Sensitive Guys <3 (Page 2)

[RodneySaySo]

Let me share my experience with you. When I was with an ex, she would always say to me, "Babe, why don't I ever see you cry? If you ever felt like crying, I wouldn't judge you... I would be there for you." Let me tell you... that was bullshit. The minute you start shedding tears, a girl will look at you differently. I've seen my ex cry a thousand times... I cry once or twice, and that's the first thing she brings up when we get in an argument. Trust me bro... don't do that. It's ok to be sensitive and emotional, but never when a girl is watching.

[myTake Owner]

It all depends on the girl, you know. She is a hypocrite.

[RiceWine]

I've cried in front of my girlfriend, and she didn't judge me, because I had reason, and she understood and accepted that, helped me with my problem, and strengthened our relationship

[shadowelite102]

Real men show their emotions in situations that directly affect themselves and those they love. Real men remain calm and collected in situations that do not require their strength and persuasion. Crying does not mean that you are not a man, but crying in a situation where it is an irrelevant emotion to feel is unmanly.

[Anonymous]

You should also mention how how much sensitivity is allowed by girls. If I cried just because I saw a puppy drink water, you'd break up with me faster than that tear coming out.

The only time a guy will cry is death or sadness/inability to cope or help.

[myTake Owner]

I have mentioned that crying like a baby all the time is one thing, but showing your emotions when they are supposed to be there is another. Even a girl would look weird if she cries on seeing a puppy drinking water. Lol.

[Opinion Owner]

But it's also acceptable for a girl to do that without being excessively judged. You're telling me to release my emotions but just make sure it's not too much, you see where the problem lies? I can't control the flow of this faucet lol
It's easier to leave it off until the pipe breaks down xD

[myTake Owner]

It's acceptable for girls. Why? No logical reasoning is there. We have been fed the same BS since last so many centuries.

[Opinion Owner]

We've seen led to believe that women hold the nurturing side and as part of the nurturer life comes emotion and intense love for those she cares allowing her to cry.
While men have been taught that crying is thrown out of strength.

But seriously now, scientifically speaking women have smaller tear ducts than men so it's easier for them to cry constantly while it actually "physically" harder for men to do the same.

[myTake Owner]

I never said anything about how physically hsrd it is for guys to cry or not. My main point is if a guy is sensitive, and he needs to cry, he CAN cry. That's it.

[Opinion Owner]

Gotcha bud :)
I'll think of you next time I cry!

[Anonymous]

I have this thing, but then even stronger.
I really (no joke) can feel the emotions of orthers and then know exactly what happened to them.
This is really strange becouse often guys associate the wrong feeling to things.
In orther words: many guys get angry and annoyed becouse of watching titanic or losing a loved one.
I do not understand this.

While I am meaning everyone can express their feelings, I also think that on moments when you are needed, you need to be able to hide the feelings and help the ones in need.

[Frost_Byte]

Its actually pretty comforting to hear something like that. I, myself am a sensitive guy. Its who i am. But after a bad break up recently ige convinced myself to change, so that i wouldn't repeat the same mistakes. I appreciate what u r saying, but... lets face it, there r barely any girls out there like yourself, which is why i DO need to change.

[myTake Owner]

I have to agree that they are less, but they still exist.

[been_waiting]

There's definitely many girls out there that think like take owner. I'm one of them, and most of my female friends agree. And my brothers girlfriends have always stated his sensitivity is one reason they liked him.

[Frost_Byte]

Well I'm glad to hear that, but i still dont like how sensitive i am... Its only gottten me in trouble, because of the way i treat women i only end up getting manipulated by them... i wish they were more appreciative of the way i treated them :(

[Applefan1]

I love your attitude on guys crying, if only more girls had your attitude. I am sensitive and I often find it was a big mistake to many girls about my feelings. Some girls even treat me badly when I do. I feel some just treat me like of course it was my fault, I feel like some girls are saying because I am a guy I am in the wrong and like they are saying a girl can never be in the wrong no matter want she does. I wish there were more girls like you because your awesome.

[genuinlysensitive]

That may be but they seem to be few and far between. I think its not only men who are brainwashed into you NEED to act this way, it is women who are brainwashed into thinking if a man doesn't act this way he is undesirable. Any sign of emotion other than anger or sadistic pleasure at another's suffering and we are immediately labeled wusses by women and are at best friendzoned. We need to help women understand what you seem to be able to.

[Jersey1]

A lot of girls want men to be impervious to emotional and physical pain. They want that way so they, the woman, can feel safer knowing the guy will deal with what needs to be dealt with and not fall apart. She wants someone strong so she doesn't have to be. Only in a few instances can a guy cry like when a parent dies.

[ThatGuy98]

Is it really necessary to cry though? The only time I would allow myself to cry was if I lost a family member or close friend, other than that I see no point in it. Being sad is one thing, but crying like the Niagara falls just because of some movie or because you failed your test is in my opinion stupid. ^^

[myTake Owner]

It's fpr those who easily cry. It's your opinion that it's stupid. It honestly is not.

