Sensitive Guys <3

[Anonymous]

In today's world, guys are made to believe that they can't cry. Being a man, they are forced to toughen up and hence, to hide their tears behind the persona of indifference. It does not only make it seem like guys are emotionless but also makes a girl wonder if a guy cares at all.

There are few, lucky guys who are still in touch with their emotions. They know how to express themselves. They cry when they are terribly tormented. They admit their gratitude when girls do something for them.They doesn't shy away from shedding a tear during the climax of Titanic either. They are the sensitive guys.

It is always believed that girls need a strong guy. Strength is not always measured through physique, but mental strength is also important. Just because you cry, it doesn't make you weak. It just means that you are more in tune with your emotions. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Crying like a baby all the time is one thing, but showing your emotions when they are supposed to be there is another. Guys don't need to push their emotions away. Your girl would appreciate your honesty. Amidst this whole trend of alpha men, there are still some girls who care about sensitive, empathetic guys.

So, to all the sensitive guys out there, you peeps are amazing. No matter what others say. You are emotional, and emotions are beautiful things. They are what make us human. There are always girls out there who would appreciate your this side, as you people can also be awesome boyfriends, husbands and fathers just like all other guys.

[SammyGurl]

I don't see anything wrong with a guy who sheds a tear once in a while, especially over something or someone he's passionate about. My Dad (former US Marine Officer). Not only can be as tough as they come, but I've seen him cry over some small events. I've seen Dad well up with a tear or two over a sad movie, over his pride in his kids accomplishments, over losing hid favorite dog, over appologising to my Mom when he's blown it. Truthfully, it's something that I find appealing in a man, a husband for sure, il like it that a man can be in touch with their feelings. I also believe that it is easier for a guy to show his emotions today than it was say when our grandfathers were young men, probably even more so when their fathers were young. Times were hard then, there were two world wars, a depression and many faced hardship more often than they should have, looking at that it's pretty easy being a young man right now. I wouldn't feel the same if a guy was a crybaby versus in touch and able to express emotions, after all it's those emotions that make us human. I also expect that a man can be strong when he needs to be, that he is able to control those emotions when it is appropriate. (Same goes for us girls controling emotions when appropriate.)

[Anonymous]

In order to succeed in the world you need to toughen up. Our emotions was just one of the many sacrifices that men in the past made that women took for granted. In the past women had a privilege of greater protection, as the weaker gender. So women enjoyed being able to express and seek help for their emotions. Back then women didn't even have to take care of themselves, because a man would make sure she was taken care of.

In modern times things are changing. Women are starting to put their emotions aside in order to compete in the rat race. Men still receive less help for our emotions than women, so men learn early not to show them, but the fact is that emotions are a weakness. If someone spots fear, uncertainty, they will exploit it. That is just a sad fact of life. If someone isn't there to protect you, then you can't afford to show your emotions. So men aren't going to open up much more, but women will be showing their emotions less and less as the gender roles vanish.

No I am not complaining about gender roles vanishing. I am just stating the fact that gender roles did provide women with some privileges, that are largely overlooked. This is why women felt more free to show their emotions.

[myTake Owner]

Times have changed. We must change as well and learn to accept everyone's emotions.

[Opinion Owner]

That may sound like good advice, but reality is much different. In the real world it is, always has been, and always will be, survival of the fittest. Emotions are a weakness that others will exploit. What we should change is to stop teaching people it is okay to turn themselves into victims by showing emotion.

[myTake Owner]

Showing emotions does not turn you into victims. This mentality is the only reason I wrote this take. As per ME, a guy is strong who can accept himself and hisvemotions as they are.

[Opinion Owner]

The reason we have this mentality is from experience. I know you mean well, but telling men to not be afraid to show emotion is setting men up to be hurt. You have never lived as a man, so you really haven't paid attention to how differently men are treated.

The reality is men are not allowed by society to show certain emotions. Just pay attention to what men and women write on here. Anytime a woman has an issue and her boyfriend acts insecure, everyone tells her to dump him and find a real man. If a man has an issue with his girlfriend being insecure, then he is told to be sensitive, and respectful of her feelings. In addition we constantly hear people talk about how a guy needs to act in order to be a "real man", but never what it takes to be a real woman.

You need to go after people that are making fun of men that show emotions. The people that force men into gender roles need to be called out for being sexists. Instead you are telling victims to go out and get hurt again.

[myTake Owner]

Sensitive guys are not victims. Just because you are sensitive, you are not a victim. Other people might try to put you down, but let's agree, the world always tries to find flaws in you. There are some people who value these emotions. I don't find anything wrong with sensitivity. Double standards always exist. Like the example you gave. Now, if a guy sleeps around , he is cool. If a girl sleeps around, she is slut. But at the end, society's standards are BS.

[Opinion Owner]

A guy that sleeps around is not cool. Rather a guy that is cool has an easier time sleeping around than a guy that is socially awkward. I don't know why women tend to look at that backwards. Guys like James Bond would still be cool, even if they weren't sleeping around. That doesn't mean that him sleeping around is what makes him cool.

