I like your take. It's very simple and optimistic. However, I do think there are legitimate arguments to be made for why women should avoid nice guys. And I'm not saying that to be mean. I'm probably what most people would consider a nice guy too, so it's not like I'm hating on anyone, I get it. Still, nice guys just lack passion, and you can't have love with no passion.
I disagree. My type is reserved men, always has been. I've found that sometimes, once you get past the shyness and they grow comfortable with you, there is a very passionate man who has been hiding his desires until the right moment. And goddamn, when they let loose, it can be intense. It's also special because you know they aren't this passionate about any girl who happens along, either.
I feel like the "nice guy" thing is a bunch of guys who think they are amazing because they treat women with basic decency. But when that doesn't result in them getting laid, they decide women must only like assholes.
Side notes: -Treating people with respect doesn't mean you deserve sex -If you are only nice to someone so they will sleep with you, you aren't a "nice guy"
True. We should all have common courtesy and be decent human beings to each other. Like earlier today I went out of my way a bit to open a door for an elderly lady. Did I want to bang her? No.
I think most people confuse the therms "confident" with asshole and "nice guy" with "unconfident". They are not the same thing. You can be a decent human being without being unconfident. And guess what? Most of those appointed as "nice guys" with a derisive tone are not nice at all, just manipulative douchebags who thinks their manners should be prized.
You should be gentle and caring with everyone, not just with women (if you are a man) or just with men (if you are a woman).
There's a difference between a Nice guy and a "nice guy". The "Nice guy" acts nice, He'll put his jacket on a puddle so she doesn't get her feet wet and expect sex in return... He'll also let her walk all over him without saying anything. Whereas the nice guy will tease her and be a bit of a dick in a fun way but if she needs him he'll be there. He'll also not shy away from telling her she's out of line when she is.
Women have changed the definition of "Nice Guy" to be a negative stigma. Now a "Nice Guy" is a guy who thinks he's a nice guy but in reality can't get laid because of his overwhelming shortcomings.
Thanks women, being a "Nice Guy" isn't an option, it's a drop in our defense so you can take advantage of our courtesy.
Most people see this "nice" guy as someone who is deliberately nice to women expecting to get something out of it and become bitter about women if sex isn't the reward...
The difference between the nice guy and the bad guy is... The bad guy is honest, bold and goes for what he wants.
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I believe there are some women who genuinely want and look for nice guys. I also know for a fact that most women who are honest with themselves (and others) will tell you it is the bad boys who make their pussies wet.
In general women fuck bad boys and marry nice guys. I don't fault them for that. Guys do the same things... we fuck sluts and marry virgins. It's all good... as long as you are honest about it. Please just be honest about it for crying out loud.
why do you care about me faulting them for it? It's their decision. I just know many of them that complain about it and expect me to feel sympathy for them when he doesn't want to be tied down.
There's a difference between a "nice guy" and a "herb" though and the problem is that most nice guys are herbs. The rule is, don't be a herb, be a gentleman.
Who cares about women. I used to be a nice guy. I had a girl like me when I was in high school. Men need to be an a hole for good reason. Men are treated like crap by society.
It's simple, just as there are nice guys in the world, there are also NICE GIRLS in the world. So guys should be wise to know who to devote their love to :)
I don't know man. So... Do they want a guy who flirts with them by being arrogant and rude and then eventually is nice after? Do they want men nice at certain times of the day? what are they playing at cause they don't respond to niceness at all and they can't be unaware of that
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I like your take. It's very simple and optimistic. However, I do think there are legitimate arguments to be made for why women should avoid nice guys. And I'm not saying that to be mean. I'm probably what most people would consider a nice guy too, so it's not like I'm hating on anyone, I get it. Still, nice guys just lack passion, and you can't have love with no passion.
I disagree. My type is reserved men, always has been.
I've found that sometimes, once you get past the shyness and they grow comfortable with you, there is a very passionate man who has been hiding his desires until the right moment.
And goddamn, when they let loose, it can be intense. It's also special because you know they aren't this passionate about any girl who happens along, either.
