Never been friend zoned. I seem to have the opposite problem. Female friends who I have had and some of which I still have often at some point want to be more. Me, if I am interested in a woman, I don't put myself out there to be her buddy. I am upfront about what I am wanting connection-wise, so I leave no room for any interpretations of friendship. Now this doesn't mean that I won't become her best friend, but it would be in the confines of an actual relationship.
So maybe I am doing something right, where other guys aren't being forward about what type of relationship they are looking for and often end up being looked at as a friend and not a potential mate.
That's just me though, I can't speak for everyone.
I never heard of the friend zone till I was older. The girls who were my friends were never anyone I was interested in. The girls I asked out for a date never became a friend. Albeit I didn't have cellphones and social media then.
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A life without cellphones and social media. Must be nice.
Its part of why i refuse to accept the friend zone. the moment she said "Lets just be friends" my one and only response is "Sorry if i was interested in just being friends that's what i would have pushed for, Bye" Then i cut them off. I pretend like they dont exist. I ghost them. Literally 9 times out of 10 they come crawling back begging for a second chance because they made a mistake. My one and only response at that point "You need to learn to accept the consequences of your actions. You had your chance, i'm done with you"
Oh and i married the one that chose not to friend zone me. The ones that chose to friend zone me are beneath me, that's why they didn't get a second chance.
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The friend zone is almost entirely the woman's fault. Its the 80/20 rule. 80% of women only want the top 20% of men. And when they are in their late 20's early thirties, have multiple children with multiple fathers, they are dont riding the cock carousel, That is when they start bitching that there are no more good men. They are there, we are just too busy dating younger hotter women.
You can't put yourself in the friend zone. Its solely up to the person that chooses not to go out with the friend zoned individual. I don't cast judgement on either party because its highly circumstantial and nuanced. Not every situation is the same, I've found.
the guy is always to blame for putting himself there. Even if say the girl lead him on just to use him for attention or validation, he needs to just take the L and walk away. Stop giving her any attention at all and go hang out with other girls. It just makes it worse if you try and be her friend in the hopes that maybe she’ll “change her mind” eventually.
Yes the guy can walk away. But women will often set up this crap to just string him along as much as possible so she can exploit him as much as possible. Society gives her a “pass” on her bullshit.
Not to say the guy is always the “victim” here. But just because you can do something to someone (friéndzone) doesn’t mean you SHOULD do it.
And very few people are calling out women for doing this. It’s always easier to just blame the guy for acting weak and naive. In fact according to feminism the friéndzone doesn’t “exist”.
I never believed i the friend zone. I did have female friends but they were never girls i was interested in dating. If I wanted to date somebody and she was not interested I might keep trying form a while but finally I would find somebody else.
i think that friendzone is the worst thing in the world. guys and girls become friends. when two friends realized that they have romantic feelings for each other. girl confesses her feelings to her guy friend. he turned her down because he has a girlfriend. that's the worst thing about friendzone.
It only exists if there is a lack of commitment or not will to commit to the relationship. When girls put me in the friends zone I think of 2 things, Not ready to commit, and Im going to have to work for who knows long at it. It has a tendency to cause this vicious cycle.
Do you know how I stop females from doing such a thing to people? I have both parties get into a sparring match. It is called the utter essence of the Code of Bushido aka the way of the warrior. If they cannot stand the to toe with you, they cannot date you.
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There's no such thing as the friend zone. She's interested or she's not. And most women simply do not really know what they want most times.
I used to friendzone girls back in the day. I did not realize they had crushes on me. I have also pined, crushed, friendzoned for some trophy girls too. Getting rejected is part of life. It is what it is. Everybody wants what they can't have.
you can't put yourself in the friendzone. cause you can not determine that the other person only sees you as the friend. they do that.
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You’re out of touch with reality
Girl makes it clear to boy she isn’t interested. But because girl cares about boy, she wants to stay friends. Boy sticks around hoping for sex
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That's not what the guys on this post have said. Who do you expect me to believe, my own eye as well as the guys who said they've been through this or you?
@ mytakeowner I agree w/ you. Women dont like to hear this because you're actually taking some accountability. Typically guys who end up in this friendzone cycle are guys who dont have the ability to attract other women so they stick around thinking they can leverage the friendship into sex.
If we truly care, we would let them go to meet a girl who will give him the love that he is looking for. I was selfish and clueless… I spent time with guys while single and even when I had a partner…looking back.. I wasted their time. I am teaching my 14 yr. old daughter to be nice.. but not keep guys as “friends “ to treat them like their girlfriend. Or say things like…we are like brother/sister. I think it’s wrong to do that.