Most real double standards are designed under the belief that women need more protection than men, because they are weaker and more emotional than men. This means women get more help when they have a problem, but it also means women are taken less seriously in the business world.

[godfatherfan]

Here is the problem with your comments. As soon as your woman see's you cry, your done. Women need to feel safe. When your the strong man that can handle anything they will drop to their knees and even swallow. But as soon as they see you cry, your basically a woman and that safety they feel is gone. You will get kicked to the curb quick. There are a few exceptions. The first time my (ex) wife ever saw me cry was at my grandmothers funeral. We were together about 13 -15 years at that point. Funerals are ok because it has proper context.
It really sucks because I have gone through some major therapy in the last 3 years while I went through the divorce I did not want. I am a very different person. I also end up crying at some commercials on tv sometimes. that is seriously sucking because that can't happen if I want to find someone else.
So women need to really think if this is something they truly want to see... I don't think most women want to see their man cry because there is a cute puppy in the yard...

[myTake Owner]

Who said that as soon as a girl will see a guy cry, she's done? Okay, let me tell you something. My parents have been married for 25 years. They fell in love and got married. Now, my father cried in front of my mother during a very stressful period of his life when financial conditions were bad. My mother didn't leave my father. She stuck with him through thick and thin. This is what LOVE is. Moreover, she has seen him crying over a movie as well. She never flinched when he showed emotions. In fact, my mother appreciated it as it shows how much father appreciated the movie's sentiments. If you are looking for a girl just for the sake of a relationship, hide as many emotions as you want. But if a person genuinely loves you and would see you cry, they will give you a tight hug and tell you that everything will be alright. AT least, that's what I do. Emotion is the most beautiful thing created on Earth that makes us human.

[godfatherfan]

sure, they were already married for a while though. Once you get past a certain point it is safe. Also, there always an exception to the rule. I was talking more about before you get married. In some cases maybe even early stage of marriage. It doesn't mean your getting divorced. it does mean, many times, that the way she looks at you changes drastically. There were many times during my marriage I cried. But it was usually in reaction to specific things. The crying that I am talking about is lets say you see a sunset and just start crying "because it is so beautiful..." BS crap like that.
loosing a job, someone dying, extreme stress, those are very different and there are valid reasons behind it that your mother can understand. If a guy cried over the little things women cry about all the time most women are not going to look at that man and feel safe and protected because they aren't going to see a real man. but, as I say, always exceptions to every rule

[myTake Owner]

I fall into that 'Highly sensitive person' temperament. It means my sensitivity and emotions are way too heightened. But guess what? I have never cried over a sunset. Lol. Who does that? As I said in the article, their's a fine line between being sensitive AND over sensitive, and anything that falls in the 'over' realm is harmful. Like, protectiveness is good, but over protectiveness is bad. Not only boys, but girls need to know how to not cross that line. If a girl is crying ALL THE TIME, I am sure no guy would tolerate it. But if I am watching a movie and my bf cries, it's not biggie! It's a movie after all. It's supposed to arise emotions.
And I am highly against being hypocrite. If I can show my emotions whenever I want, so can the guy.

[Yc2K15]

Do you realise that you have just talked a whole heap of bullshit.
how can you even speak on behalf of a mans feelings or emotions if you are not one? just like us men have some stupid comments in this section about acting like they can just type a few words to describe a females emotion, or even talking on behalf of us all.
men and women use al types of emotions equally. you have made me irritated by the post which is an emotion.
men use anger, which is emotion... sometimes telling someone to fuck off really loud can fix your entire week or even month. Men cry when its necessary. We aren't all brainwashed by television and magazines that spill bullshit statistics and stories into a girls head. Women seriously need to stop making assumptions about men and same same.
Sometimes I get so angry that my natural instinct is to kick the shit out of everyone around me and wreck shit. BUT that is socially unacceptable, so i have to bottle up my true emotions and feelings mostly for women because they are typically more affected by violent behaviour. Those emotions build up and sometimes i tear in my eyes. I'm not sad I'm angry.
Would a girl ever respect my emotions as a man to act naturally?
All I'm saying is there is 7 billion of us. It doesn't matter who or where you are you can always find someone to relate to and love. This bullshit just something you have already been brainwashed. thanks for the nice words but try getting to know men better. maybe repost it when your 85 years old

[myTake Owner]

Are you an idiot or what? I am not speaking on behalf of any guy. I am expressing my views on SOME guys who are sensitive.

[myTake Owner]

And YOU are the one here who is trying to speak on behalf of ALL the guys. As if you personally know each one of them.
You asked,"Would a girl ever respect my emotions as a man to act naturally?"
WHO ARE YOU to ask this question and assume an answer from ALL the girls that is going to be fact AS PER YOU
you are 27 and yet no understanding of complexity of human behaviour whatsoever!

