How do I tell my boyfriend that he is being immature about something without him going stupid about it?

[KateDemee]

So I have been having a problem over something immature that my boyfriend has a problem with (a dumb problem he has with types of clothes - braless - which I don't think he should have a say in what clothes I wear) but everytime I try to talk to him about it, he acts even more immature and childish about it. It's like I can't even talk to him about the topic and it seems so dumb to me!

Why so immature about something so minor and stupid

[ohsheeT]

Put on your blouse no bra walk out in front of him and say look at me look at me really good I want you to remember something say now stay right here then walk back into your bedroom put on five shirts but only one shirt can be seen walk back out and say now look at me remember what you can see

And then ask him out of both times did you ever see my tits he will say no and start taking one shirt off at a time so what do you want me to wear five bras one shirt at a time what does it matter what I wear underneath my shirt you can't see anything if you think the guys are going to pick up on me or try to pick up on me because I don't have a bra on or if I have washers underneath this one both are going to happen because I am beautiful it doesn't matter what I'm wearing I'm with you jackass I don't know what you're upset about are you pissed off because you don't think I can handle myself you don't think I can tell another man that I'm with you get over it you are not going to tell me what I'm going to wear and what I'm not going to wear not unless we're in bed or we're going to have sex or something but even then stop it you're pissing me off and I don't want to be pissed off because when I'm pissed off I go different directions and everything starts falling apart why are you doing this tell him it doesn't matter what I wear if a man approaches you you're going to tell him to f*** off that you have a boyfriend it's that simple
Wearing a bra or not wearing a bra it's not even going to matter he can't see my tits so it's not even going to matter if somebody approaches me if this is what you're pissed off about is somebody approaches me I'm going to tell him I'm with you that's the bottom line not unless you keep doing this and then I'm going to tell them both of you guys to f*** off

[AviatorTom]

You can't control his reaction. Just tell him what you want to tell him.

[peedy]

Don't tell him find a way (and yes it won't be easy) to get him to figure it out himself
Some times you can not tell people something they won't believe you and or they will resist you which may cause more problems,
You have to show them and let them figure it out on there own

[boggboss]

The problom is he dont like u wearing braless cloths?

[KateDemee]

Yeah he was angry as I was braless at home when people visited and says I should have put a bra on since people came over. I posted about what happened. But it's like I can't even talk to him about it. Somehow braless is shocking to him

[boggboss]

I can see why he would view it that way depending on the type of top u wear with how exposed your breasts and nipples would look at the end of the day its somthing u should be able to talk about but I understand why he would be upset equally because I'm fat with how trousers and underwear fit on me it makes me more pronounced downstairs if I wear shorts with no underwear u can pretty much see the entire shape I know my partner wouldn't be happy if people came over and could see that

[boggboss]

Lole said u guys should be able to speak about it calmly but I wouldn't say the subject itself is immature as we all live differently if his preference is having a partner that dresses more Conservative thats fair enough equally u should be allowed to dress however u want if these points clash one will either have to put aside what they want for the relationship otherwise u are pretty much in a situation where the relationship won't work

[KateDemee]

I can kind of see your point thanks

[boggboss]

Like try and sit down and talk about it dont accuse just inquire to why he got so heated over it then explain how ubfeel and try to come to some understanding equally tho accept it might be somthing he is not willing to engage with and if he is not u will have to decide what to do next

[KateDemee]

Oh I know why he hated it but I think it's a bit stupid. And he won't discuss it

[boggboss]

Wait why?

[KateDemee]

He thinks by being braless (at home) with a top on, you can notice it too easy

[boggboss]

Fair enough but at that point if that's what he thinks what could u discuss with him?

[KateDemee]

That's what I mean haha. He just gets angry when I mention it so I just don't. I don't understand why he gets so angry and immature

[boggboss]

But what I'm saying is even if he was willing to wntwrtain the conversation what could or would u say that would chamge his mind on the subject

[KateDemee]

I don't know really. I mean there are a few things I'd like to say

[boggboss]

I mean like what tho this is probably somthing deep rooted that I honestly don't see him changing his opinion on I think it will be somthing u kinda have to fold on or decide u want a partner that better matches what u want from a relationship

[jahaims]

How he reacts might be immature but him voicing a preference isn't immature. He has a preference when it comes to the way his partner dresses. How would you feel if you voiced a preference and he disregarded it? It is good to have similar morals, values, and goals in a relationship. Those things determine your preferences.

[slatyb]

Tell him that you are going to dress as you please and if he doesn't like it her knows where to find the door.

[bowenw]

You may have to explain to him it's your body and you're going to wear whatever you want. Hopefully he's not so insecure and possessive that other guys looking at you is a problem.

[Lliam]

You can't fix him. He sounds like an idiot. Find someone better. Seriously. Stop wasting your life on someone who isn't a good fit.

[inhua]

why shouldn't he have a say in what you wear?

would you want to have a say if he wears T-shirts that says offensive shit on it?

your immaturity level is where he is at too

[KateDemee]

Really? I have no words

[inhua]

maybe your boyfriend should stop wearing underwear and you can't say anything about it

[KateDemee]

Little different I think

[inhua]

how is this different to you going braless? besides the difference in clothing i. e. bra vs underwear

[KateDemee]

Like you said. It's a bra, not underwear

[inhua]

so besides the difference in clothing there is no other difference

[AydenHazor]

He's probably afraid other guys are checking you out when you're braless. You should be able to wear whatever you want to wear, and he needs to accept that

[In_Trance]

Say "you're being immature about something. Now, don't go acting stupid about it"

[syncheart]

How reasonable is he? If he isn't willing to talk with you and come to a compromise, then you might haft to dump him.