I daydream about having a girlfriend. How to stop?

[Anonymous]

I guess I feel lonely. I often daydream about having a girlfriend, not only bedroom stuff, but things like cuddling, holding hands, having deep conversations. I go to sleep at night hugging my pillow, thinking about how nice it would be to be loved by a girl and to have a girl to love.

I’ve tried really hard, though. I’ve approached many girls, but I’ve had no success, despite having no major faults and despite having very low standards. She should have a nice, caring personality. Apart from that, I don’t really mind.

How do I stop daydreaming?

[Ingrid422]

I do that all the time. But that's cause I'm a bit of a dreamer. I stick to the idea that something better will come along in my life. I just can't help it, I'm always craving more than I have. I'd say that for as long as it doesn't depress you, keep on dreaming. Nothing wrong with that. I know a few people that are desperate for a relationship. They haven't worked hard for it though, they just don't make moves ever, are picky and don't step out of their comfort zone. In their case, I'd say ''Stop beating yourself up and do something if you're sick of things always being the same". Otherwise, just stop searching and I'm sure you'll encounter a nice girl when you least expect it. In my experience, I've often met guys when I wasn't really expecting to. You know, just chatting with people, with common friends, and ending up chatting with someone new. I don't believe in planning stuff like that ahead anyway.

[SumomoSummer1]

I don't think you should stop. I daydream a lot about various things and sometimes it is the best part of my day. So I don't think you should stop.

[AnavelJay]

I DO THAT TOO! EVERY NIGHT! Not nessesarily a girl , well sometimes it is but YES! It sucks, just just end up sad and lonely every night.

[dx021]

You need to work on yourself tbh. you're so highly invested in other people for happiness that no girl will be attracted to u... neediness dries up p****** bro.

but luckily you are a male Aka: you can work on yourself and change your lot in life. just focus on finding happiness in yourself.

[palek]

What you're doing is very unhealthy. Try smashing yourself in the nads with a hammer just before going to bed each night, and it should straighten things out.

[moviedude714]

talk to David Wygant or DeAnna Lorraine