[ThatJarHead]

OK you need to STFU!!! Good lord almighty you have got to be the one ass on here who never grew out of his size 2 baby jock strap!!! Grow a motherfcking pair and amit to the world that you cried when the live of your life left you because your a gigantic stereotypical masoganistic racist asswipe. I cry, more than I should probably. I had no idea where I was taking my life, you know what I did? I cried. Not like a child or baby. I cried. That is what makes me a man. Not the fact that I drank my first beer when I was twelve. Not the fact that I lost my virginity when I was 14. The fact that I can admit when I fucked up. Then I can apologize and ACTUALLY FEEL BAD! You gonna be the person who posts on here two days from now asking why girls keep leaving you.

[Yc2K15]

Ok firstly I never spoke on behalf of men, in fact I made a point that you can't speak on behalf of anyone. Secondly, this website is called guys ask girls so if I wanted to ask would women respect my emotions then I can. Your bold letters saying" who are you to ask", my answer is a guy... Yes I went on a bit of a stupid rant but my point was more directed at the fact you think that men don't express themselves freely. And my point is same with women. We're all human we all share emotions. The message you should send is your not alone... Saying it's ok to be like that just sounds like your putting someone. Sorry saying some things I said, but it's in writing now so...

[Yc2K15]

@ThatJarHead racist? Mosogonostic? Beer? Mate you need relax and try reading slower. My opinion as a guy gives me the right and if you are going to call me stereotypical then you should respect my opinion as there may be many others who feel that being told "it's om to cry" is belittling and offensive. I cry all the time, I never said I don't cry or that I'm emotionless. I cried when I watched puss in boots. Congratulations you have cried, you are a man!
Yeah it sounds stupid right? Maybe you can see my point, and yes I got carried away with bullshit. But if you call me racist again I will find you because racism is the worst thing on the planet besides murder, rape and pedophiles. You have no right to say that and you are a piece of shit.

[Xelebrum]

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[myTake Owner]

Okay, I understand. But my whole point in this article is if a guy is sensitive, he doesn't need to change. If a guy is not sensitive, he doesn't need to change as well. But those 'tough' guys don't need to judge the 'sensitive' ones as weak or something. My brother sometimes cry at watching movies, or cry when he fights with my parents but at the same time, he can beat the crap out of a guy who will annoy him and protect his friends as well. So, you see, sensitivity =/= weakness

[Crazyced]

While I think girls my appreciate the idea of emotional men in theory, things prove to be quite different in practice. Nobody respects a man that cries during arguments, girlfriends realising he is out crying her being the 1st. I have seen many times women referring to their partner as ‘their rock’ or ‘strong oak’. I think this is very significant. Imagine a woman finding herself thrown around in a sea of emotion. Being able to latch onto a rock would provide an immense feeling of safety. But what if she suddenly realise that the rock she’s holding onto is in fact just a beach ball thrown around just as much as she does? This would not entice her to stick around.

Here’s a scenario. You’re a woman in a plan and there’s a big thunderstorm. Turbulences are crazy and the plan is suddenly dropping hundreds of feet. You look over to your partner, terrified. Option one, he’s bawling out in his hands, mumbling that he doesn’t want to die. Option two, he looks at you straight in the eyes, grabs you hand and says “Don’t worry honey, everything’s gonna be fine.” I think we all know who most women would pick. And there you have it, men strive to become strong and stoic because centuries of history have told us that this is what women want from us.

The problem with emotions is that you can’t simply put a switch on it.

[myTake Owner]

That's the whole thing you have got wrong. As per you, sensitive = weak and no ability to take decisions. A truly sensitive person is just what he is--a sensitive person. He can be really strong and decisive when he needs to. we all associate sensitivity with weakness when it is not. I am also a sensitive person but I can be a rock to someone despite my tears. I can take sensible decisions instead of crying. Stop showing sensitive people as stupid.

[Crazyced]

If that's what you are referring to then I think you are the one mistaken. Men are and have always been very sensible. They just do it their own, masculin way. Also, I never even came close to call anyone stupid in anything I said.

[myTake Owner]

But crying on a plane than to actually hold on to someone's hand is a stupid scanerio. No matter how sensitive a person is, but when we see our loved ones in danger, our first instinct is to help them out in ANY way ( even if we have tears in our eyes instead of just crying that we are going to die)

[Crazyced]

Ok so you were the one labeling things as stupid. You proved my point right there, I put a scenario where a man is crying and you perceived it as stupid. I rest my case. There is nothing stupid about people crying in the face of perceived imminent death.

You say "Amidst this whole trend of alpha men, there are still some girls who care about sensitive, empathetic guys." If only 'some' care about that, then systematically most care more about other attributes.

I also have a question about: "Crying like a baby all the time is one thing, but showing your emotions when they are supposed to be there is another." I think it's fundamental to determine where the threshold lies between when emotions should and shouldn't be 'there'. In my opinion, it fluctuates wildly with circumstances and perspective. 'Sensible crying' could quickly shift to 'crybaby' if the person happens to do so during an argument you are having with them.

[myTake Owner]

There is nothing stupid crying in the face of death. But if the plane is crashing and despite tears in my eyes, I can't hold someone's hand and say that everythinh would be fine, but keep on crying, it does not make sense. I am a highly sensitive person so I know that weakness and tears are two different things. Read your scanerios again. You have claimed that sensitive people are weak and indecisive through those examples.
Moreover, if we are arguing and one of us burst our crying, I won't judge it. Emotions get too much to handle and they need an outlet. At least, it's much better than a guy who resort to silent treatment instead of talking about problems.

