How to confirm a date the day before without being awkward about it?

[Anonymous]

So there's this girl I've been talking to and we've hit it off real well. We mostly text. We're supposed to be getting together tomorrow night and when I sent her a message about what we're going to do..she didn't reply. She's not the type to not reply..and her phone bugs out on not just me but other people. So I'm not sure how to ask her tonight..well are we still on tomorrow? without being awkward about it. Any suggestions? I know she's gonna be hanging out with friends tonight so I don't wanna be annoying.

[ArtistBboy]

Recommended option: Call her to confirm the date

Recommend approach to situation: "jessica, are you bringing anyone tomarrow to dinner?" (CASUAL)

... Good Example? Sure.. here it comes *Zombie tone*

- "Hey brat, it sounds like you guys are having fun over there!" *Add small talk here*... At the end of the call- "Don't forget about tomarrow"

Dude... what am I doing? Just ask her without being needy... Here's what needy looks like:

You- "Hi jess"

Jess- "Hi tom, haha I just had a great night with the ladies. We're eating pizza and painting on each other with tomato sauce" (*My eyebrows just raised... I won't lie*)

You- "Nice. So you guys are coming over tomarrow right?" <-- Mmmmmmm Fail.

DUDE! Stop being needy. If you wanna call her, just call. Wait- check this out... Grab your phone... Dial her number.. Call her... And ask: "I wanna make sure that you don't ditch because I know how you are, some kid was telling me about that at the mall. So you're coming tomarrow or have your plans changed?"

- She is gonna flip: "WHAT?!? Who was talking about me!" and then she will find an uncanny ability to want-to-know more.. While you get to smile and say "Why do you wanna know? Who have you been dating that it could be?"... Quite entertaining if I do say-so-myself. But don't persist with these games for too long, they are only funny for a brief second, then they are annoying.

~ ArtistBBoy

[OutOfMyElement43]

Don't contact her; not even on the "day of" to confirm the date. The next time you talk to her should be when she shows up for the date, to call her in case you're running late, or to call to tell her you've arrived at the date. Believe me, if she's interested she'll show up, if she doesn't show up, she's not interested. If she's not inerested, move on; you won't change her mind.

This may sound counter intuitive. "Shouldn't I confirm the date?" NO. You should not call to confirm; don't give her an easy out. Make her call you to say she's cancelling. If you've ever called in sick for work when you weren't sick, you probably paced around thinking about what you were going to say; you may even have chickened out calling in sick. Calling in sick when you're not really sick is stressful. What if your boss called you every morning to ask if you were well enough to come in to work?

[Asker]

Well we never really made concrete plans. Just "Let's get together Saturday"

[OutOfMyElement43]

I'd say always make concrete plans. If you don't make concrete plans, you run the risk of her showing up with a friend. I've had this happen. It was pretty frustrating, but what can you say?

I this case just call her up a say "Meet me at ____ around 6:00." If she can't make it at 6:00, she'll ask you if you can be there at whatever time she can make it there. DON'T ASK HER WHERE SHE'D LIKE TO MEET. She wants you to make the decision.

[ElleryAlexandria]

Just say "Are we still on for tomorrow?" if someone asked me that it wouldn't be awkward. It would be awkward if they were beating around the bush hinting that. Just ask!

[ArtistBboy]

YESSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111one11!!!1.....! Thank you +1

[ElleryAlexandria]

Lol, no problem. I hate it when guys try to be "cool" and beat a the bush without coming straight out with it.

[Asker]

It's not trying to be cool..it's worrying about being awkward..girls are very judgmental

[penguin34]

I don't ask questions.
I say, "See you tomorrow at 5"

Like a Boss.

I don't ask her to coffee, I make a statement. "We should have coffee sometime".

Like a Boss.

That is my advice today.

[Irrelevance]

Go in with confidence. Say, "Don't forget - [place] at [time]. See you then :)" tomorrow a few hours before the date. Tip toeing around by asking, "Er, gosh. I'm not sure if I'm worthy of your time or not, just texting to double check! Please say I am! PLEASE!" is going to get you nowhere.

No reply a few hours before the date, don't keep your hopes up.