The difference between real nice guys and those who fake.

[Steakismeat]

As a nice guy and reading some of the terrible shit being said just about nice guys and not saying you’re talking about fake nice guys in my opinion is a bad thing to do because it subverts the meaning of words. Words like nice are supposed to be nice, not mean.

I have seen plenty of women talk about how what they call a “nice guy” wasn’t nice to them whereas some jerks had a kind side. Well we are not all one thing or the other. Many jerks are jerks the majority of the time while they are nice not so much because their kind side is just that. Its a different side of themselves they don’t show often.

With Nice guys like myself we can occasionally get mad and be a bit of a jerk. In my case when I would be in the middle of a videogame or movie, etc. i would get very iritable if I was interrupted. We can also get mad because, being a nice guy or girl, people tend to take advantage of our kind hearts. So they can feel like they are so selfless and no one bothers to reciprocate such kindness. If they think oh you did something nice so they deserve sex they are pathetic. If they are really nice and sweet and so they think people should be really nice and sweet to them one could think it being selfish, but its not as selfish as a lot of jerks who expect you to give them everything and they don’t owe you anything.

If they truly are nice, when you do them favors they would be asking you if you need anything because they feel guilty that you are so good to them and they wish to feel like they are being good to you in return. Nice guys are the guys who keep getting told you have to be a jerk to get a girl to like you, but are so repulsed by the idea of being mean or making a girl think you’re mean just to trick them into liking you. You would try and try and try again being uncompromisingly as nice as you can be so when you go home depressed it’s because no one loves you instead of you hurt the one who loves you.

[divspppp]

I agree. Some women r just immature and want difficult guys for the thrill. Ignore them.

[sekisui]

Everyone has good and bad moods. I think the difference lies in what you value and how consistently you hold true to your values.