[Crazyced]

"You have claimed that sensitive people are weak" Where did I say that? I have one and only claim here.

Women in general prefer men that are more stoic then them. And as I said earlier, you supported the same claim in your initial take.

[myTake Owner]

I never said anywhere that women prefer stoic men. A relationship should be balanced. When a guy is emotional, we must understand him the same way a guy would understand girl. Moreover, every guy is different. You have your own way of dealing with emotions, and some other guys have their own. Neither you are wrong nor the sensitive guys. So, basically, acceptance is everything instead of treating someone else as inferior.

[Crazyced]

You are attacking a straw man.

[Cynicussummum]

I don't think guys are necessarily insensitive, but I do think a lot of them are afraid to show their emotions. The same goes for girls.

This is probably due to a cultural drive: showing emotions is seen as a sign of weakness. However understandable (as showing emotions does tend to leave you in a vulnerable state), it is, at least in my opinion, undesirable.

The true differentiation lies in whether or not you show your emotions appropriately and adequately.
From a girls point of view, men can be seen as 'insensitive', as they themselves tend to discuss their emotions more frequently.
From a guys point of view, not showing your emotions could be a way to hide their weakness (es). However, to darwinistically 'compete' with other men, they will often not show their emotions to them too.
This also works the other way around as not only guys, but everyone will try to hide their weaknesses as much as possible and - of course - the aforementioned competition is also applicable to girls.
In the end, the whole 'showing your emotions or being (in) sensitive' is quite a skewed image.
As long as showing your emotions is perceived as a negative trait or sign of weakness, people will persist in trying to hide emotions from those who they don't trust, which is generally the case in public situations
and often (especially in puberty/youth) in intersexual contact.

Please remember that the spectrum of human emotion is an intensely difficult subject to fully understand
and grasp and that what I mentioned above is in itself an oversimplification.

-- I think being truly insensitive is extremely difficult to achieve if not pathological.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

I like to express gratitude to people (when it's meaningful) and I tear up all the time. All different kinds of tears. Happy tears, awesome tears, sad tears, really sad tears laughing tears, etc.
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I don't fair too well at funerals at all.

Generally I'm fine with being sensitive, but I'm still concerned about certain things making me look weak. I think we all have weakness. There's a difference between sensitive and weak, but we all have some degree of both. But pointing out that we can't be crybabies suggests that girls still don'ot tolerate that weakness in guys. I'd like to be open about my feelings (sensitive), but I still want to be able to share my feelings when I'm at my lowest point (when I'm weak). But that feels risky because girls say they like sensitive guys but also make the point that we can't be babies. Where is that line? We don't know, so it's easier for guys to err on the side of stoicism and call it healthy, convincing themselves that they are doing right. Just the fact that you create a line for us, means we become very mindful about crossing it.

[myTake Owner]

Being a crybaby is equally bad for a girl. A sensitive girl also has to work up on her emotions because being in touch with your emotions is great, but crying just because someone slightly raised their voice on you. That's called being overly sensitive. That's me. It's hard to handle, but sometimes crying at such small things is really uncalled. We have to learn the difference between sensitive and over sensitive. On the other hand, during break ups, guys are supposed to act manly and toughen up and move on, but if a guy want to sit and cry, he should not be judged.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

If being over-sensitive is being a crybaby then I understand, but you (and other girls) never say what being a crybaby is. That's basically what I mean when I ask where the line is. You don't provide parameters or define it, you all just say "don't a crybaby."

I don't think it's equally bad for a girl. Maybe other girls disapprove of overly sensitive girls, I've heard that from girls before. But with guys they tend to - at least - not mind as much. I know a guy who knows a girl like that, he thinks it's cute and just wants to be their to support her. I've never met a girl overly sensitive like that personally. But I don't think I'd be too bothered or repulsed by it.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

I agree a guy should not be judged, but people don't have a problem with guys who have a cry on their own. I think most girls think of guys as feeling pressured to suppress all (negative) emotions all the time, that's my interpretation anyway. But it's not like that, not only do I not suppress my feelings, I really want to share my feelings. After a break up I don't want to just have a cry, I want to be able to go to a female friend and be as sad as I'd like. I want to get it all out then be done with it and afterwards not be judged by her. I want to still be seen as a potential suitor by her and not a weakling she calls friend.

[myTake Owner]

I have observed that many a times, people tell guys to toughen up during break ups, not to cry and just bang a girl. A guy has to hide his feelings after break ups to not come off as sensitive. Everyone has their own way of handling things. If a guy doesn't cry, great, but we are no one to dictate anyone how some other guys are supposed to feel.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

Well I think going and meeting new girls still works, it's not a bad idea. We can distract ourselves and put our negative feelings on the back burner with we spend time with mates, meet new people (mostly girls), and when we come back to them they've been processing in the background this whole time so they aren't that big a deal anymore and no tears need be shed over the entire process. Does that count as good intrapersonal skills?

