Why do guys say let's chill instead of saying what they really want?

[Anonymous]

My friends with benefits got offended when he asked me to chill and I replied back in other words have sex... right? He commented and responded oh wow why are you talking like that. Come on you know thats what it is. Men are so afraid to speak their feelings its aggravating. Honestly the shit annoys me, you say you want to chill I'll come over for like 5 hours and watch movies. Then we have sex. Let's just get on with it and over with. The shit is annoying.

[Anonymous]

You're right, that could be the case... or he's one of those few guys who doesn't fully appreciate being viewed as what's essentially a notch on your dildo. For any man or woman with self-respect, they'll never fully be able to accept basically being used for their genital. It will hurt their pride even just a little bit. That could actually be the case here.

[Asker]

You know that kind of explains it. Every time I give him the impression that it's just sex, you know basically to the point he starts to act weird. But that's what it is just sex

[Opinion Owner]

You sound really sleazy and kinda tacky.

[Asker]

Listen honey I'm not the average emotional female. If me and this guy have an agreement that were casual that's what it is. I'm not going to sike myself that it's nothing more because it's not. And that's where women get heart brakes from, over thinking things with a guy when you and the guy have already said what it is. If he didn't want it this way he should say otherwise I don't have time for games. So thanks for your opinion

[Opinion Owner]

1. You don't have to be emotional to not be completely cold. 2. *heartbreaks 3. It's your life, do what you want, but I can't imagine how it's satisfying to be hook up material and not girlfriend material and willingly accept such a sleazy arrangement

[Asker]

Listen i dont have time for games. Not saying friends with benefits is right but I'm not ready for a committed relationship right now. It's all a game don't come to me saying you want to be friends with benefits and I give you what you want and it becomes a problem.

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you have to sound so shamelessly selfish?

[Asker]

Because men are selfish. People in general are selfish. How old are you?

[Asker]

Sometimes you get to a point in life you have to think about no one's feelings but your own.

[Opinion Owner]

I am 22 years old and I don't share your selfish, me me me views at all.
You sound really tacky and very sleazy and to be honest girl, all you're ever going to gain out of men with that attitude is dick. Maybe you don't mind that... maybe you've been hurt... idk, but I wish you the best of luck.

[Asker]

Cool beans

[Anonymous]

Not all guys immediately mean chilling means eventually having sex. I told a guy recently: "We should chill soon," and I meant just having a good time like watching a movie or just going over to my house to talk and catch up. Or maybe playing a board game or two.

[Asker]

I mean the same thing when I say chill, but most guys mean let's have sex

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know many guys that do that. That sucks though if that's true.

[Creole_Flavor]

I totally agree we all know what you really want. When a guy asks me to chill I reply that I can chill by myself do you have a better idea?

[Asker]

Right

[GrowStrong]

lol seems like your a "straight to the point" person. i get that. but a lot of girls arnt and want to be talked to alittle sweeter than "come over later so i can fuck you right in the pussy yeah"

[Asker]

I would rather you say that then play games, I don't have time for it. Me and him have been doing t his for 3 years now the games are old

[catguy]

so make sure he understands that

[Socal1]

Here, here. I fully support you in this trivial yet not unfounded annoyance. And you're crackin' me up over here. No beatin' around the bush for this chick.- So to speak. Ha!

[madhatters4]

uh when I say "let's chill" it means lets chill, lets hang out and watch a movie, tv show, go for a walk, etc... so not all guys are trying to be aggravating. relax though if this is really the biggest issue in your life things are going ok

[Socal1]

So true. No real problems here. Lol.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Some guys figure women want to be sweet talked.

[Asker]

If we're friends with benefits there is no sweet talking. Sweet talking starts up emotions

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You ain't telling me anything. I'd stick to emoji's over text. 8===D~~~ (. Y.)

[Asker]

He doesn't like sexting lol

[Iwanabreedyou]

I agree you want to fuck lol

[Asker]

Not just that, don't say it's something and I call it or treat it like it is and you began to have a problem with it