@midnightmoon05 The fact that you have to share that w/ a 14yr old is so intriguing to me. At what age would you say girls start realizing that they are able to manipulate men?
@Vegasrunner some knows exactly what they are doing and feel good about it. Some don’t. I never knew I was doing that till I read about it here on GAG. I was just having fun hanging out with guys. I also learned to not be too friendly with guys. In terms of girls learning to be manipulative.. I think it’s in us. Some were taught to stay away from guys. Nowadays parents don’t talk to kids about these…so they all play together.
@midnightmoon05 Thanks that's great info and I agree w/ your opinion. Guys need to learn to have boundaries and an abundance mentality. If you're going to constantly let someone manipulate you then you get what you deserve.
Guy will pull away knowing he doesn't want to be her friend and wants to move on. I don't know how likely you are to give a chance in a romantic way if you already "friend zoned" him.
Bruh, if what you describe is happening you to you, YOU'RE the one that's getting friendzoned.
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"I recall accidentally doing this to a guy once even."..."But how are these guys getting themselves in these situations?"
"Girl initiates contact with + flirts with guy again over time (either out of guilt or for attention)"..."Guy gets hopes up again, repeat steps 3 - 7"
Ummm, are you really this ignorant?
Don't do this to guys! You make the rest of us look bad.
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Im not doing it? lol. I literally wrote this post in awareness. How is someone doing something once and realizing the negative effects of their actions being ignorant? Sounds like you might be a little ignorant tbh.
I have done it multiple times back in college. Not till I joined gag and learned about friend zone that I feel bad for the guys I friend zoned. I did because it was fun!!! But I learned it was not nice to keep them around.
#5 is partially correct. Yes we pull away, but that's because of sexual assualt, sexual hassarment charges from her. Feminists have turned guys to self preservation. Rather than fighting for the girl.
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Never been friend zoned. I seem to have the opposite problem. Female friends who I have had and some of which I still have often at some point want to be more. Me, if I am interested in a woman, I don't put myself out there to be her buddy. I am upfront about what I am wanting connection-wise, so I leave no room for any interpretations of friendship. Now this doesn't mean that I won't become her best friend, but it would be in the confines of an actual relationship.
So maybe I am doing something right, where other guys aren't being forward about what type of relationship they are looking for and often end up being looked at as a friend and not a potential mate.
That's just me though, I can't speak for everyone.
I never heard of the friend zone till I was older. The girls who were my friends were never anyone I was interested in. The girls I asked out for a date never became a friend. Albeit I didn't have cellphones and social media then.
A life without cellphones and social media. Must be nice.
Its part of why i refuse to accept the friend zone. the moment she said "Lets just be friends" my one and only response is "Sorry if i was interested in just being friends that's what i would have pushed for, Bye" Then i cut them off. I pretend like they dont exist. I ghost them. Literally 9 times out of 10 they come crawling back begging for a second chance because they made a mistake. My one and only response at that point "You need to learn to accept the consequences of your actions. You had your chance, i'm done with you"
Oh and i married the one that chose not to friend zone me. The ones that chose to friend zone me are beneath me, that's why they didn't get a second chance.
The friend zone is almost entirely the woman's fault. Its the 80/20 rule. 80% of women only want the top 20% of men. And when they are in their late 20's early thirties, have multiple children with multiple fathers, they are dont riding the cock carousel, That is when they start bitching that there are no more good men. They are there, we are just too busy dating younger hotter women.
You can't put yourself in the friend zone. Its solely up to the person that chooses not to go out with the friend zoned individual. I don't cast judgement on either party because its highly circumstantial and nuanced. Not every situation is the same, I've found.
the guy is always to blame for putting himself there. Even if say the girl lead him on just to use him for attention or validation, he needs to just take the L and walk away. Stop giving her any attention at all and go hang out with other girls. It just makes it worse if you try and be her friend in the hopes that maybe she’ll “change her mind” eventually.
Yes the guy can walk away. But women will often set up this crap to just string him along as much as possible so she can exploit him as much as possible. Society gives her a “pass” on her bullshit.
Not to say the guy is always the “victim” here. But just because you can do something to someone (friéndzone) doesn’t mean you SHOULD do it.
And very few people are calling out women for doing this. It’s always easier to just blame the guy for acting weak and naive. In fact according to feminism the friéndzone doesn’t “exist”.
