The 7 Differences Between Confident Guys And Narcissists

[Anonymous]

I've noticed some people here, claiming they're confident. But in fact their behavior lean towards narcissism, even though they don't admit it. But it's not surprising, because there's no narcissist, who's going to say, I'm a narcissist. They call themselves confident, but in fact it's the wrong word to use for their case. Here are 7 reasons why:

(In alphabetical order)

1) Confident guys don't believe everyone is jealous of their appearance

It's an ego boost for narcissists, when others praise their good looks. And this makes them believe, that everyone is jealous of their looks. So if you detect a narcissist, try to bring them down to earth, by not commenting on their looks.

2) Confident guys don't believe in alpha male/beta male theory

To put it simply, those who believe they are alpha males are narcissists. Those who believe they are beta males are insecure. Confident people don't belong to any among those 2.

3) Confident guys don't look down on others, they think they are inferior to them

Hahaha you don't work out, what a wimp you are. You are just trying to make them feel bad by saying that. Notice what I said, you are trying to make them feel bad and not you make them feel bad. Because in fact many of them don't feel bad, but they laugh behind your back, and realize what a narcissist you are.

4) Confident guys don't talk about their "good" looks, in every chance they get

I'm tall, I'm jacked, and that's why I get all the chicks blah blah.

Congratulations if you actually get all the chicks, but keep it to yourself. If you spread it all around everywhere to brag about how good looking you are, it means you try to make others jealous, which is clearly a narcissistic trait.

5) Confident guys would never post their body picture in a public forum

And the most common excuse is, I'm proud about the effort I put, to look like this. OK it's not be bad to be proud, but keep it to yourself. The only reason why someone posts a body picture, to me it means, I'm doing it because I'm looking for compliments in order to boost my ego. And no, whoever dislikes the fact you post such a picture, it doesn't mean he is jealous (well sure there are some who actually do, but not everyone) because he doesn't look like you, it means he wants to bring you down from your high horse.

6) Confident guys understand that not all girls like them

What? You don't like me? You are crazy!

No she's not crazy, but it's her taste. Not every girl is forced to like you. Even those who do, when one day find out you are a narcissist they'll walk away. Unless if she's a narcissist herself. But I wonder how it is 2 narcissists dating each other? Never thought about it.

7) Confident guys understand the world doesn't revolve around them

Every person should be aware they are just One among the billions. Not Me, and everyone else.

In conclusion:

Confident guy: I'm OK with my looks and I don't cry about not being good-looking.

Narcissist: I admire my looks, and I talk about how good looking I am in every chance I get, and I believe everyone is jealous of me.

[NoBull]

Really good examples. Sure, some examples may be stronger than others but the gist is certainly true.

Perhaps the more interesting thing is why you, or anyone, might want to create such a post. I think it may be because most women are especially attracted to men who display "confidence" then go on a journey to discover that was an illusion.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Pussy, weed, ass, money, mirror... apparently.

[myTake Owner]

Come again?

[OrdinaryGentleman]

I forgot what i was gonna say, but yeah great my_take

[myTake Owner]

Thanks!

[kittykatbrat]

I believe narcissists are the most insecure people on the planet.

ie: "Confidence is quiet. Insecurity is loud"

[archiz]

I like this haha

[myTake Owner]

You said it all.

[Tanuron]

Too true

[Felinegirl]

Often that's true, but I know one guy who believes he's confident while he's just a narcissistic a*hole. He's basically like "Im absolutely amazing, I love myself and Im better than others and I don't think I should be ashamed of feeling like that" while in reality he's pretty annoying, always talking about himself and bragging.

[kittykatbrat]

@Felinegirl
Guys like this approach me daily. Tbh, I find them hilarious.
ie: They remind me of those small, annoying, barking dogs that bark @ alaskan malamutes.

[Felinegirl]

Hahaha

[starryeyedkitten]

I love this ! my dad is a total Narcissist

[myTake Owner]

Oh I feel sorry for you then.

