My bf does not want me to dress sexy because he hates when other guys check me out but?

[Anonymous]

my bf does not want me to dress sexy at all because he hates when other guys check me out and whenever we meet he is staring at other girls.. so wtf? and recently i'm dressing up as sexy as i want to and i don't give a fuck what he says about me.. i mean what the fuck with him? guys can you help me understand?

[ashleymaries1990]

Honestly I thought guys preferred woman who dress up? Maybe he is insecure because he sees all the guys looking at you and he doesn't know if he can keep your attention? Maybe he thinks you're looking for greener pastures or maybe he thinks/knows another guy could steal you away and to him you are his prized possession? Honestly as long as your boyfriend isn't controlling than what he's thinking may be natural... but if he's controlling you thats a bad thing.

And I thought guys actually liked when their woman dressed sexy because it gives them something to show off? I don't know lol I honestly don't know but I still think you should be able to dress nice and look nice because every girl/ person deserves that. lol I don't know what else to say honestly but if he ever treats you wrong or isn't willing to cooperate with you then I don't know

[cece97]

You should be able to wear what you want since it's your body and its true he is probably insecure about himself and doesn't believe he deserves you. When it comes to staring at other girls, there are two explanations:
1-Either he's just being a guy and wants to look at other girls
or
2-He wants you to know how it feels to him when other guys look at you.
You might want to talk to him about that especially if he insults you and then looks at other girls right in front of your face. Hope it works out for you :)

[05Jueey]

You should wear whatever the fuck you want, like you said

[Asker]

lol okay i see

[cavmanier]

It seems like you answered your own question. He doesn't like other guys looking at you. Yeah he may also think you may leave him. I think we all have that fear to an extent. I mean I actually accept that as reality so I don't look at it as a fear personally but I wouldn't really be happy about losing my girl. It's still a stressful feeling. Maybe it would be better if he looks for a girl that dresses more conservative. My guess is you two are near the end?

[Asker]

nope he looks for girls who dress slutty

[Neurath]

He is insecure and thinks you are looking for attention to replace him. It is natural for men to look at other women however he is disrespectful doing it in your presence. Reassure him you want him while you do what you want or just find a less insecure and inconsiderate man.

[Asker]

i guess i should just find a less insecure guy because he is seriously pissing me off

[Neurath]

Good on you. Plenty of men love looking at hot sexy girls. Don't settle for a man that wants to cage you up and hide you away. Find one that wants to show you off on his arm.

[Asker]

yes i know thanks.. but his behaviour towards me is just too much.. just too much... yes i would really like a guy who would like to show me off on his arm

[Neurath]

Don't just settle for a guy that wants to show you off on his arm, find one that loves to spin you around on the dance floor too. Put on an awesome show for the public!

[Asker]

oh okay

[Neurath]

Live life, have fun, rock the show ;)

[Asker]

thanks for your help dude

[Neurath]

No worries.

[gonyr]

Any guy whose secure would want his gf to look her best. I encourage my gf to dress however she wants, whether I'm there or not. If she looks good and feels good, she's happy, and I know she's coming back to me afterwards anyway

He says it's because he doesn't want guys checking you out but really, he thinks you're going out to cheat on him. If he can't trust you than there's an issue. Honestly, I've never met a uh who had an issue with random guys checking out their girlfriends. If they make advances (after knowing they are taken) than it's an issue, but otherwise it's kind of a compliment. Like a "hey man, much respect. Good job" type of thing.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

He's insecure. He thinks that there's inherently nothing worthwhile about him that made you like him, so he assumes he just 'lucked' into you. Since he feels he doesn't bring enough to the table, he's worried you'll find someone else better. If he keeps you under wraps, then other guys won't approach and you're "safe"

[Asker]

you really think so?

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Yes.

[kangy]

i agreed

[waybackinc]

Pull out those 4" heels and the shortest dress you have in the closet and go out to your hangout and flaunt it. Your only young once, enjoy it. If he can't handle it you deserve better. There's nothing wrong with dressing sexy as long as your not falling out of your clothes. Go for it, he may just realize what he has and try to take better care of you. If not, there's another bus coming around the corner every 15 minutes!