I never believed i the friend zone. I did have female friends but they were never girls i was interested in dating. If I wanted to date somebody and she was not interested I might keep trying form a while but finally I would find somebody else.
i think that friendzone is the worst thing in the world. guys and girls become friends. when two friends realized that they have romantic feelings for each other. girl confesses her feelings to her guy friend. he turned her down because he has a girlfriend. that's the worst thing about friendzone.
It only exists if there is a lack of commitment or not will to commit to the relationship. When girls put me in the friends zone I think of 2 things, Not ready to commit, and Im going to have to work for who knows long at it. It has a tendency to cause this vicious cycle.
Do you know how I stop females from doing such a thing to people? I have both parties get into a sparring match. It is called the utter essence of the Code of Bushido aka the way of the warrior. If they cannot stand the to toe with you, they cannot date you.
There's no such thing as the friend zone. She's interested or she's not. And most women simply do not really know what they want most times.
True!
I used to friendzone girls back in the day. I did not realize they had crushes on me. I have also pined, crushed, friendzoned for some trophy girls too. Getting rejected is part of life. It is what it is. Everybody wants what they can't have.
you can't put yourself in the friendzone. cause you can not determine that the other person only sees you as the friend. they do that.
You’re out of touch with reality
Girl makes it clear to boy she isn’t interested. But because girl cares about boy, she wants to stay friends. Boy sticks around hoping for sex
That's not what the guys on this post have said. Who do you expect me to believe, my own eye as well as the guys who said they've been through this or you?
@ mytakeowner I agree w/ you. Women dont like to hear this because you're actually taking some accountability. Typically guys who end up in this friendzone cycle are guys who dont have the ability to attract other women so they stick around thinking they can leverage the friendship into sex.
If we truly care, we would let them go to meet a girl who will give him the love that he is looking for.
I was selfish and clueless… I spent time with guys while single and even when I had a partner…looking back.. I wasted their time.
I am teaching my 14 yr. old daughter to be nice.. but not keep guys as “friends “ to treat them like their girlfriend. Or say things like…we are like brother/sister.
I think it’s wrong to do that.
@midnightmoon05 The fact that you have to share that w/ a 14yr old is so intriguing to me. At what age would you say girls start realizing that they are able to manipulate men?
@Vegasrunner some knows exactly what they are doing and feel good about it. Some don’t.
I never knew I was doing that till I read about it here on GAG. I was just having fun hanging out with guys.
I also learned to not be too friendly with guys.
In terms of girls learning to be manipulative.. I think it’s in us. Some were taught to stay away from guys. Nowadays parents don’t talk to kids about these…so they all play together.
Guys have to be smart to walk away.
@midnightmoon05 So you believe that every woman from birth instinctively knows how to manipulate men?
@Vegasrunner I am not sure. I have seen them as young as 4,5 years old getting boys do things for them.
@midnightmoon05 Thanks that's great info and I agree w/ your opinion. Guys need to learn to have boundaries and an abundance mentality. If you're going to constantly let someone manipulate you then you get what you deserve.
Guy will pull away knowing he doesn't want to be her friend and wants to move on. I don't know how likely you are to give a chance in a romantic way if you already "friend zoned" him.
Bruh, if what you describe is happening you to you, YOU'RE the one that's getting friendzoned.
"I recall accidentally doing this to a guy once even."..."But how are these guys getting themselves in these situations?"
"Girl initiates contact with + flirts with guy again over time (either out of guilt or for attention)"..."Guy gets hopes up again, repeat steps 3 - 7"
Ummm, are you really this ignorant?
Don't do this to guys! You make the rest of us look bad.
Im not doing it? lol. I literally wrote this post in awareness. How is someone doing something once and realizing the negative effects of their actions being ignorant? Sounds like you might be a little ignorant tbh.
I have done it multiple times back in college. Not till I joined gag and learned about friend zone that I feel bad for the guys I friend zoned.
I did because it was fun!!! But I learned it was not nice to keep them around.
Thank you very very much
you have proved that dating is indeed a scam...
guy needs guarantee that girl doesn't freak out and girl needs guarantee that guy doesn't abandon
I don't know what you call it but I have a lot of really close female friends that I would never consider having sex with
One of my friends she's probably old enough to be my grandma like in her '80s do anybody have friends that are old enough to be your mom or grandma
I don't think a smart guy can be friendzoned... You can always tell whether she likes that way or not... Otherwise you're very desperate lol
#5 is partially correct. Yes we pull away, but that's because of sexual assualt, sexual hassarment charges from her. Feminists have turned guys to self preservation. Rather than fighting for the girl.