[Fearless_banana]

Agree with some parts

1) Alphas and betas do exist.. Not to an absolute but men tend to have alpha characteristics and some beta characteristics. It's just a word that is coin termed to express certain characteristics and men certainly do usually fall somewhere on either side of the spectrum.

2) People are jealous and will often stem their insecurities. They do that because you are a direct reflection of what they strive to be but never could be. Listen to the first 5 minutes of what Greg Plitt says in this video. I've lived this myself.. people that I thought were my friends fcked with my head when I started building a physique because they were jealous.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zsP21qNERQQ

People are jealous of me on this website without a doubt. I posted a couple of pictures of a girl that I matched with on tinder.. Literally a model and I posted her professional pictures that were on her website. You want to know the responses I got? Multiple people said she was ugly girls and guys.. then they tries to insult me saying that I have no game. Girls could only dream of looking like that and guys could only dream of hooking up with a girl like that.. Yeah guys she's really ugly and I clearly have no game.
https://s33.postimg.org/5eec74bjj/IMG_0061.jpg
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a27884-the-definitive-tinder-guide-for-the-sexually-inclined

3) I wake up in the morning at 4:30 almost everyday.. I prep my meals for the next couple days counting my calories..
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I then go school library get on my laptop and study for 2 hours prior to my classes starting. After classes are over I work.. I independently train novice female and male bodybuilders.

You're a direct reflection of what you repeatedly do everyday. I have work a strong work ethic and am constantly striving for self improvement everyday. I can without a doubt say that I am a better person than the guys who don't have the mere discipline to workout and look out for their health. That's not arrogance.. that's just logic. I work hard for everything I do.. it's not like it was handed to me. That's why I'm successful and I have every right to say that.

[Fearless_banana]

Building a proportional body with perfect symmetry and aesthetics is not an easy thing to do and most people don’t have the discipline to follow through with it. You really have to love it otherwise you will quit. It’s that hard and it’s that tough.. any rational person that is attempting to do for ulterior motives other than the love for the lifestyle would give up because it’s that fucking hard. You can’t fake eating 6 meals a day.. You can’t fake going to the gym and taking your body to limits to where you feel like you are going to pass out everyday.

[Fearless_banana]

You can’t fake that.. results will only come if you are on that level. Concluding that.. this is my art form and my craft and it’s what I love to do.. I dedicate a good portion of my life to it. I have every fucking right to post my pictures because I’m proud hard my hard work. When I was younger like 16 years old.. I remember looking on the bodybuilding forums and seeing guys that were absolutely jacked and I looked up them and it motivated me. Now I get to be one of those guys that will maybe motivate another young guy to do the same.

[Fearless_banana]

Number 5)

If someone is proud of the way they look then they have the right to talk about it any chance that they want to lol. Who are you to shame them and their confidence? In their perception they look good and that confidence creates an aura that people are generally attracted to. Just because it sounds like you are not so confident in your looks doesn’t mean you need to stem your insecurities onto others in attempt to bring them down to your level. People love my cockiness lol. I’m a strong advocate of just doing you and not worrying about others.

[Fearless_banana]

6)

Is true.. A lot of women don’t like me and I understand that. Not the end of the though.. want to know a good solution? Find a girl that is attracted to you lol. Thank me later.. I know I’m a fucking genius.

[Fearless_banana]

7)

I can agree with this too.. but I think you perceiving it in a different perception than me. I think everyone should prioritize themselves to get ahead in life. You’re either the little barracuda or you are the shark ready to attack on a moments notice to get what you want. People with that mindset are generally the most successful. I would imagine you to see someone with conveying that attitude and take offense to it because it wouldn’t be as easy to admit they are aggressive in their lives and take charge of things. It’s much easier to excuse it off as “oh he is just a narcissist” You think like that because you are the little barracuda. The mere that fact that you are posting this anonymously validates this even further.

