He has a girlfriend but constantly flirts with me?

[Anonymous]

So this guy I like who's a year older than me has been flirting with me a lot lately. We've went to school with each other for a long time, but we never really talk. Despite this, I've always had a crush on him just because he has such a charming personality. Lately though, he has been flirting with me. It started off with flirting while he's drunk, but now he's been talking to me more. Honestly though, I don't know how I feel about this considering he has a girlfriend!! He'll tell me I'm beautiful and sweet and ahhhh I don't know. I'm just confused because I don't often get too much attention from guys, so the fact that a guy I like is interested (?) makes me happy, but I have no idea what his intentions are. He's definitely a flirty guy, so I don't wanna get too attached or do something stupid. Ofc, I'm not gonna engage in this bc he has a girlfriend, but why do you think he's acting like this?

[Kkaos]

He's acting like this because he's a moron basically. You're living in a scarcity mindset right now, you need to step away from that. There's many guys out there who would be interested in you, stop focusing on one that's not available.

Men that are in relationships or have women chasing after them are more desirable, that's a fact. I've seen it first hand. Subconsciously I think the fact he has a girlfriend is actually contributing to your crush on him. Because you know cheating isn't right and that's why you said you're not going to engage with any of it, but you're still attracted to him. And that's the thing, why would you be attracted to someone who's unfaithful? Unless you're into open relationships or like getting cheated on, this guy is not the type of guy you should be attracted to, he's a moron, like I said.

Now obviously to be fair to him, I don't know him, there could be a chance that's just his personality and he does that to everyone, however if you feel that he's treating you as slightly more than a friend, he's not a loyal guy.

[juststrollin]

I feel this answer is like the opposite of mine in a good way as its a more realistic guy perspective. I do wonder if the guy is not loyal or does he not like his girlfriend and prefer this girl who hasn't mustered the courage to talk to him. Surely, he wouldn't pay attention to her in the slightest or give special attention if he didn't like her as a prospective flame/gf/ or what ever. I gave her the advice to smile and show displeasure at the girlfriend and sort of walk away

[Asker]

Yeah, you're absolutely right. This is all just so stupid bc I know guys like that are only trouble, but for some reason I still like him. I'm just gonna ignore bc I have no interest in being his second choice or anything like that. Thanks so much:)

[Chancie]

Well in my personal opinion. By my personal experience.

Experience:
I have troubles dating. I really do, I very clingy and needy and many ways in a relationship. I have come to realize if who ever I am with slowly declines me in any way, I go searching for what I'm being rejected of in someone else. Meaning to or not. Does it make me a bit of a hoe? Sometime not gonna lie but why I say this is because,

Opinion:
Maybe he's in a relationship that is missing something for him so he's going to you and flirting with you hoping to find what ever missing. How ever that might not be true either for all we know he could be a simple fuck boy. Getting anything he can get his hands on. I would say flirting back not wrong but to watch your steps carefully around him. With people like that/me you don't want to fall in love with simple as that.

[juststrollin]

This is so juicy. Maybe he knew you liked him for a while and liked you but you were too shy to go for it and his girlfriend was bolder but he didn't like her as much... *stirs tea* I think this is often the case, does he do this in front of or around his gf? Maybe subtly try this out (idk why but you're in luck my cattyness is really showing but here goes lol:
You shoud around them one day and scope his reaction... if he's seeming uninterested than just be like whatever but if he looks at you then look at him smile and look at his girlfriend sadly and turn away.. And if he talks to you just be like oh i like you but your girlfriend... You dont want to do anything else thay would be apart of cheating because nah, thats lame but if he gets the hints and breaks up with her is the goal because he probably didn't like her to beginwith

[juststrollin]

OH and if you talk to him and say he does pay less attention his girlfriend, if he doesn't open up to you or be really kind and sweet like he is nervous around you or finally got what he wanted than he is not worth it, he was just sttracted to you. AND I know because I was just there, men are different but when the guy who is cute comes up to you stutters and takes interest in what you are doing rather than staring at you like a target or flirting with you like trying to get you into bed it feels sooo much more different and its way better. TRUST.

[Mila4321]

Omg I've had a very similar expirience he told me that I was cute and he even watched me play soccer but then ran away when I saw him and then My friends told him I liked him which ended up being one of the worst things possible because he answered literally saying ," not to put a damper on things but I have girlfriend" and then when my friend said so you don't like her he said "no I like her because she's cool". That is the most confusing comment ever by the way and I think he just said it because he is a flirty guy and if he does break up with his girlfriend he likes to keep his options open but he did flirted with me while being with her and I can bet you he would do the same if I were with him , so my advice is to try and distance yourself to prevent any hard feelings!

[Finesse9898]

Let be honest , if he's doing this with you while he's in a relationship... let's think about it... he breaks up with his girlfriend and starts dating you... wouldn't the do the same to you... I would never respect or date anyone that flirts with me while their in a relationship.. it's logic.. THEIR A PLAYER... cut him off because he has a girlfriend

[AnyaKarun]

Because he's a player, you need to tell him to stop flirting if he's taken. I understand that it's hard, I've been in the same situation. But in the end of the day you are his plan b, you should want him when you are his first option not his second.

[SongBird3]

Don't do it girl!
You don't deserve to be the other one, you deserve to be the number one.
This guy dosent care about you, he just wants to get some. Tell his ass to stop talking to you or your gonna tell his girlfriend whats up.

[Cady_19]

Yeah stay away. He has a girlfriend. It might seem nice to have his attention but think about it. If he does make a move and ends up with you, who knows if he'll do that with another girl while he's with you.

[egi22]

Happened to me as well. I rejected him as nicely as I could, because I thought about his girlfriend. The girl doesn't have to suffer just because a guy is not thankful for a relationship with just one girl.

[DidDesiDooThat]

Dont do it!! I fell for this act and he ended up proposing to her this past January. Yet he's constantly trying to get at me.

What he's Doing to her, he'll do to you. So dont fall for it sweetie

[amarahorrorstory]

Don't give him attention. Tell his girlfriend too. If he is willing to do that to her, he would do it to you.

[helloitsmethere]

I have had a friend like that... confront him and ignore him.

[reptocarl]

Because he wants to fuck you, duh!

[Anonymous]

Respect yourself and another womens man. If u dont he will only do the same to you

[Anonymous]

He only wants sex. Stay away.

[Anonymous]

Tell him to stop simple

[mooky06]

He is a flirty guy.

[Ayshea]

He wants da booty!

[Mrthinpickle]

Tell him suck a dick