I‘ve read on the internet way too much about nice guys. When I hear a guy classifying himself as nice guy, my first thought is what the hell does he mean when he says I’m a nice guy? Since this appears to me as a reoccurring problem in the western or Indian culture. And well, as you have guessed I’m not part of it, I’m going to give my opinion as a watcher.
Before people get in a rage and attack my culture, yes we have our flaws as well, but I don’t see any one on here from the same culture as mine and that is not the issue here either way.
1. Nice guys are always left for the assholes.
This seems to me like a mantra that proclaimed nice guys on the internet repeat. The question that comes to my mind after this is why? There is a number of hypothesis that come to mind:
a- They are pursuing a girl and she doesn’t respond to his advances.
b- They were dating some girls and they eventually left them.
However, does going through this make men bitter about women and unfortunately women haters? If you are a genuinely nice guy, you will treat women nice, and that contradicts with the bashing you do on women in general. Everyone goes through rejection, some more some less, the way you cope with rejection is what defines you as a ‘Good man’.
I like using this term better because it doesn’t have a pejorative connotation. If you become a bitter man who disrespects women then what does that tell about you? The nice guy act was just an act and once you were rejected you dropped it and showed your true features.
Will you honestly come and say that this is a nice guy? If some do then they are just in denial, and well they act this way.
2. What is then a Good man?
I like this quote because it sums up my view. All proclaimed nice guys have a woman in their life who he is not interested in, if you proclaim that women are shallow and superficial and only go for jerks then are you implying that your mother, sister, daughter or friend are the same? I honestly hope you are not.
So what is a good man?
a- A good man respects everyone not just the woman he is pursuing.
b- A good man has manners
c- A good man is reflected by his actions not just his words.
d- And finally a good man accepts where he is wrong and tries to better himself.
To sum it up, A good man is A basic Good human being
Now that we have differentiated between a good man and a proclaimed nice guy who is not, I hope that I’ve gotten my point across.
Next time I’m going to write about some mistakes in the dating world that some good men make, and well till next time. Bye.