Shouldn't it be "if a guy doesn't cry, then meh, that's fine," not "if a guy doesn't cry, great"?
Little things like that still reinforce the pressure on us to suppress our feelings.

[myTake Owner]

Everyone has their own way of working on their emotions. Everyone is different, and we gotta accept that.
And I respect every kind of person. They all are amazing. At the end, it's just my opinion. You don't have to agree with it. Some girls would accept sensitivity, and others won't. I embrace emotions and respect emotional and sensitive people. So, it just varies from girl to girl. And of course, as per me, guys are free to handle their emotions in whichever the way they like.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

I don't think I'm disagreeing with you. I'm just pointing out that if you're going to accept and promote sensitivity among males, then you need to do it wholeheartedly without using qualifiers or restrictions. You're so close to doing that, it's just the odd crybaby remark or "if a guy doesn't cry, great" that holds back the girls who are trying to convince us it's ok to be expressive. Take that attitude and disseminate it, because if there's any doubt in a guy's mind he'll simply choose to err on the side of stoicism.

[myTake Owner]

You are taking it in a wrong way. If a guy doesn't cry, great but if a guy doesn't cry, that's also equally great. My wordings might be a little confusing but I accept emotional and sensitive guys whole heartedly infact, these are the types of guys I am attracted to.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

I believed that was what you meant from the start but the point is you can't expect people to take it the right way. Having the right intentions may count for something but it's very important to be unequivocal. Getting the semantics wrong can undermine your goal. Which leads to discussion like this that are twice as big as your article even when we feel the same way. :)

You're a treasure and we need more girls to openly and enthusiastically propagate this mindset if it's to become mainstream. Yay! Emotions! (^_^ )

[rocelot]

But what emotions? Do you want me to drag on about life's daily grind and how its getting to me and sucking out all my ambition? Do you want me to reflect the anger of my childhood thats wrapped my view of humanity? Do you want me to feel sad when your cat dies? Do you want me to respond to anything in easily digestible bits so you can catch onto the most frivolous aspects of my worries so you can reduce it down to some lame ass half taught psychological profile or some overused inapplicable phrase or saying to you can feign your own emotional maturity on in the delusion that somehow you being emotionally turbulent is excused when you can throw the same accusation at your partner?

Or Maybe its because understanding is one thing, it may make you feel good about yourself, but respect makes you feel good about where you stand in this world. Men would rather be respected than understood. You're say you appreciate men who can show emotion but not respect either those who do or those who don't.

[fitnesspm]

"indifference" what a load of bullshit!! Men work on logic, women on emotion! That's why a guy can bed a woman if he knows game while a women can't cause us guys are attracted via looks!

You are BRAINWASHED by feminism! For a start if we show weakness or cry (I can admit I did when I was young), we lose respect from BOTH men and women. No one wants to know us! We have to act tough so other men want to hang with us and women will be attracted to us!

When women get 'terribly tormented' they cry while guys get angry. It's our primary responses for our sex! The worst thing is today, guys use to be able to show anger and vent (throw punches in some cases) but today we have to bottle up and act like women! We aren't built to deal with emotions! Women are...

I know this cause I went to see a professional for years (parent's death)... it just made things worst... I lost all my friends cause I got "in touch" with my emotions. Talk about being brainwashed but I was at a low point in my life so I was taken advantage of by so called professionals that milked me for my money.

When us men go through a tough time, we have to retreat and isolate ourselves while women can cry as much as they want and be receive petty.

What cured me after doing a lot of research was exercise and learning to fight. MEN BURN EMOTION VIA PHYSICAL ACTIVITY! You see... before the industrial revolution us men were doing hard labour! It was our way of venting our emotion but today all these "emotion" guys are working in offices and not moving! The more you are passive, the more emotion builds up!

Another thing is if I'm pissed off with someone, I stay calm and tell them exactly what I think, just like I'm telling you what I think of you and that women like you don't know shit about being a man! Don't EVER try to help us cause YOU AREN'T A MAN. Worry about yourself and your own sex cause you WILL NEVER understand what it's like to be a man.

[Mustachekitteh]

Like you said about the burning emotion via physical activity. It's amazing how much that makes you feel better. Like if you angry or something. Plus I do envy how guys tend to think in a more logical way instead of emotional. Just seriously expressing some stuff in emotional way just feels like to much work. XD One thing though even if guys don't express stuff emotionally. What about just saying explaining what's bugging them or something? I know that comes off as stupid since why explain something if you can't fix it or do something about it. Just why can't some guys just explain to who ever they are with what's eating them or something?

[myTake Owner]

This article is not feminism-basing assholes like you. Thank you :) First go and learn the meaning of feminism. Don't be such a jerk. You have your own way dealing with emotions then please take care of yourself. No need to write an opinion as a fact on behalf of entire male population.

[RiceWine]

Actually, he's right, men don't use emotion as an outlet we use our physical selves as an outlet. Women use emotion. Very simple, and for thr most part, accurate.