[Fearless_banana]

Concluding all of this.. I think you are extremely insecure and bitter. You’ve obviously taken offense to some our posts and this is obviously directed at my group on here. I get that I can be an arrogant dick without a filter sometimes but If I don't like someone I'll say it to their face and I'll keep it on that question or opinion. I don't go tell my clique with the intentions to go on long drawn out battles in which we try to depict anything we can find to insult them at every angle possible. Oh you were abused as a child.. Oh you are compensating for something. Oh you have PTSD.. Oh you must beat your girlfriend.. Oh you you’re stupid.. (as they critique trivial grammatical errors). I’m used to it over the years of building a physique, it happens.. just as I stated before people like to stem their personal insecurities onto others and I sometimes receive it in real life as well but It’s just annoying as fuck and unnecessary.

[Fearless_banana]

Then these mods will actually hide parts of our conversations when we rebuttal and say anything back. They will do that in attempt to make them look like they "won the arguement". I mean that’s just pathetic. I think that is MUCH worst then what I do by a long shot. It’s much worst in my opinion to start a hate group even if it’s unintentional (Saying Fearless_banana or “C” or “P" has a potato face and getting 20 upvotes on multiple questions throughout the website). That’s just iniquitous.. There was obviously a negative response pending due to those actions. All of these same people that I’ve described just LOOOVE to play the victim card too.

[Fearless_banana]

I don’t know about you but I had to learn the hard way at a young age that your actions have consequences/repercussions.. I’ve gotten my ass beat senseless by other marines in the past for running my mouth. When that happened I never thought to sit there and say “Oh that was really mean.. poor me” I deserved it and we’d most likely would shake hands at the chow hall the next morning.

[Fearless_banana]

I’m not telling you all of this in attempt to garner some type of sympathy because it doesn’t affect me to any extent but rather just try to explain to you that there are two sides of every story. I’m a former Marine dude I don’t some bitter teenage girl that knows absolutely nothing about life calling me ugly is going to make me lose any sleep.. nor will this ridiculous mytake. Of course you will take the side of the users that hate us rendering some type of bias but you have to look at it from an outside prescriptive. You can’t negate or nullify the facts of pertaining situation here.

[Fearless_banana]

Bro.. if I was nobody.. and I was just an arrogant douche bag that had nothing going for me.. why the hell are people making 10 questions about me a week lol. If I was nobody then people wouldn’t even pay attention to me. The fact that I’m causing so much hostility on this website from you guys tells me that I’m pretty badass lol. I mean it’s sort of complimentary at this point. The truth of all of what I just took 30 minutes to type out here.. is that truly confident people really don't give two shits about what the others definition of what confidence is. They know themselves and your opinion is irrelevant. Insecure people will surely follow these guidelines without a doubt though.

[Fearless_banana]

@Smmyskittles
@consultantisback
@rgb008
@06curiousmind

Hopefully I just ended this kids cringe perception of life and all of the pink anon wars lol. I'll certainly be curious to see his response though. Took 30m to type this all this shit out lol I gatta start my day now.

[archiz]

lol I was reading your opinion and approving and all but then it turned out to long rofl xD
so I agree with first points I read bahahaha
damn man what are you doing? a critical essay with point by point analysis xD

[rgb008]

Did u get to lick her teeth yet?
Hopefully no gingivitis there!

[Fearless_banana]

Forgot to throw this in.. This was supposed to be the start of what I explained about bodybuilding.

4) Let me throw you a curve ball. If there was a man that had fascination of vintage cars.. I mean he was just obsessed with vintage cars and tell you the mechanics of every internal combustion engine created by Ford since 1903 when Ford was established.. He loved the idea of taking something from that comes from absolutely nothing and building it into something that he sought out to be beautiful. Following up on that.. this man had a hobby of purchasing these vintage cars that were broken down and fixed them up. Now riddle me this.. would this man be called arrogant if he were to post pictures of those vehicles before and after on various car forums and social media? No that would be silly.. because he put a lot of hard work into do that. That is craft and art form. That is what he absolutely loves to do and the same concept applies to bodybuilding.

[Smmyskittles]

You took the time to write it, I took the time to read it.

Long, but very thoroughly explained.
You did get off topic a tiny bit (from bodybuilding/physique). Regardless, it was an EXTREMEMLY valid point.