I feel like the "nice guy" thing is a bunch of guys who think they are amazing because they treat women with basic decency. But when that doesn't result in them getting laid, they decide women must only like assholes.
Side notes:
-Treating people with respect doesn't mean you deserve sex
-If you are only nice to someone so they will sleep with you, you aren't a "nice guy"
Thank you!
True. We should all have common courtesy and be decent human beings to each other. Like earlier today I went out of my way a bit to open a door for an elderly lady. Did I want to bang her? No.
@Nyx_85 Exactly! Like people can and should be nice just because, without expecting something in return.
I think most people confuse the therms "confident" with asshole and "nice guy" with "unconfident".
They are not the same thing. You can be a decent human being without being unconfident. And guess what? Most of those appointed as "nice guys" with a derisive tone are not nice at all, just manipulative douchebags who thinks their manners should be prized.
You should be gentle and caring with everyone, not just with women (if you are a man) or just with men (if you are a woman).
There's a difference between a Nice guy and a "nice guy". The "Nice guy" acts nice, He'll put his jacket on a puddle so she doesn't get her feet wet and expect sex in return... He'll also let her walk all over him without saying anything. Whereas the nice guy will tease her and be a bit of a dick in a fun way but if she needs him he'll be there. He'll also not shy away from telling her she's out of line when she is.
Women have changed the definition of "Nice Guy" to be a negative stigma. Now a "Nice Guy" is a guy who thinks he's a nice guy but in reality can't get laid because of his overwhelming shortcomings.
Thanks women, being a "Nice Guy" isn't an option, it's a drop in our defense so you can take advantage of our courtesy.
Most people see this "nice" guy as someone who is deliberately nice to women expecting to get something out of it and become bitter about women if sex isn't the reward...
The difference between the nice guy and the bad guy is... The bad guy is honest, bold and goes for what he wants.
I believe there are some women who genuinely want and look for nice guys. I also know for a fact that most women who are honest with themselves (and others) will tell you it is the bad boys who make their pussies wet.
In general women fuck bad boys and marry nice guys. I don't fault them for that. Guys do the same things... we fuck sluts and marry virgins. It's all good... as long as you are honest about it. Please just be honest about it for crying out loud.
I fault them for it big time
@noesbueno Why?
why do you care about me faulting them for it? It's their decision. I just know many of them that complain about it and expect me to feel sympathy for them when he doesn't want to be tied down.
@noesbueno You're right dude, I don't give a fuck what you think. Piss off.
thanks bud
I love nice men, but you have to be careful cause a lot them are just fuckboys in disguise and think being nice will score them women.
Yesss, my thoughts exactly!
> You're looking for a quality girl among the riff raff
You know, you would be astounded at the 100% rate of girls who consider themselves "quality" and most other girls "riff-raff."
Funny how this works.
There's a difference between a "nice guy" and a "herb" though and the problem is that most nice guys are herbs. The rule is, don't be a herb, be a gentleman.
Who cares about women. I used to be a nice guy. I had a girl like me when I was in high school. Men need to be an a hole for good reason. Men are treated like crap by society.
Meh being nice is a waste of time and has lot of negative connotations such as the fedora neckbeard stereotype.
Very true. There are genuinely nice guys out there who just want a girlfriend, someone he can be with and share bad jokes with.
Actually its a matter of choice
Because we accept the love we deserve
Great "mytake" congratulations but unfortunately i still believe most of girls prefer bad guys in my country:( I hope i am wrong.
by the way can you send me a pm, i want to talk about this topic a little bit (although most probably you won't do this but i offered)
Nice guys are only attractive if their faces are attractive.
It's simple, just as there are nice guys in the world, there are also NICE GIRLS in the world. So guys should be wise to know who to devote their love to :)
The problem is that a lot of women don't see you as a nice guy until they have dated assholes.
"Women do want a nice guy. They want someone who is going to treat them with respect"
I LOL'd
I don't know man. So... Do they want a guy who flirts with them by being arrogant and rude and then eventually is nice after? Do they want men nice at certain times of the day? what are they playing at cause they don't respond to niceness at all and they can't be unaware of that
Nice is good start for any relationship. I agree.