[ThatGuy98]

Just because I get teared up sometimes doesn't mean I start full out crying, that would as I stated earlier be unnecessary.

[myTake Owner]

My family was watching a movie. Along with me and Mom, my father cried. the movie was highly emotional. He cried and I don't think it was unnecessary AT ALL.

[ThatGuy98]

Well that is your opinion but I think that there, especially in a relationship needs to be someone that can stay calm and control their emotions, and that is me.

[myTake Owner]

My parents are married since last 25 years and still going strong. They are both emotional and have faced the toughest situations ever. But they still managed to be each other's rock. Being sensitive/emotional doesn't mean a person can't have extremely strong and lasting relationships.

[ThatGuy98]

No but I still think it's ridiculous if a guy starts crying too easily, and being emotional doesn't mean that you have to cry..

[myTake Owner]

Being emotional doesn't means you have to cry. But my take is even if you cry, no worries! It's ridiculous even if a girls starts crying too easily. There's a difference between sensitive and over sensitive. Anything that falls in the 'over' realm should be limited.

[ThatGuy98]

True but please don't assume that a guy is cold because he doesn't cry. I consider myself pretty emotional but I don't cry at all. I just don't see any point in it, and I don't think it's my way of expressing my emotions.

[myTake Owner]

A guy will be considered emotionless by me when a guy acts indifferent towards everything... even towards me just to appear a little tough. The problem is not crying, the problem is when some guys forcefully change themselves just to fit the description of so called masculinity.

[ThatGuy98]

Fair enough, have a nice day! :)

[Dandeus]

Any guy who says he's never cried hasn't had any serious experiences in life.

I've watched my dad in a hospital bed on the verge of death... scared, in pain, and helpless. Any guy who doesn't cry in a situation like that is a rotten, withered human being.

[NateInAk]

Why should I share my emotions? If I get angry I'm an asshole if I cry I'm weird, if I shut down conversation I'm a little prick.
Why shouldn't I just laugh everything away and keep my feelings to myself?

[myTake Owner]

If laughing everything away makes you feel better, do it! But don't judge guys who cry as weird. Simple as that :)

[Popcorncake]

I actually wish i could cry more. At some points in studying things have been very stressful and i wish i could just release some frustration. But nope apparently the only point i can get anywhere near crying it's usually if i have seen an emotional scene or if i am witnessing something beautiful, and that is just me shedding a tear. Dangit genetics! Is there any way i can get a bit more emotional? by the way the "There is no shame in crying" trick didn't work on me for some reason.

[AnrianDayin]

real emotions make most people uncomfortable. It's because our society has become so detached from being yourself that if anyone shows who they really are other people don't know how to process it and they panic.

[Watermelonoma]

there is some value in being sensitive, but a guy needs to be careful when and where he shows that level of emotion when a girl he likes is in the area. Crying usually doesn't make a girl wet... just saying

[myTake Owner]

And a guy's ultimate aim should not be to make a girl wet. Be flirty, playful and sensual, that will make a girl wet. Emotions? They are supposed to be their to express yourself instead of making a girl wet.

[Watermelonoma]

okie dokie

[cavmanier]

I pretty much agree. A lot of guys do try and act tough to impress women and for status. That's cool for them. I think feeling the gamut of emotions is more enjoyable and I'd only be interested in a girl that preferred that basically.

[S3xyS0rc3r3r]

Great take! I'm a bit emotional too, even though some people don't know it because i hide it and when i weep i always try to do it in private. Thank you, we need more girls who understand guys like me, you have a good heart

[CagedstowgeeMD]

true but most girls want a guy who is confident in usually himself, which is curel and wrong. I am a masters student, plus im a marriage counselor and im a professional welder to pay for my school... and somehow im still single all because i have depression so girls think im weak or not confident. Now im ok with being single and a virgin because that means i have something special to give to the one woman tha is meant for me. (where ever the heck she is lol)

[myTake Owner]

Depression is different than being sensitive. A sensitive person can be highly confident. To be honest, you should first try to attend therapies to get rid of depression. When I was depressed, I prefer to stay away from relationships because depression can be hardle to handle not only for the who is suffering but for the people who loves them as well.

[Unimaginative2]

Noone wants to date someone who's depressed. It would be... Depressing.

[AmongTheFirs]

Thanks for sharing! We appreciate it.

Fred Durst, however, is not sensitive, not human, and needs to be reduced to ash by orbital laser bombardment.

[Yc2K15]

LOL!!! that was random, yet amazing :'D

[Anonymous]

yeah my emotions gone wrong. I know girl for 4 weeks and I was texting her too much, because of my emotions. I liked her, I still do, but I fucked up, "because I was moving too fast"

I need to get rid of emotions, because that's the worst thing you can have.

[Homebakedcookies]

I feel you bro. Next time don't over communicate via text. And let her come to you.

[Opinion Owner]

yep, totally agree. We learn by making mistakes.

[l2GaugeFaceLift]

Thank you for taking the time to recognize us. Sometimes I feel like all men are shamed and put in a dark light.