[Fearless_banana]

Lol I type fast.. it's just annoying af that there are literally 10 questions a week about me or this kind of shit. A new copy and pasta has been born.

[ice2mat]

😮 Fearless_banana for president 2016. I have to admit I didn't like you before but you just earned my respect.

[Smmyskittles]

Tbh, I'm pretty sick of seeing posts like this.

They don't care how much time you put in. They care that the men they're seeing/interacting with are all self-absorbed.

[06CuriousMind]

Haha damn that was long but completely accurate. Hopefully people actually taking the time to read it instead of just creating more myTakes.

I really don't think it's possible for people that don't physically do it to understand though... No matter how much you try to explain it to them. When people think of sports and lifting they just think it's not important, and that it has no purpose. There's just a divide and I don't see it ever changing tbh

[redeyemindtricks]

All very well written.

[Cosytoasty]

@archiz See, us engineers are alike lmao.

@fearless_banana Good counter-take 👍 Specially the victim card thing, honestly i get the impression on here sometimes that if you DONT play that, people think you're cheating the game.

[archiz]

@Cosytoasty eh I noticed haha :P
and we architects are the ones who BS are way out of things lol

[ConsultantIsBack]

Love it Hahaha I need to start screen shotting my life like you Hahaha

[myTake Owner]

For once you made me admit you're not as smart as an ape, since you posted more than just a 1-2 line post saying "You're just a wimpy nerd, and you're jealous of us tall jacked guys, blah blah" and all those shit. I take it, that you're overly proud for your dedication you put to your body. OK that's not bad, but what is bad is to put down others if they "don't lift". I don't accept such behavior towards anyone.

But please, we cannot ALL find this girl attractive. Personally I find her average. We cannot ALL share your taste you know.

[myTake Owner]

Eh now I read the comments and you fucked it up, especially about the cocky thing. Being cocky is never good for anyone. If you could put down your cockiness you would be a better person.

[Fearless_banana]

Okay first off let's get this notion of you thinking that I give more than zero fucks to your double edged compliment/insult right there out your head. Your admission to say I'm more intelligent than you expected just makes me laugh. I should of assumed that you were same guy who made all of these cringeworthy mytakes/questions.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a28333-10-traditional-male-gender-roles-traits-i-find-ridiculous-refuse-to
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a27804-the-feminine-traits-of-the-gym-jocks
I'd also assume that you made this question..
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2010581-do-you-agree-i-m-tougher-than-those-so-called-jocks

[Fearless_banana]

"Do you all "jacked guys" have more than 100 words in your dictionary? Even apes are more educated than you. The only thing you know is to lift. You're nothing. Just a zero.

Post this photo (you know which one) to give me a reason to report you by the way.”

Is what you stated.

[Fearless_banana]

I think that you don’t have the ability to sustain any type of social relationship. If I had to guess I’d say you are socially ostracized and take out your frustration on guys like me because ‘jocks' remind you of your past and you like to blame us for your problems. That’s easier to do than to face reality. I mean you attempted to rationalize cigarettes as being manly lol. Dude.. cmon. You have the same exact personality traits and signs of sociopathy that this guy had. The funny thing is that this guy was a miscer on the bodybuilding forums. I remember seeing his threads on the misc and actually responded to a couple of his rants in which replied. I didn’t even know till someone pointed this out. I looked back and I was just thinking holy shit. You need to seek professional help before you do something stupid to hurt yourself or others.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zExDivIW4FM

[06CuriousMind]

Holy shit I've never seen that video. Fucking creepy

[Fearless_banana]

@06CuriousMind This dude was making the SAME exact questions and rants about 'jocks' on the misc for a year before he went on his massacre. Their vocabulary and how to they word their insults is EXACTLY the same.

[06CuriousMind]

well i guess its a good thing he doesn't know who you are. lol. hopefully...

