Dam i dont know if im the best or the worst person to answer you this question. I had the same thing with a classmate and wel y i got friendzoned. My issue was tho that she would flirt with me after friendzoning me. ( very confusing as you can hear ) Eventually i kind of gave up on trying to be near that girl because i felt she was toying around with my feelings. If this guy you're talking about is the same as me, then probably he will keep repeating this scenario. I want to be clear about one thing tho. Its not that he hates you or doesn't like you. He just doesn't want to go trough the process of rejection. ( Yes men are weak sometimes ) Just let it go with the flow. The moment you stop wrapping you're head around it things wil get easier. At least it always works for me. The advice i can give you is to stop focusing yourself around all the things you dont want to happen. Instead focus on all the things you do want to happen. Wheter this solves your problem or not i can't say if it doesn't make up you're mind and let him go.
well, i think he's fallen for you and he knows that its not gonna work. so he's distancing himself from u. he must have said indirectly through gestures, signs or some other actions that he's in love with u but you must have knowingly or unknowingly friendzoned him. So, he doesn't want to propose and get rejected. he knows the outcome. and guys' self esteem blows to bits after a rejection. So he just wants to avoid that situation and is avoiding u. he thinks he can forget u that way but its never gonna work. he will think of u more n more. that's y he keeps asking about u to others. u said u asked him if u did something wrong.
"I tried to ask him. I asked to him about all the possible situations.
-I asked if he thinks I like him and that's why he is ignoring me. He clearly denied.
-I asked if he is angry at me and he denied again"
but did u ask him that if he's in love with you?
Maybe he thinks you like him but he doesn't like you in that kind of way. So he pushes you back to protect the both of you feelings so things wouldn't become awkward. He still cares about you as a friend thats why he askes around about you, but he's scared that you might want more.
Give him his own space, do not worry. He probably is going through some difficult times. Or even better, invite him to talk, and clear things out. You both obviously have a lot to talk about. Communication is the key to ANY type of relationship with friends,. etc. Good Luck!
When you asked him if he thought you liked him, did you actually confess to him or made it sound more like a hypothetical situation?
I think he likes you but there could be a few reasons why he's keeping his distance. One of them is he thinking you don't like him back.
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You probably did something to make him feel rejected by you and he's either A.) avoiding you so he won't get hurt any further or B.) avoiding you so he doesn't become a bother to you. I have some friends like this. As soon as they came to terms with the thought that I liked them but probably not enough to be in an intimate relationship with them they slowly pull away and stop talking to me unless I'm like right in their face trying to be friendly. I used to wonder what I did but eventually I realized sometimes you can break someone's heart with zero intentions of doing so simply by being yourself. It's inevitable. I don't date, I don't do the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing, and I'm not sure I will in the future. It's a conscious choice of mine so I've had both guy and girl friends act this way towards me. They'll feel the bond and the connection and really feel like theirs something unique and special between us and there is but then they see that I have almost the exact same kind of interactions and energy with most of my friends and It crushes their dreams. They realize that I see them just as a friend and not anything more without me having to say or do anything. And they kind of just assume rejection. You can't let it get to you though. If you like him and want a more exclusive relationship go talk to him and be more aggressive if you only want him as a friend let him go. So he can heal eventually he'll move on. He may never come back but that's life. You'll make many many more friends. And your gonna lose some of them too. But you can only miss something that meant a lot to you when you had it. That doesn't mean that you need it forever it just means that life comes with a full range of emotions and experiences and that's what makes life colorful
I would say, he has fallen for you hard, but doesn't want ruin the friendship between by asking you out, or he could think that you won't like him that way. I would just give him time, stop forcing him to come on your terms. I would just suggest carry on with you things, because he is obviously needs to get over attraction to you.
what you could do, if you really want to keep his friendship in the future. You could pass him on a little note, saying I understand whatever is going on your life, I will be there for you. I willing to wait for you, when the time is ready for you to the clear for me.
There is saying, if you don't understand a man's silence, then you won't undestand his words. Sometimes in life we just have to read between the lines. I mean the answer for you obvious is to why he is avioding you. He is in love with you.
