Is My FWB Done?

Anonymous
Hi guys! I'd greatly appreciate your insight! I've had a FWB for about 3 1/2 months now. During that time, we have hooked up 4 times. We didn't discuss frequency before we started the 'friendship,' and he lives 2 hours from me. He was very persistent in his pursuit of the friendship in the beginning, but now it seems that I am the one initiating contact. The sex is great. I don't want more than one friend with benefits, but I 'would' like to see him more frequently. I will send maybe an email or a text every other day, just sending a quick flirt, or whatever. He always responds quickly and positively, like he's really into it.

My problem, is that part of the appeal of a FWB to me, is the flirting and talking/anticipating the next time we can be together, and the fact that those conversations make me feel desired and attractive. If I am always the one initiating the contact, then I don't feel those things...so it isn't completely serving the purpose I wanted it for.

Advice is welcome. I'm interested in understanding a male's brain on this...

Does it really not cross his mind that you need to excite a woman's mind to keep her interested; or is he just being nice and he's done with the FWB arrangement...?

Its fine if he is, but shouldn't he take the high road and say, "Hey.. Lets take this back to friendship." We talked in the beginning about the fact that we were both mature and would be honest and up front with one another when and if anything changed in our heads about the whole thing.

The lack of communication also puts the idea in my mind, that if he isn't chatting me up, he must have other, newer FWB's. That would be fine, except I should be told, so that I can make an educated decision about whether or not I want to continue to have sex with him, given the fact that more partners could create greater risk for me.

Thanks for reading this, and for the thoughts! :)
Is My FWB Done?
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