[ThatJarHead]

Actually your very wrong on many accords. Bottling emotions causes serious problems. No one is asking you to cry into your mothers shoulder for an hour. Just show some damned comrodery, companionship, and fricken compassion. Bottling emotions causes brain tumors, lack of motivation, leads to drug or alcohol abuse, steady weight gain, cardiac arrest, Phycotic Break usually resulting in frontal lobe failure or permenent incarceration, can lead to the development of social exclusivity (being anti-social) , also more serious things like scitzofrenia, and Bipolar disorder. As for using physical work to burn stress? That works but doesn't stop mental stress whether you like it or not you still have a brain you need to keep stress free. You need to be able to confide in something (it doesn't even need to be a person!). Its a basic human need to feel like you can talk to someone. As for your history lesson? Do you want some prune juice because your full of shit if you WANT live like that!

[Yc2K15]

SEE!!! Jarhead and take owner you are so stupid!!!
There is more than one man here who disagree with what you said and your retaliation is defensive (woman emotion) attack! If there is men here who admit the cry or cried, but some men don't cry! Some men don't want their girl to see them look weak! Some men think some men who cry are pussies! Some of the toughest men I know cry like babies watching frozen!!! Everyone is different so everyone is entitled to their own emotions and their own way of dealing with them, you seem like your trying to make yourself feel and look better... Bitch

[Yc2K15]

Mustachekitteh you seem like a cool girl! I like open minds. That jar head is obviously a pissed off gay man who hasn't had a hit on grinder in months

[Yc2K15]

lol ok yeah jarhead and you can fix all those problems by having a cry! I have emotions and life experiences that could torment someone's brain for eternity. I lived a horrible childhood and through tough times I never cried... It was when my life turned that emotions like crying became existent. I cried watching a movie for the first time when I was 22, since then the tears have welled up countless times. Stop defending our opinions with statistics and snap into reality. We're not all rich little gay city boys with daddy issues that turn to drugs.

P. s well said sir. Fitnespm

[ThatJarHead]

Yc2K15 if your going to be throwing labels and names around at people you don't know and start talking about your life experiences and how they would torment my brain? I'm gay? I'm a city boy? And I'm rich huh? Hmmm we lived paycheck and hand to mouth my whole childhood. I'm from a VILLAGE of less than 300 people. As for I'm gay? Come on. If you want to insult someone be original and different from 12 year olds on call of duty! Yes everyone has the right to handle their emotions as they please. But having them and being in touc with them isn't a sign of weekness. If anything its a sign of self confidence which is a GOOD thing to have. If I just got news that my tibia and fibia are seperated and I need to have surgery. (Which I actually did las night.)/ did I cry? No. Did I ad, it that I was scared that they couldnt fix it and something would happen that I would lose my leg? Yes, yes I did. Again no one is asking men or women for that matter to cry for an hour like a child.

[Yc2K15]

Thatjarhead..
mate you are talking so much smack its crazy.
"Tbh Been_Waiting no. Women are not allowed to like attractive men. From my experience all I hear is "Oh my god he is so hot!" Or "He's a hunk" or the like and when the one guy who has good intentions and WANTS to treat you like a person hold open the doors and pull out your chair you blow him off because he doesn't have a chiseled jaw line and six pack abs"

And your from a village of 300 people and have this much public knowledge and 24/7 access to Wi-Fi? or was that where you were born which is fucking irrelevant to everything. The fact I said were not all rich gay city kids with daddy issues... You obviously took that personally. there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay. And by the way dickhead, you called me racist when I spoke nothing of culture or religion or background, and then your wrote to me saying I'm throwing labels and names...
Man seriously just come out of the closet we don't care its natural

[Yc2K15]

" your more of a man who is bottled up tighter than a white mans butt hole"
you comments are all very gay as my housemate of 3 years is super gay and you called me racist.
Do white men have tight butt holes? don't know maybe ask a gay black man?

[ThatJarHead]

I believe that's what's called a figure of speech and is intended to not be taken literally. Also correct I took it personally, because it was directed at me. Also I state again, I am not gay. Also don't patronise me. Correct I said "I'm from a village of less than 300 people."key word? FROM. Never did I say I was still living there. Also while I was there I had 24 access to WiFi. Dude. It is 2015 quit living under a rock for shits sake you can get internet in space. I'm sure a rural town would have no trouble receiving internet connectivity. Also don't quote me without knowing my motives. You would be a very bad police officer. From what I can see you have no interest of voicing your opinions outside of the anonymous online world, so you are of no use to me. Whether as a source of information, or someone to laugh at. Come back and talk to me when you quit trolling online forums pretending to be macho, because odds are your a degenerate who likes being opinionated. Good bye.

[aficionado]

I get a warm fuzzy feeling after reading this. I'm an emotional and sensitive man. Of course I can fight tooth and nail for myself and my loved ones when it is required. But I do tend to feel emotional more often than most men (and possible women too).

Not that I make a big deal out of crying. Most of the time, I just shed silent tears for a while, and people wouldn't even notice unless they looked at me right in face and saw my wet eyes.

And if people (men or women) judge me negatively for this, then they can go screw themselves for all I care.

