What does a guy mean when he says he's too immature?

[Anonymous]

My crush rejected me saying that he's too immature, what could he mean? :( I mean like, could it be an excuse or something?

[Anonymous]

"Under 18" is very broad. Don't worry. I won't force you to give up your age either. But I wouldn't take it too personally... yet. One thing that comes to mind is protective parents. Maybe he feels like he isn't ready. Starting a relationship could be something he's not really into yet. Give it time.

But why the yet? He might be hiding the fact that he is either not into you or is with someone else. If that turns out to be the truth, don't take it too hard. Appreciate he tried his best to avoid hurting your feelings. But I honestly don't have enough information to make a conclusive answer, so I hope you don't take this possibility seriously. The previous paragraph is MUCH more likely.

Hope this helped!

[Asker]

I'm 15, I'm happy to give my age! :) Well,... but I have a feeling he likes me.

[BearsAnswers]

It's an excuse to avoid confrontation. Don't take it personally.

[Asker]

Seriously? >_<

[BearsAnswers]

Most likely. It is hard to say for certain with only a little bit of information, but from the bit that you have said he sounds like he actually IS very immature, doesn't want a relationship, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings per se, and so is phrasing his rejection in a way that won't cause a scene or be too upsetting.

That is a fairly mild rejection, which is why you shouldn't take it personally. It wasn't mean, or disrespectful, just a bit evasive. It doesn't reflect badly on you at all. It takes courage to ask someone in the first place, and you should be happy you had the courage to take that step. If you can maintain that courage, and continue to ask guys that you find interesting, you will eventually find one that likes you back just as much. You are doing the right things, but you need to be patient.

[Harrison4073]

How is someone immature for not wanting a relationship?

[BearsAnswers]

Emotional maturity requires the ability to put the needs of others above the needs of the self. Emotional immaturity is highlighted by a selfish drive towards the fulfilment of personal needs above all else. Relationships built on emotional maturity are framed more towards partnership, about the merging of personal goals into communal goals. Those based on emotional immaturity and framed towards physical attraction. Thus, the desire to avoid commitments implies the desire to promote the self above others. Which conveys youth and immaturity.

It is not a bad thing, everyone goes through it. Some people actually will never get past that stage, though those people get fewer and fewer the older you look.

In my late teens, early 20s I was in a ton of relationships, but I was still very emotionally immature, looking back now. The relationships were more about us as individuals and our own personal needs than us as an entity above and beyond that.

[Asker]

Mr. BearsAnswers, thanks~ >_< It was really easy to understand! Thanks for telling me that! :))

[BearsAnswers]

You're very welcome, I'm really glad I could help.

Thank you for the 'most helpful' :)

[cluelesswriter]

You're quite young, and judging by the additional information you've enclosed, such as the fact he also seems to be interested in you, it wouldn't be an excuse. It simply just means that he is aware of how immature he can be at times, and because of that, he isn't fit for a relationship. If that is an excuse, it's a very valid one. Therefore, don't hold him against it or take it personally. It just means that he's too young to be in a relationship, and he's right. I believe people should only get into relationships after high school because it often leads to drama and unnecessary worries that steals your focus from school.

[Asker]

I guess so,... But was it a good idea for me to tell him how I felt?

[cluelesswriter]

It's always a good idea to do that!

[Asker]

But then he rejected me :( And I was zoning out at my piano lesson that day he rejected me :( Then I played Chopin's Minute Waltz in a minor key O. O

[cluelesswriter]

Then let it go, he's not right for you.

[Asker]

I guess so...

[CuriousBlackGirl]

It's an exuse. Kinda like the " it's not you. It's me." Type thing.

[Asker]

So he's a rat?

[zombiebabe]

seems to be an excuse... but at least he has the balls to admit it

[Asker]

Excuse? :(

[Socal3105]

Sounds like he isn't ready for anything serious.

[Asker]

I see,... He's never serious. :(

[Socal3105]

Well there you go. At your age you will find yourself getting crushes here and there and to be perfectly honest boys at your age are quite immature and all they normally want to do is hit on girls but not necessarily get involved.

[Asker]

I guess so,... Jeez,... He shouldn't do that. :(

[Anonymous]

It means that he's like really mature

[Asker]

My friend also said that...