Why doesn't he reply sometimes?

[Anonymous]

I find this so odd. I know not everyone is a "texter," and so perhaps this may immediately not be understood... Personally, I do prefer the phone if in person isn't possible.

He and I only text. We haven't video chatted in months.

We have entire conversations in text.
This was his thing that he brought to the table.

It really is odd to me how he selectively doesn't respond.

I could NEVER not respond to a photo, or to him telling me something.

I am absolutely not overbearing or anything. I'm very easy to give space.

I reached out to him earlier and it was the only text between us today. It was a 2 line text about work stress.

And after I was his pocket therapist all day the previous day about his own work woes, he ignored me...

He's not busy. He's done this before, like if I send him a pic or share info with him. Ignored.

I just want to know why. Is it a test? Is it to make me upset? Is it to make me scramble to find a way to get him to respond? (I wouldn't dare).

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Also, he blows up my phone, flirts, sends me pics of him all the time. We live in different states but have been friends a while. At first glance it may seem he's not "interested," but I don't see this as having anything to do with that.

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Next day, still haven't heard.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Have you talked to this guy on Skype or webcam?
You need to definitely find out more about this guy
Your both in different states? I never get in deep
with someone online until they can go on Skype or
webcam with me. If you knew this guy in real life
that's different.

[Asker]

We know eachother in real life, yes.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Well, hope it works out for you two

[Bigbro]

Are you sure he is Actualy receiving your texts. I know sometimes my phone will be off and even when I turn it back on it doesn't download the texts from the company untill a few day later. By then every thing has been taken care of and the message is obsolete.

[Asker]

Yes, he gets them. Something he does is this: I realize I'm not getting a reply. So I let it go. Eventually one of two things happens- I will change the subject sometime the next day, and then he will answer and reply to my previous text as well, or he will just eventually reply like when he has something he wants so say. And then there's a few times in there that he just says nothing. But since he's let it go in those two ways I can only assume he gets them. Also they are marked as read.

[Bigbro]

Wow i wish my phone would tell me that people had recieved my text messages. Hmm I don't know what his situation is but if he is driving or having a convorsation with someone he might be looking at it and then plan own replying later as to not be rude or get a ticket if he's driving. He could just forget to reply.

[planetary]

Strategy for power in the relationship. Basic PUA techniques

[Asker]

What is "PUA"? And he's not getting any power from this, I just back off.

[planetary]

The best solution to your problem is to call him. Leave voicemails, sure. Don’t reply to anything until he calls you back. If he cannot face to call you then why do you want him.

[Asker]

Thank you, I will definitely do that.

[DodgersGM]

He just sounds like a selfish person.

[Asker]

Honestly that is what my gut has told me about him otherwise. Thank you

[DodgersGM]

You're welcome. Hope it works out well for you! :-)