She Ruined Him . . . So Will He Ruin My Chances With Him?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy that as of 6 months ago had gotten out of a 5 year relationship with a girl that put him through a lot. They went through all sorts of drama , and although it doesn't appear that he's bringing his baggage with him it's left me to wonder. 5 years is a long time to be with someone and I can't see how he plans to move on yet , but I'm trying to take his word for it. I enjoy talking to him and his company , but I don't want to invest my time into the wrong " situation" . Is this selfish of me ? I've been hurt in the past as well , but I've moved on how do I know if he has ?

[DoggyDude]

Guys are usually more simple than girls. Usually what we say is true (unless their is some benifit to lying).

At the end of the day you have to decide wether you think this guys worth the risk.

Just be friends with the guy, get to know him as a person, and see where your friendship goes. See how he treats his ex. If he's on good terms with his ex, meet her, see what you think of her.

Its not selfish of anyone to not want to get hurt. All relationships are a bit of a gamble, even the good ones.

[ArtistBboy]

Saying and "doing" are two different things. Read your OP and it will identify the answer in your own words. If this guy is saying he will move on, he doubts he has (right now) in his own words.

=/ Is this true? if so, he has given you the answer.

"i can't see how he plans to move on yet , but I'm trying to take his word for it"

[Anonymous]

There is no way he doesn't have baggage after a 5 year relationship after 6 months. That will take at least a year to get over. I recently got out of a 5 year relationship myself, and I am still warped about it. Don't be a rebound, because unfortunately that's all you'd be for awhile. For your sake, I'd be friends for awhile..