What's going on with my FWB?

[Anonymous]

I've had a friends with benefits for a couple of months. He made it clear that he wasn't looking for a relationship ( to be honest neither am I). Recently another guy came inot my life and I feel really confused. My friends with benefits knows I've developed strong feelings for him but we still keep seeing each other. I told him about this other guy because according to him I seem happier. I like this other guy but not as much as I like my friends with benefits. My friends with benefits has explained to me he sees me only as a friend. Yet when I told him I didn't know what I wanted he asked If I liked the other guy and if I've fooled around with him. I was honest with him. He said that he want sure he could be friends with benefits knowing I could sleep with another guy. Yet he doesn't want a relationship and he keeps denying he's jealous but i feel like he's not being honest. Why would he be acting like this?

Updates

+1 y

I meant to add in that he's seen another girl on the side. He and I fought about it because if he's gonna see people I should be able to as well

[Nate1911]

Pretty much, he is using you. He wants to be friends with benefits because that way you aren't officially in a relationship. he's not bound by stereotypical relationship rules. You're probably not the only person he is sleeping with. you're to respectful a person to be with this guy. if he can't give it to you straight, drop him. The fact the you were completely open and honest with him deserves better treatment. go for the other guy. hopefully he respects you more. just my opinion.

[madgoat]

friends with benefits doesn't like the complication of there being another man. It's not necessarily jealousy, just practically.
If you want to be with other guy, that's OK, but you don't get both..
At least, that's what I think is going on.

[Asker]

Aren't friends with benefits supposed to not care about what the other person is with though?

[madgoat]

The concept of friends with benefits is that it's an open agreement on both sides, and not exclusive, I would have thought.
So it's fair a say he's being hypocritical because he already sees other girls but it's also unfair to say he shouldn't care that the situation has changed.
If he really is a friend first and foremost, of course he'll take an interest.

[Shortneyy]

Dealing with the same mind games right now. If my friends with benefits has feelings for me I wanna know too but I'm scared to put myself out there.. Don't get why we can agree were just friends but the guy is the only one allowed to be jealous or give you mixed signals? I would do what I've done and back off and see if he contacts you again.. I'm about to go crazy but I'm giving my friends with benefits space.

[reptocarl]

Because he sees you as a slut and doesn't want any "sloppy 2nds"

[Asker]

First off you're rude. I haven't slept with the other guy I was just talking about. Didn't think I need to explain that since seeing a guy is very different from sleeping with someone. Second who are you to call me a slut when you don't even know me? I've been single for 6 years so obviously I'm not a slut. He's seen other people on the side so yeah he's a hypocrite for saying I can't be with other people.

[reptocarl]

It isn't me. It's him thinking that and some guys are totally ok with double standards

[Anonymous]

well ur right he's jealous but maybe he has feelings for you