before that success. If women are unwilling to help build men up, they are going to find fewer and fewer men to choose from. Simple as that.

[Jose_R]

It seems you want to write a mytake about this.

[Dipsy]

Confidence shouldn't come from outwards, it should come from within though ;)

[Anonymous]

This was a sweet take. I enjoyed it. :)

[Anonymous]

wouldn't even bother to read that garbage.

[IceEverest]

Nice take. I am a shy guy.