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

In Greek mythology, Narcissus (/nɑːrˈsɪsəs/; Greek: Νάρκισσος, Narkissos) was a hunter from Thespiae in Boeotia who was known for his beauty. He was the son of the river god Cephissus and nymph Liriope.[1] He was proud, in that he disdained those who loved him. Nemesis noticed this behavior and attracted Narcissus to a pool, where he saw his own reflection in the water and fell in love with it, not realizing it was merely an image. Unable to leave the beauty of his reflection, Narcissus lost his will to live. He stared at his reflection until he died [and in some stories, turned into the Narcissus flower]. Narcissus is the origin of the term narcissism, a fixation with oneself and one's physical appearance.

www.greekmyths-greekmythology.com/.../...0x363.jpg

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[ConsultantIsBack]

As someone who regularly goes back and forth about being a narcissistic douchebag but is also confident I would agree with the general sentiment of your mytake.
There's some specifics that are def debatable, that you seem to be pushing an agenda. Like saying posting a full body pic is narcissistic. Lol, no, that's going to happen sooner or later on some social media for someone with a fit bod. That isn't narcissistic in itself in my opinion.

But I agree in general, good take sir!

[myTake Owner]

Well to be honest I thought you'd get offended, since I'm aware you post body pictures and such, but thanks.

[ConsultantIsBack]

Not offended, we cool 😘😘😘

[bcromartie]

I disagree. Confidence is just an aspect of mankind, it doesn't mean you will or will not do anything whether it be bragging or bullying. The same is true of low self-esteem; to my knowledge most people of low esteem do not brag, do not bully, do not try to pick themselves up by crushing others, and generally avoid the limelight which would be caused by those activities.

They shrink, not grow, and intimidation is usually very low for those who have issues with self-image and they tend to be quieter and less outgoing. This means the opposite is also true; people who are confident, or even overconfident, tend to hold more behaviors that could be mistaken for things like mania or narcissism but those behaviors are a symptom of confidence.

The reason this is important is because narcissism is actually really, really rare in humans.

[myTake Owner]

How much rare then? 1 out of 10000 people?

[bcromartie]

news.uga.edu/.../

"The reality is that fewer than one in 100 individuals meets the diagnostic criteria for the narcissistic personality disorder in most epidemiological surveys, marking it as a relatively rare disorder."

[myTake Owner]

Rare, but not SO rare then.

[bcromartie]

That's let's than 1%...

[NJ_Casanova]

True for the most part. I think #5 can be debatable. A confident guy might post a picture.. but the content and type of picture would be different than a Narcissist's. You also forgot, Narcissist are more metro sexual and man-scape and are more of the spray tan type. A confident man cares about his looks but doesn't spend nearly the same amount of time as a Narcissist.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah, a picture once in a blue moon, OK.

[Goldie757]

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[GreatnessRevamped]

Narcissim is considered a personality disorder, so they are actually sufferers.
www.psychologytoday.com/.../narcissistic-personality-disorder

I call the ones you listed low esteem, high volume (as in sound) people.
I agree though with you.
I do ALL the narcissic things listed, because no one is going to love me but me.

[myTake Owner]

Well it's good to admit you're a narcissist. I'd suggest you to correct it.

[GreatnessRevamped]

Why?

[myTake Owner]

You even said it yourself. It's a personality disorder.

[TayTay21]

I agree with most of this, but #1 is debatable. People get really jealous of others who are better looking than them, guys as well as girls. My ex was gorgeous and he had sooo many haters it was ridiculous. Even guys who were total strangers hated on him and tried to play games, so really good-looking guys do have this issue.

The narcissists are the average or even ugly guys who think others hate them for their looks. Those guys are just delusional, and they're easy to spot.

[ConsultantIsBack]

I agree

[myTake Owner]

Then why Narcissus is portrayed as good-looking?

[TayTay21]

It wasn't Narcissus's looks that were his downfall, but rather his obsession with himself. It's totally possible to be highly attractive but grounded at the same time. Just because a guy is gorgeous doesn't mean that he is obsessed with himself.

