Hey everyone,
My girlfriend and I of seven years have always joked with each other about how stupid Facebook can be. She doesn't use Facebook and says she never will. The only reason I ended up making a profile is because my band started to get busier and we need to use Facebook for promoting and networking with musicians/potential fans. She knew about this and wasn't totally happy that I fell into the Facebook craze, but understood that it was for promotion of my band. I'm sure most of you know how Facebook works and how when you add one person, a bunch of people might start adding you as well.
I saw some old friends/ classmates as potential fans so I added some of them. Before you know it, all kinds of people I totally forgot about were adding me, and yes, many of them were girls. I didn't want to seem like an a** hole, so I would accept anyone's friend request that I received. I never really talked to the people on there, especially the girls. And I never saw any of them in public or anything.
My girlfriend had been asking me recently about my Facebook and how often I use it, how many friends do I have, are any of them girls, etc. I told her I didn't have that many friends and none of them were girls. I didn't tell her the truth because I thought she would get really mad and it would turn into a big fight.
So later she says "let's see your Facebook, if you have nothing to hide you can show me, and if you won't show me, I'll know you're lying about something".
I knew I was screwed no matter what, so I logged in and let her look thru my account. She saw a bunch of girls she didn't know and that is because most of them were from middle school or early high school before I even knew my gf.
Of course, she flipped out and is still super p*ssed at me. I never had any intentions of trying to hook up with any of these girls, etc. It was purely to try and get my band's name and music out to more people. She claims she believes me about that, but she is still and hurt that I lied to her. I think she has every right to be mad at me. If I was in her shoes and I saw a bunch of strange dudes on her Facebook, I would flip out too, especially if she told me she wasn't friends with any guys. She said she wants to keep my username and password to be able to log into my account whenever she wants to make sure nothing is going on. I told her I am fine with that and I gave her the info.
I don't know why I lied in the first place. I'm verrrry stupid for doing it and I feel sooooo bad for hurting her. I'm wondering, what should I do to make up for it? I want her to be able to trust me and I don't want her to go out and do something to get back at me because she feels resentful.
My girlfriend and I of seven years have always joked with each other about how stupid Facebook can be. She doesn't use Facebook and says she never will. The only reason I ended up making a profile is because my band started to get busier and we need to use Facebook for promoting and networking with musicians/potential fans. She knew about this and wasn't totally happy that I fell into the Facebook craze, but understood that it was for promotion of my band. I'm sure most of you know how Facebook works and how when you add one person, a bunch of people might start adding you as well.
I saw some old friends/ classmates as potential fans so I added some of them. Before you know it, all kinds of people I totally forgot about were adding me, and yes, many of them were girls. I didn't want to seem like an a** hole, so I would accept anyone's friend request that I received. I never really talked to the people on there, especially the girls. And I never saw any of them in public or anything.
My girlfriend had been asking me recently about my Facebook and how often I use it, how many friends do I have, are any of them girls, etc. I told her I didn't have that many friends and none of them were girls. I didn't tell her the truth because I thought she would get really mad and it would turn into a big fight.
So later she says "let's see your Facebook, if you have nothing to hide you can show me, and if you won't show me, I'll know you're lying about something".
I knew I was screwed no matter what, so I logged in and let her look thru my account. She saw a bunch of girls she didn't know and that is because most of them were from middle school or early high school before I even knew my gf.
Of course, she flipped out and is still super p*ssed at me. I never had any intentions of trying to hook up with any of these girls, etc. It was purely to try and get my band's name and music out to more people. She claims she believes me about that, but she is still and hurt that I lied to her. I think she has every right to be mad at me. If I was in her shoes and I saw a bunch of strange dudes on her Facebook, I would flip out too, especially if she told me she wasn't friends with any guys. She said she wants to keep my username and password to be able to log into my account whenever she wants to make sure nothing is going on. I told her I am fine with that and I gave her the info.
I don't know why I lied in the first place. I'm verrrry stupid for doing it and I feel sooooo bad for hurting her. I'm wondering, what should I do to make up for it? I want her to be able to trust me and I don't want her to go out and do something to get back at me because she feels resentful.
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