He has a girlfriend and claims to not want me but always stares and tries to be around me?

[Zephdia]

Hi! So this guy that I sort of have a thing with (he has a girlfriend) is giving me weird signs. He always stares at me and its for more than 10 seconds sometimes. He told me that he loves me in a way. He once got angry with me because he bought me a lemonade (its my favorite drink) out of no where and I didn't think much of it, and He got so mad at the fact that I didn't. He can remember my favorite colors and my birthday but can't remember his girlfriend's favorite colors or birthday. When we were together we changed put that we were in a relationship with eachother on facebook and when we broke up, he said he was going to remove it, up to today he hasn't. He does a lot to show he cares but is sometimes an Ass and swears that he loves his girlfriend (its a long distance relationship by the way) When he talks to his girlfriend on the phone or when he's texting her, he becomes so mean to me and treats me like shit. We have fought plenty of times about the way he treats me and it has even escalated into hitting... he has cried more than once about hitting me and all the horrible things he did to me. He flirts with me a lot as well. Recently we fought and he said horrible things about me (including how he would never be with me) but today I wore the outfit that he picked me up in on our first date and he wouldn't take his eyes off of me. Even if I smiled at him he wouldn't stop. What does all this mean? Any advice or tips?

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What you guys dont realize is that I dated this guy when he wasn't with this girl, and I never had relations after. He just gives me weird signals that I don't understand. I have never even intiated anything with him. I am not a "side hoe" nor am I the other woman. So for you guys to call me names is quite silly actually.

[Anonymous]

I think if he is telling you that he is in love with his girlfriend then you should take him seriously.
Just walk away because it seems to me the only reason he stares at you is because he feel lust and nothing else. After he gets you in bed he will go back to treating you like crap again.
Don't let him use and abuse you!
If any man is treating you with disrespect and hitting you, whether you hit him first or not is not a good thing. Learn to have some self respect and love yourself. Forget about him and move on.

[Sundance99]

Don't do it - these guys are just dogs. A guy did a similar thing with me but he was a lot better behaved his was just flirting and trying to kiss me when he was drunk. He deliberately kept the fact he had a girlfriend from me because she lived 2 hours away. They just want attention from someone who is there and validation to see if you like them back.

[zorro8888]

There's honestly no point of reading past this point...
"(he has a girlfriend)"

She's a long distance girlfriend, he's just seeking the emotional comfort he lacks from her. To him, whether he realizes it or not, you're a physical place holder.

Why would you want someone in a relationship anyway? If he leaves her for you... the amount of times you'll be wondering if he's doing the same behind your back will be incalculable. Just leave him alone, it won't end up well for either of you.

[Zephdia]

I realize that but the thing is I was with him as well. And she has cheated on him and still is. His mom adores me and hates his girlfriend... Its just so complicated. Sometimes you can't help who you fall in love with.

[zorro8888]

I tried to be nice and tell it to you as I saw it but you clearly don't care so when you get hurt don't say you weren't warned.

[Zephdia]

I didn't even knock you for your opinon though lol. Im not even that into him to be honest. Its him who gives off weird signals and vibes.

[Zephdia]

Thanks anyway

[zorro8888]

Then ignore the weird vibes, unless you don't think you deserve a better guy?

[Zephdia]

I have been lately. It just gets hard sometimes when he gets in my face and stuff

[zorro8888]

"He told me that he loves me"
"treats me like shit" "escalated into hitting"

Shouldn't it be easy to move on... people who love each other don't result to hitting.

[Zephdia]

Yeah.

[meiam17]

He's hit you, & called you names and you aren't even dating... can you imagine how he would treat you if you were actually dating? Trust me, it will only get worse from there. Plus he has a girlfriend.

[Zephdia]

I had hit him as well so I'm just as wrong.

[meiam17]

You asked for opinion, I gave you mine. Your mind is already made up that you want to be with him, and my answer is not what you want to hearl hence the down vote. Do as you please. If you think hitting, name calling, and being treated like shit is acceptable, then by all means proceed with whatever plan you have.

[Stargirl789]

Stop attention seeking and keep away

Slag

[Zephdia]

You have issues.

[Stargirl789]

I think you will find its you with the issues trying to make yourself feel wanted 😷

He might have feelings for you but get lost he has a girlfriend respect that and even if he tried it with you make it clear he needs to finish her or keep away from you don't be that dirty little side hoe

[Zephdia]

Read my update dumbass.

[Zephdia]

I have never intiated anything with him like I said. And I live with him and his mom so try again. You dont even know the whole situation. So who are you to judge and call you a sidehoe. You're honestly silly and immature. There is a way to give advice without insulting.

[Zephdia]

*call
Me

[Stargirl789]

Sorry it's just clear you are a hoe

[Zephdia]

I'm not even going to say anything hateful to you. i just pray that you recover from the hateful spirit that you have :)

[Stargirl789]

Aw thanks 😘