[Asker]

totally makes sense

[python]

I think ur bf is a bit insecure about u& dats y he is scared. But I feel dat it completely ur choice to wear it or not. I would rather suggest u to wear it daily instead I would allow my gf to look as sexy & hot as all others should get jealous. If he is insecure let him be you don't stop ur self to wear sexy outfits. He should understand ur feelings else no use of being a bf

[Asker]

okay

[python]

But what sort of sexy outfits u prefer wearing

[Asker]

i don't really wear too revealing outfits i just wear tops who show off a bit of my cleavage and also cute short dresses

[python]

Okay its nice but I vll suggest u to wear stocking fastened with garter belts beneath ur short skirts & dnt u forget to wear heels also. guys lke it most

[wuhsin88]

I'd personally leave my girl if she was going around in public with her tits and ass hanging out, trying to get checked out by guys. That's how girls end up cheating on you. It's also how they end up getting raped or kidnapped. By being little attention whores. It reminds me of when my sister and her boyfriend were going to this city that's notoriously dangerous, and my sister wanted to wear these extremely short booty shorts. Her boyfriend told her no, that she'd end up getting kidnapped. She was all mad about it, but he was telling the truth. Girls get kidnapped every day in that city and forced into sex slavery. You don't want to look attractive in the wrong place.

[Asker]

i don't dress up slutty.. i just show some cleavage..

[gonyr]

That's cool man. It's totally a girls fault she gets raped.

[wuhsin88]

Not saying the rapists aren't to blame, but everyone should take proper precautions to not make themselves a target. The nail that sticks out gets hammered. I know as a man that if I go to the wrong neighborhood in a damn tuxedo or something I will get mugged. It's common sense not to make yourself a target. It's also your responsibility to keep yourself safe. IF some asshole decides to harm you, police aren't going to just magically descend from the clouds because they read your mind and knew you were in danger. Even if you manage to call them it could be an hour or two before they show up. I'm sick of whores and jackasses telling little girls to go around dressed like prostitutes so that guys will objectify and use them.

[islands7]

BF brain tells him
that all other guys think/act like himself =
he checks out other gals in a sexual way

His gal is all his and other guys shouldn't think she was NOT attached to him and try to invade her while he's distracted, still "shopping" the other gals.

[UPENDRA123]

he is extra protective for you but at the same time he should follow this for himself too.

[Asker]

what? i don't get it?

[UPENDRA123]

I mean to say that your boyfriend cares a lot for u and does not want any other man to look at you but at the same time he is looking on other girls. This is not fair. U should also expect him to be prudent for you.

[UPENDRA123]

He is afraid that you might get some better boyfriend if you dress up nicely. This can be pointed as his insecurity but it also indicates that he does not trust you that you will be faithful (loyal) to him.

[Asker]

yes i've already told him about it but all he does is to continue

[Asker]

i am loyal to him i never cheat.. but he put me on the nerves too much with his silly behaviour

[UPENDRA123]

That is the issue.. you are loyal but he dint understand this. He is unable to assure himself that you will not cheat.

[Asker]

he is having trust issue because of his previous relationship who ended badly

[UPENDRA123]

But he should not rule what others like. He will have to understand that you are his girlfriend not a slave. he should respect your feelings.

[Asker]

he does not have any respect for me

[UPENDRA123]

If such is the case then whu dont u dump him.

[decemberxblue]

He should've never gotten with a girl who dresses sexy if he has a problem with it.

Personally, I'm the say way, but you don't go changing people.

[Anonymous]

Fuck him - not literally. I get what he mean, but he doesn't own you. You dress exactly how you wan't, he have no right, to tell you how to look.

[Asker]

yes i know my body belongs to me and i do whatever i want with it but he often insults me for doing so... and he stares at other chicks in my presence... i just don't understand

[Opinion Owner]

Then you need to tell him, to shut his ugly mouth, or you'll leave his ass. Thats what I would do.
You don't need to actually leave him, just scare him a bit.