How do I stop fantasizing about a girl that I don't even talk to?

[Anonymous]

So once again I've seen a new girl and now I can't stop thinking about her and I know it's stupid and I'm absolutely putting her on a pedestal when I shouldn't. But I started college in the last few weeks and I take a bus from my apartment to the school and she lives in the same apartment complex so we share the bus and come and go at similar times. I catch her looking at me sometimes while on the bus and when walking to and from it.(and before anyone says just talk to her, no I'm a wimp it's not gonna happen)

How do I stop doing this stupid thing which is just torturing me. She's legitimately Victoria Secret model attractive so I always think her looking at me is just her looking at something near me because I don't think someone that beautiful would be interested in me (I don't think I'm ugly and I think I'm fairly attractive but I feel she's way out of my league). How do I stop stupidly fantasizing people I don't even know well (in this case I don't know her at all).

[bobair]

Well you got a few choices here..

1) Accept that your little fantasies are normal and okay. As long as you know what you're doing and you have perspective on your little pervert fantasies. They can be healthy if you know it's all in your head. The issues is when guys becomes stalkers. That's a real problem. So if you're not going to be a stalker then it's okay.

2) If you decide you really want to kill this constant pondering then here are some tips...

a) Plan a way to meet her and talk to her. Even if it's just "hi" on the buss. By meeting her you might discover she's a snob or bitchy or unfriendly. That's a huge turn off for me. When you see her on the buss don't try a huge conversation, just keep it simple like, "Oh, hi." I do this with anyone I've seen more than once. And you should start doing this too. To all people you recognize. Men and women. It's completely harmless but it builds incredible social strength and pride. I LOVE when people I don't even know say HI to me. So start doing this.

Eventually you can try something like, "Hey, I always see you on here. Do you go to my college as well?" That's it. Simple.

b) If you don't want to talk to her because your ego is so inflated that you can't risk saying hi to a complete stranger that has no impact on you life ether way, then maybe try this... meet someone new that you will talk to. Sometime you can obsess about because you're going to chat them up. Basically be proactive and productive with your fantasizing.

c) if that fails convince yourself that she's got horrible STDs and licks toilets for fun. It's a fantasy so just fantasize something horrible?

:D

~ Robby

(My Blog https://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/ )

[GreatnessPersonified]

Don't fight it, just let it pass naturally.

[IamNuts]

I don't think you can stop unless you actually talk to her. I mean what's the worst that could happen.

[Asker]

Every other day on the bus being incredibly awkward because we'd both be on it after she might reject me.

[IamNuts]

Oh that would be awkward :P

[Likes2drive]

I guess take a different bus, out of site out of mind. Attractive girls are actually more approachable believe it or not, just don't act like every other guy if you do get the nerve one day

[AmeerX]

I have experienced the same situation. It is hard but try adopting a hobby like plinking or shooting.

[Anonymous]

there is nothing wrong with fantasizing!

[Asker]

Yeah but it's such a waste of time.