Guys, why does he keep his problems to himself?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend d keeps things to himself. If he is having a terrible day, I have to find out about either through friends or on Facebook. Why can't he just talk to me and tell me what's wrong? I have proved time and time again that I am there for him, that I am willing to listen and that I love him. Yet, he still won't give me a chance and let me in. What should I do? Is this normal?

[hellionthesage]

The problem is he is a man. He will not share his emotions with you as a woman does, he isn't going to sit there and just tell you how his day whent. When a guy is upset about things he doesn't talk, he acts. He will throw himself into an activity to deal with his issues, any attempt to get him to express his emotions in a manner you think he should ie like a woman is not going to work and will resort in conflict. You want to be there for hime then support him through actions not words. If he is having a bad day, maybe you could make him dinner (or something of that nature), that way he knows you care which in turn will help him cope with his issues.

[Anonymous]

some people are just to strong, virtuous and unselfish to share their problems with others to not make them sad. i dont know if your boyfriend is that case, but my grandma was exactly like that. she could go though the worst stuff and never burdened others with her problems and always smiled etc. my other grandma on the other hand was the exact opposite a whiny selfish person that cried all the time for nothing and noone really liked... .

[Anonymous]

Generally speaking, girls think they can handle a guy's emotions but often when it really comes out they find they don't actually like it. It dispels the aura of safety, security, stability and confidence girls want to feel in their boyfriend. So most often a guy hide his negative feelings from girls, they want his stoicism.

[Klaatu51]

actually i believe reason he's not doin it... is he doesn't wanna make u feel sad wid his probs ;)

[KHaskins]

Doesn't want to come across to you as weak.