[myTake Owner]

It's like I just read about myself. Awesome! :D

[aficionado]

Thanks for the appreciation!

[bunnyy]

I agree I mean humans have emotions and I want to date a human not "Machobot 2.0". My boyfriend has cried just from seeing me cry and that was one of the moments when I thought "holy crap he cares about me soo much!".
You come off as fake if you hide your true emotions and I find it a huge turnoff.

[myTake Owner]

Seriously. No emotions are huge turn off. We don't want a robot after all.

[bunnyy]

exactly!

[aniemist]

The poster of this question does have very good point, in our society it is still common for men to be taught not to show very much emotion as it is seen as weakness. Im sure many men out there looking at this would not want to admit that perhaps that is a very wrong way of thinking. While still many you may think that only women are allowed to show emotion, and they are in fact weak and need to be protected by men. What I think the truth is is that both men and women can feel emotion just as much and it is no weakness to do so. What is fundamentally different is what I said earlier men are women are brought up differently and are taught/encouraged to act into specific ways and forced to fit into pre established gender roles. Its still hard for me to show emotion even at a loved ones funeral but when I cry I am not ashamed of doing so, I think it is natural and it helps you release some of the stress of the situation that is bringing you that sadness.

[ThisGuy42]

Yes, thank you so much for your take! Why do some of us guys have to be so tough? I have always been a sensitive, emotional kind of guy. And don't mind tearing up or crying. I believe crying is great. Its a great way to release emotions. And is so relieving. But the best way to share your emotions is to talk about them. You don't need to hide them. Be open and let people know how you feel. Crying doesn't always mean your weak. It just mean you've been too strong for too long. I do sometimes try to keep my emotions to my self. Like crying during a movie makes me feel weak. But I try to be as open as possible. And I haven't cried out of pain in ages. But recently I have been keeping my tears to myself. Thank you for your post. It will help me to be more open about my feelings.

[myTake Owner]

You're welcome :) Yes, sensitive, emotional guys who can talk about feelings are great as they make things easier for us girls as well.

[Regnatrix]

I questioned if whether sensitivity in a guy is a good thing or not because I'm sensitive too and sometimes, it makes me feel a bit weak x. x

There are times in life where emotions I feel are a nuisance when a major problem comes up and the situation needs to be taken seriously. With society going around trying to make men so tough, it's so awkward for me to make cute expressions or funny gestures without people thinking I'm strange except if I'm with my girlfriend :3

I feel like I wouldn't make the cut to be a good husband because I can't take the leadership role so well with all these emotions going around. Sure they make you human and more enjoyable to be around but no girl would want to be around a guy who hasn't got the balls to be man and toughen up when something is going wrong.

[myTake Owner]

I am a girl. I cry. I can be a leader. In fact, I have always taken up leadership roles. That's how the spirit should be. Your tears don't decide if you are capable of something or not. To hell with what society thinks. They are hypocrites. Don't ever change yourself for the sake of society. Relationships have to be balanced. When you are emotional, she needs to be strong. When she is emotional, you need to be strong.

[Regnatrix]

That's good that your a leader because in a time of crisis, at least you'll know or have somewhat of an idea of what to do! :3
I wouldn't ever change myself for society, but I have gotten into the habit of being less child-like around people because I don't know the borderline between making someone laugh to being plain immature. Your right that relationships need to have a balance but with my girlfriend and I both being sensitive and struggling for someone to lead, it's kinda difficult at times with choices and arguments xD

[myTake Owner]

Haha. I used to be with a guy and we both were damn sensitive. But we both knew how to switch up roles and when to become strong for the other.

[Regnatrix]

At least you both knew when to take on the leadership role in a relationship. Wouldn't that be one of the most important factors when it comes to sensitive people? I wonder if the harshness of reality in the world may cause a guy to be desensitized and less sensitive as well or if it's ultimately up to them to decide?

[myTake Owner]

I guess the sooner you stop giving fuck what others think about you the better. If your closed ones accept you the way you are, you will learn everything as you mature. Be it managing emotions or relationships.

[Regnatrix]

I guess it really is society's fault for making men toughen up too much. Do you think all men, like women are sensitive when they are born then adapt their emotions based on what they believe? I never want to lose my sensitivity because I love to make people laugh, give them support and be gentle whenever possible :3

[myTake Owner]

I guess all are equal in emotions but as we grow up, our society shapes us. But the negativity they have associated with sensitivity is stupid.

[electrollama]

While there is a culture that enforces men to be emotionally tough, I don't think men are naturally as emotional as women are. I'm always surprised at how many emotions women experience in social situations. Even though I might restrain outwardly showing emotions at times, I am still deep down emotionally neutral about 90% of the time. That is, if I don't have a direct reason to feel an emotion, I don't experience those emotions, and I don't have any desire to seek out any of those reasons, because that wouldn't even be useful.