Well this advice might backfire, but it's what I would do in your situation. Do whatever you have to in order to confront him about it. If he really is your friend you shouldn't have to tolerate him ignoring you like that, so find some way to confront him in a private setting where you can both be real with each other. Demand (or ask if you're really afraid he'll take offense to your forwardness) why he seems to be avoiding and ignoring you. If you come on strong and serious he will likely admit what is really going on. If it backfires, he might become angry that you're kind of imposing on him and being demanding, but if you really want to find out what on earth is going on with him, taking control of the situation is probably the best way to do it. Good Luck!
Hi hopefully my advice or what ever I say will help you I am the best of giving advice on this to people over the last number of years so I read though some of the comments to see what the story was so your friend in college has stopped talking to u Ya I get what you mean like that friendship for you maybe he going throug a rorough time and does want to tell u maybe he don't want u to be worried about him like I don't know or that he could have feeling for u and want to be more than friends and is scared to take the risk to ask u out in case it all goes wrong and that your friendship is ruined you say he asked about though a mutual friend like that has to account for something he might not be talking to u but he does care about u maybe he needs some space to himself and give him time and he be back to himself I don't know what else to say hope my advice works
Maybe he felt that he was too available to ever think you would want an intimate relationship with him as he realized that those feelings had developed. So this is why he made himself scarce so that you would realize that maybe he can be more than just a friend
No 2 ways about it.. he definitely likes you n is tryin to maintain a distance to decline his attraction for you.. if u hv made all d efforts n he still hasn't come around, just let him be.. he will eventually come around b confess his feelings.. he is for sure having some serious self esteem issues too n he probably thinks he is not good enough for u. If you do want to date him, confront n tell him this right away but if not don't approach him anymore, u have done ur part.. good luck@
He probably likes you. Clearly he's in the friend zone. He doesn't want to develop anymore feelings for you. So he's trying to avoid you. If you're in a relationship, it probably hurts him to see you with someone else.
its so obvious he loves u but might think u either don't like him or its not going to work hence he is avoiding u but still wants to know how ur doing because he cares, he just doesn't want to show it and wants to distract himself from liking u
i think he is in love with you and tries to get over you by avoiding you.
he probably likes you but you only think of him like " a brother" e. g. in a non sexual way, which depresses him because he gets rejected by women all the time.
There's got to be a reason. A lot of times in a situation like this, there's a misunderstanding or perhaps a kind of assumption going on. If he asks about you through a mutual friend, you could do the same thing. Try to get a grasp on the picture from a different perspective.
he asks about you yet ignores you? sounds like he is interested but you shut him down before.
try confronting him with "why are you acting that way?" and demand the honest truth no matter what. he'll tell you.
well i've read all the reply, none mention if you really like him as bf or not.
Did you change something in your physical appearance? New hair, new tan... ?
Do you have a lot of things in common with him?
Does he stares at you or avoid eyes contacts?
Does he at least say "hi" ?
When you try to talk to him, what happen? What kind of facial expression he shows?
Have you texted him "Happy new year" to see his reaction?
Ok... he is falling for you and wants to stay away from you which will make him loose his attraction... he actually doesn't wanna get attracted but... he can't help it. so he is avoiding you!
^ He likes you but knows you probably thinks
your not sexually attracted to him that's my
opinion but hey.. why ask me
Well in my opinion i'd say that maybe he likes you but thinks or knows you will never feel the same. So he kind of gave up. Cause believe me i've done the same as him in similar situations
Honestly the same exact thing happened to me and it sucks. If they are ignoring you, however, and haven't given you a reason why would you still want to be their friend?
maybe he loves you, i did the same thing when i realized i was in love with my best guy friend and it was the biggest mistake i have ever made in my life. You should talk to him about it.
It means he has a huge crush on you, but realized you would never want him back.. so he discontinued your friendship to get over you.
I personally would ask him why he's doing it and if he doesn't tell you forget him. you shouldn't be ignored
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