My crush makes me feel like crap. what to do?

[Anonymous]

I know he likes me back, but the thing is - the more we talk, the more I feel like complete crap. He tells me about how his ex girlfriend and her friends think I'm so ugly, he makes fun of my 'mustache' which I honestly can't even see, he says I'm fat and wishes that I'm slimmer and so on.

But he also makes me happy and I really do genuinely care for him. And that's just his personality, he makes fun of everyone.

should I continue talking to him?

Updates

+1 y

I've been friends with him for years, and I don't know - we've just always been like that? But whereas last time, I would just insult him back.. now when he does it, it makes me feel bad.

[xingyi_fighter]

no, get the hell away from this guy. he is clearly giving you psychological issues. he is your crush, not your boyfriend. you think he likes you back but that may be an illusion. when guys haven't wanked in a while they are super horny and will be attracted to girls they are not normally attracted to and may even make moves. after a while it wears off and they think what the hell was I thinking. its happened to me a few times. if he shows any attraction it might just be for quick sex not a real relationship. if he really thought much of you he wouldn't be mocking you like this, he would be sweet talking you. if I were you I would get away from this asshole. find a guy who makes you feel good, who is attracted to you and will be there for you. this guy is going to end up ruining your life.

[Asker]

Wow thanks. that kinda made me see the light haha

[xingyi_fighter]

I hope you didn't take my answer too hard, but you seem like a decent person. you are associating with an asshole who mocks people to make himself feel better. your confidence is the most important asset you have. people with low confidence tend to not do very well in life because they are too scared of world. this guy is affecting your confidence. for the sake of your life, get away from this guy and NEVER look back, even if he starts being nice, it will only be temporary before he restarts.

[WaitingAtTheDoor]

No, you shouldn't.

He's playing a game to see if you'll stick around for the abuse, and that should be a clear sign that this is not the right person for you at all.

He's not pursuing you honestly, he's instead using you for his purposes. It's time to move on.

[Anonymous]

Girl stop he has no respect for you and does not like you. stop acting like a fool. I don't know how you can even think that. Someone who likes you would not put you down or make you feel bad. You need to stand up for yourself and turn the tables on him. Tell him that you don't care what his ex thinks and why is he bringing back information that you didn't ask for. If he calls you fat call him out about his imperfections. If a guy can do all this and you still say that you like him and he makes you happy, you need a huge dose of self esteem sweety! Also this guy is not your friend so limit how much time you spend with him.

[sequinfanrple]

I'd tell him to f&*k off, he doesn't sound to me someone who would be worth your time and affection... :-) Good luck

[JollyRogers87]

Have you ever let him know how much it hurts you when he teases you, if you would call it that. It's great that he makes you happy but he should also build you up and make you feel great about yourself. If he won't appreciate you, you need to find someone who will. Don't expect anything to just land in your lap, but for future guys you meet make sure they treat you positively and with respect. You deserve no less and don't be afraid to let that be known.

[JollyRogers87]

Well, if he is someone you have known for a long time and you do like him I would definately try to get him into a serious conversation about it. Let him know what you just said above, that it actually hurts now when before it was just fun. If you talk about it maybe he will stop or the two of you will come to some sort of understanding about it. Turn insulting each other into "teasing" each other.

[Desires]

For gods sake. No you shouldn't continue talking to him. Why would you put up with that? There are nice guys out there who you can date.

[bryeg]

why would you want someone like that? someone how treat you bad at first? would you make fun of someone like he does to you to someone that you like?