[nickbrick]

I've noticed that a lot of guys have commented on "toughening up" in front of other girls. I feel that it is less about toughening up in front of girls and more about toughening up in front of guys. We don’t care if we show a little emotion, but it can’t be balling our eyes out crying. (Sure if something serious has happened then yeah…we might.) Otherwise, as guys we tend to cover up our emotions in front of other guys. This way we won’t be given grief from our friends. We won’t be picked on for being weak. Now this isn’t how all guys view things but I have seen it a lot. We like to rub each other the wrong way, and crying is perfect ammunition. In front of girls I think it can be okay to get more emotional. However it depends on who it is. Is it some girl you know? Or is it your girlfriend? The closer you are the more acceptable it is. Again this is just the way I see things. This isn’t how things are with all guys.

[drkch20]

I want to thank you for this I really appreciatte it. All I want to say to all of you who think is foolish is that you don't have to worry about losing you strength even if something happens where you really do need to keep it together. Granted these are only the most extreme situation when peoples lives are at risk. Your not suddenly going to forget what it means to be keep yourself apart from your emotions it's like riding a bike you'll never forget but if you think it's healthy. then ask yourself what sounds weaker. Being afraid of showing emotion because of what others might think of you or worse because of what you might think of yourself. Or not caring, choosing to be true to your heart no matter the opinions of others is strong! So please don't be afraid to cry. Let's start a movement for the self expression of the human heart. If you lead others will follow.

[Alexious]

Thank you, so, so much.
I'm tired of people telling me to 'man up'.

If you class me by my physical strength and 'masculinity' then I don't even qualify for being a 'man'. But, I qualify for being Human.

I cry like an other Human soul out there. Perhaps even more than some girls.

Try to approach me aggressively; don't expect a man to fight you. You're merely looking at a boy in a sense.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4tgxoas-36Y&ab_channel=MOVIECLIPSTrailers

I shed many tears from this. I can relate to bond of a Dog, when my Dog passed away in September I was depressed, and wouldn't talk to anyone for a week.

Conclusion - Don't assume someone is something because of how they're categorized.

[Homebakedcookies]

dude...

[Alexious]

Yes @Homebakedcookies

[RationalMale]

Simple thing is, crying in public over anything but something utterly horrible, is not a masculine thing to do on our society. Perhaps it has been in others, but that doesn't really apply here...

Men avoid being emotional and weepy, unless there's good cause...

Like what Aragorn found himself in here, lol. *He* had good reason to shed some tears.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9skYkQfAwus

[abzence]

This is usually what women intellectually say or even think they want but emotionally it's usually blatantly obvious that it's not the case since actions speak louder than words.

There's a good reason why most men hide their tears.
Some have forgotten how to cry or told themselves that it's not what men do. Some remember all to well what happened last time they did in font of a girl, and never again.

[myTake Owner]

Why do you need to generalize every woman. All people are different. You might not find someone like that around you, but you have not met every woman on Earth, right?

[abzence]

Obviously not EVERYone is like this. I think that should go without saying. But a good majority of them are like this. Just like most women want to have children because that is what their instincts tell them. Still there's many women who don't want children. There's always exception for every rule.

[myTake Owner]

Just like all guys want a beautiful girlfriend. Very few guys can overlook a girl's average looks and love her for her heart.

[abzence]

Yes, that's true.
Both male and females have their shortcomings.

[Zeph23]

I feel that if you are to hide your feelings in front of others simply due to fear of being ridiculed, then you are truly weak. A person who has the courage to let their feelings be expressed have far more courage and strength than those who fear the repercussions of their actions. Every human being has feelings, and although some may deal with it differently, those who express it without feeling embarrassed are stronger willed than those who hide it through fear.

[myTake Owner]

I totally agree! :D

[M_A_X]

I like how your example of a sensitive guy is Fred Durst from Limp Bizkit

What you're saying you really like, are good looking guys who act like an asshole in public, but can still cry around you and make you feel special

To all my fellow men, don't let her blow smoke up your ass. She's not going to date you or any nice guy. She wants a good looking asshole who will cry in front of her, so her friends will feel like she changed him.

[been_waiting]

You're right. She shoulda used an ugly guy as an example. God forbid women like attractive men

[M_A_X]

It's not really that he's ugly so much as he makes a career out of being a loud obnoxious asshole and she just wants to imagine he's a good man deep down and she can bring it out of him

[myTake Owner]

I don't even know who he is. It's for the quote I have used the picture.

[Yc2K15]

Oh my god !!! don't act like you don't know

[ThatJarHead]

Tbh Been_Waiting no. Women are not allowed to like attractive men. From my experience all I hear is "Oh my god he is so hot!" Or "He's a hunk" or the like and when the one guy who has good intentions and WANTS to treat you like a person hold open the doors and pull out your chair you blow him off because he doesn't have a chiseled jaw line and six pack abs. So the answer to your question? Unless your married to a 300lb man your are just as shallow as everyone thinks men are. You look for abs and weight before you accept a date invite? Well how about the guys who want to be chivalrous start being assholes too? If the actual "nice guys" who hang out in the background hoping one day you'll quite being such a god damned teenager (which odds are you never will you'll always be a shallow B**CH) so that you'll quit chasing the football player who will drop you like a bag of bricks when a scholarship comes knocking start asking you to get bigger boobs? Or start doing kegal excersizes?