[Prof_Don]

Exactly, too many people think that a (for the culture they live in) universally attractive person, is incapable of being a humble person

[Tdieseler]

I find it a little offensive that being an Alpha male makes me a narcissist. I was the one who got told that, i never knew nor put myself in that category. Confident people just wanna be left alone to do their thing, narcissists are always about themselves... attention seekers... i like to bounce back and forth... its fun.

[myTake Owner]

What Alpha Male means anyway?

[Tdieseler]

i don't know... i looked it up, the closest definition i can come up with is like "a man's man", does all the stereotypical guy stuff and is great with the opposite sex.

[MandyRuth]

Great myTake. I think a lot of this applies to women as well.

[Smmyskittles]

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[myTake Owner]

I'll take it as "I didn't like it". Maybe you're a female version of the MyTake I posted above? Do you believe you're better looking than other girls? Do you enjoy putting them down?

[Smmyskittles]

That was actually really hostile of you.

I know I'm attractive but "think I'm better"? No. I also don't put them down.

Do you think you're better because you think you have people figured out? Like you can "read" them? That's the vibe I get from you.

[myTake Owner]

I never said that.

[Smmyskittles]

"The vibe I get from you."

Plus, I never said any of the above you asked me about. Glad we covered that.

[Cosytoasty]

#6 certainly stands out on narcissists. Confident people are realistic about where they stand, which in all probability is neither too high nor too low.

I've only seen a few people on here who are actually narcissistic or have narcissistic personality disorder. And its NOT the ones that everyone thinks it is. In text form it's easy to confuse mild trolling with actual sentiment.

[onthelist]

im a rude degrading person and i make a point to tell everyone im probably the worst person theyll ever met when they meet me so subconsciously they dont ever truly believe im actually a shity person. (Reverse psychology) so i if someone is a narcisist they may do that with their narcisistic stance as well.

[SovereignessofVamps]

Evil but ingenious idea on the reverse psychology thing.

[onthelist]

@SovereignessofVamps lol thanks. it comes too natural. Frustrating sometimes when i dont want to manipulate or control how everything is interpreted. Not exactly the habit you want to get into. Life becomes a mindfck

[Oram52]

Good take, there is also difference between cocky and confident.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah...

[99percentangel]

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True lol

[Amilaheart]

Good my take, although there is a lot more to a narcissist

[myTake Owner]

Yeah. I believe #7 is the most essential one, though.

[Amilaheart]

Yes sadly.

My dads a narcissist, so I've learned a lot about them from my old counselor

[myTake Owner]

Guess you can share your own point of view about narcissists, since as you say your dad is one. You have experience about it.

[Amilaheart]

Well, there are also narcissists who act like they are normal. (I think its called a covert narcissist, not 100% sure though)

For example, in the home they use everyone and act like above, but out in public they are sweet and caring people. They can even fool some counselors (only if they aren't going for that, like if they are just going for regular problems in marriage)

Once in a while (and I mean a while) they will apologize when you find out, because they crave attention. The reason they need it is usually because when they were children they didn't have that attention, and they didn't learn to love or anything like that. Once they are "sorry" and you go back, they are back to their self too.

[myTake Owner]

Indeed you'll never know how anyone acts at home.

[Amilaheart]

Yep 😩

[lazermazer]

I would have wrote good take, but seeing your reactions to the comments, you're a shitty person who is ugly and lacks confidence, so you blame other good looking guys. @Smmyskittles

I agree to some points, but only a few, most of them are worthless, like 5.
And one more thing, i dont give shitty people my precious time, so most probably i won't reply to your stupid argument

[Anonymous]

Yeah number. There are quite a few guys and girls on here who think if a girl or guy doesn't find them physically attractive then there is something wrong with the girl or guy and try their very best to promote themselves. I mean wtf, not everyone is going to like you. Get over it and get over yourself. Stop acting butt hurt and trying to force people to find you attractive. It's not going to work. Not everyone is looking for what you have.

[Opinion Owner]

*number 6

[RandomBritishGuy94]

Not sure why this is about men. Everything here is applied to women as well and in some cases more so.

[Tanuron]

Overall, pretty true :) Rarely I dont have to write more or complain more about a mytake, lol

Good job :)