To all the guys who got dumped or cheated on!

[just_legit1998]

Society has told us that men usually take longer to move on from heartbreaks. Especially when they're the ones who got dumped or cheated on. You might feel guilty because she left but let me tell you this. Know that it's not your fault! Guilt and loathing is probably on your mind now, but once you realized that the efforts you've made for that woman is more that much, you won't blame yourself anymore because this will show that you really loved her and you've done your part. As of this moment, let your emotions out instead of bottling it. This is a healthy way to release all the negative feelings you have. As much as possible take time to heal. Do what you always wanted and stick to the ones you have connection with like your family or friends. They will nurture you no matter what happens.\! Then, don't stop loving! I learned that when you continue to love even though you had your heart broken, it shows that you'll be emotionally healthy and strong. Because you choose to forgive the ones who hurt you. Just remember that you are loved, you're complete on your own, you deserve happiness, you're capable of healing and you're powerful! You deserve a woman who will treat you right and reciprocate your love! But right now, take care of yourselves first and release the past. Don't fall for the "men take longer to heal" BS as this will only hinder you again. To the women who dumped or cheated on them: THANK YOU for stepping away as you just proved to be the wrong persons in their lives! I hope you don't experience heartbreak like they did because it hurts like needles in your skin! I really hope you guys heal and be able to see that girl who will wipe your tears and turn that frown upside down! I've been there and done that, hurts AF but we need to accept this. To all the women entering next to them: Please take care of him, show him the world and love him unlike the last women who didn't. Good luck to you guys, I wish you all the best and I hope I helped you all! PEACE OUT!

[NicoD]

Everyone in life will be betrayed by someone they have love interest in. That's life. What it supposed to teach us is that what were the reasons was it right or wrong and to communicate how each other feels. a lot of people as good as it may feel or seem don't match up on the long term scale for whatever reason. That's why when you meet someone new and you got those inner feelings of she or he got to be the one take a huge assement and find out what the other long term plans are and if you fit in. Sometimes you might meet someone and fuck. doesn't mean you fall in love. Cause sometime certain people are choosen just to help relieve some much needed stress or pressure and timing is everything. But don't take it to heart because she chose you that you've become a love interest until you get verbal confirmation. So to all of us who have been down this road don't trip. You might bee the new love interest you might just be a choosen stress reliever. And to both sexes sometime a great lay is better than thinking I found the one. Pain and hurt are a part of growth and maturity. Fellas don't no woman want no whiney pissy momma's boy and ladies don't no man want no woman who still act out with temper tantrums like she still in her adolescent teen years. And if in the end something you hoped would work doesn't. Have a sit down and talk so you both can be on the same page with understanding as key. That way there is no bad blood or hard feelings. In the end

[jwellss]

Great post. I was cheated on by my girlfriend of 1.5 years just over a year ago. She left me insecure af and in probably the worst place I've ever been in my life. 4 months later I decided that my life needed a turn around. I began to take drugs which lead to an embarrassment of myself to the whole school including staff. I thought fuck them all, I will fucking show them. I was always extremely lanky and this was a great insecurity of mine (even though it shouldn't have been at all). 9 months after I began lifting and fuck me it's changed my life. I got seriously into it and started dieting correctly to maximise my gains and become the best version of myself. This was all apart of my plan to change my social status which was at a definite all time low. Anyway 13 months later I'm a whole new person and I think it's very much safe to say the last 13 months of my life have been profoundly better than my ex's lol. Anyway, this is just how I went about my situation. I get everyone will have different approaches; this was mine. The first photo is a month before she cheated on me, the second was 2 weeks ago.

[bubblezzzz]

Aw good for you!! I'm so sorry she cheated, but you turned yourself around for the positive.

[joeshi]

I know this post is towards the guys but in every relationship I’ve been in I’ve been cheated on 🙋🏽‍♀️ hurts like hell still. Thanks for the post

[just_legit1998]

No problem.

[beautifuljoan]

I dumped him, but I regret it!

[Sasuke124]

well there's no coming back I am sorry.

[DrakeHart]

Great post, to be honest was cheated on 3 months ago and its been hard for me since, i can't even go in public without wanting to be blindfolded if i see anything that relates to love, it just makes me feel like my hearts crushing under the weight of it, and feels like the world just taunts me at that rate, i used to go out with friends usually before 3 months, lately been staying home, but thanks man, reading that really put my head into a brighter sort of thinking, and feels like i dont have to blame myself as much because someone actually understands what me and any other person in my situation is going through, so man, rock on big inspiration what this has done right now

[MrWigglesworth]

That was the most effort I've seen in someone trying to help the mans broken heart. Mine specifically was done in probably the most cold hearted lame manner ever. I will never trust again & Live only for my son that I have 4 days a week. I despise waking up each day! The other days I can only plot her demise & the disappearance of her new mate. When i need some adult fun im prepaying for my pussy here out. Hookers & strippers only. In addition we hold onto it longer just like anything we are passionate about. Women on the other hand can do a 360 in the drop of a hat. From 1 extreme to another. I've seen it enough times to know.

[canichangethislater]

I still blame myself for allowing myself to get depressed. Once that happened it definitely hurt our relationship and she eventually left me. I had just given up at the time but now I'm making a comeback. No matter how many distractions i give myself I don't go one day without thinking of her though. I am so conflicted tbh.

[just_legit1998]

Time will give you enough healing. You just have to believe man.

[Hydrogen]

Took me exactly one day to forget about 5 year long relationship. I'm not heartless and I get VERY attached (not stalker like but more "I'd kill for her" like). However, I have on/off switch in my head that just let's me cut power to past things, when someone I know dies I can mourn for one day and then just forget about it the next day and live normally, I have no regrets and no sadness towards anyone. It's a great thing to be able to filter past from present easily as an on/off switch.

[jmorris86]

Your mindset after being cheated on is extremely important. In today's world you are far more likely to be cheated on than not so if you are cheated on, try not to take it personally. It's not because you're not good enough, its because she has low self esteem and needs a boost. Think of this and move on.

[CandacePerry]

It for guys. I also got cheated with different ex boyfriend. Cheating is a choice in my eyes.

[Anonymous]

Men often take longer to move on from heartbreaks because (as those of us know by having read "Are Men the Weaker Sex?", free from Smashwords), they are emotionally not as strong as women. If they're hurt by one woman, they'll often take it out on all women: "I'll make them all pay!" (Or maybe they're just using that as an excuse for being jealous/envious of women and their strength.)

[just_legit1998]

I don't believe that. People who won't open up are the ones who are able to move on longer. That's like saying, women are always right by saying "all men are the same".

[highjinx]

she dump you that can only mean one thing, party time!! fuck yeah !

[Anonymous]

I really wish my ex all the best...

[just_legit1998]

Did he cheated on you or broke up with you?

[Opinion Owner]

I broke up with him. He loved me, but I didn't love him anymore

[just_legit1998]

I'm sorry he had to go through that.

[just_legit1998]

*you both

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks, me too. But it was for the best

[Asirea]

Glad I never experienced that. sorry bro

[Jmmmfi4]

Yeah that's girls are literally completely heartless

[Anonymous]

GOD is above the dome

women suck

and I'm MGTOW
so I'm out

[Anonymous]

Oh, a lot of times it IS our fault!