I often hear, “She’s used up any nobody wants an older woman. Older men are very desirable though!” When I really don’t see that being the case, other than when grooming high school girls or freshly graduated teenagers. The only young twenty women I know who want older men only want those older men if they’re wealthy… which in case they get called gold diggers.
Somehow these older men think it’s the age that makes them more desirable and don’t process that it’s the money; then they’ll get upset because they’re old without much money… thus being less desirable than young men for many reasons. Young men also like an older woman with money just the same. But the thing I notice is older men (and sometimes women) go younger and younger to try to seduce a teenage minor because her peers are hardly to compete with financially and they’re easier to manipulate.
I understand why young women are more appealing, it’s the same reason why men my age are more physically appealing. But it doesn’t mean older men and women aren’t sexy in a different kind of way… but I wouldn’t date a 40yo broke man while I would date a 21yo broke man. A man may date an emotionally immature 21yo but he wouldn’t date an emotionally immature 40yo woman.
it’s not even usually successful older men making this point, because they’re not desperate to prove themselves to anyone. They know they’re desirable and can have a desirable woman. It’s emotionally immature poor older men who want to say, “older women are yucky but older men are automatically desirable to teenagers” the only time that’s even true is when it’s a teenager whose already been groomed and damaged… so leave her alone please 😂
it’s just gross that they don’t realize how gross they are. I’m fine with a 21yo dating a 40yo… I just don’t understand why these older men who have little going for them and a beer belly think they’re somehow more desirable than a woman their age. A young woman doesn’t want an older man to have kids with unless he’s wealthy. She’s trading off kids having their father for longer, and a good protector, as well as a higher risk of Down syndrome… that’s not young and virile dudes! Young men and young women are more desirable and older men and women are only going to be desirable if they have something else to offer that makes people overlook their negative.