Girlfriend lied to get into a relationship with me?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating my girlfriend for 2 years. I just found out that she lied and manipulated her way into a relationship with me.

I don't know how to feel because I love her but feel betrayed at the same time. When we first met, I was into her friend but was turned off that friend because she does drugs and boasts about it. I have a strict no drugs policy with the girls I am serious with because I hate drugs myself and I want the person I'm with to be safe.

Then my girlfriend showed interest in me and I kinda liked her back. She told me she'd never done drugs before apart from the mild ones like weed, and that drugs disgust her, just like me. She also told me she has a body count of 4 guys. I started falling more and more for her and she checked all my boxes for a girlfriend.

Now 2 years later, I've found out that she's an avid hard drug user and does them at parties. She has been for years. She even lies to me that she's "just going to the toilet" and does drugs with her friends, and then lies to me that she wasn't doing anything when she comes out. She also has a much higher body count and lied at the beginning about the guys she's slept with.

She basically lied to get me to like her more at the beginning. I confronted her about this and she either builds more lies on top of that, changes the subject or says it's not a big deal and laughs. What should I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Bro, that's messed up. No girl should be lying and manipulating you like that. I feel you though - it's hard to cut someone off you've invested two years with, especially if you genuinely loved who you thought she was.

Few things you need to think about - can you trust her now knowing she lied so easily about big stuff just to hook you? What else might she be hiding? Also do you really wanna be with someone who does hard drugs behind your back, after saying that was a dealbreaker?

You've talked to her and she downplayed it or guilt-tripped instead of being truly remorseful. That shows she hasn't changed. She'll likely keep lying and sneaking around.

As much as it sucks man, I think you gotta let her go. You deserve way better than someone who tricks you into a relationship with a fake version of themselves.

Take time to grieve the relationship you thought you had. Then move on and find a girl who respects you enough to be honest from the jump. You'll be so much happier in the long run, I promise dude!

[Sofargone93]

Well this is a learning experiment for you. Birds of a feather flock together. Women do not hang out with other women who do drugs if they don't do those drugs themselves. That's one major thing they have in common.

As for what you should... Leave. she's going continue to do drugs or what ever she wants because she doesn't take herself seriously. Her problems will become your problems. She's too immature to tell the truth. She's lying to herself. Lying strait to your face. She's a liability because you could get pulled over and she have a gram of coke on her... You think she's going to say it's hers... Come on man be real 😂

[Sofargone93]

It only take one time for a K9 unit to do a routine check and it's game over. She will not take the fall. Save yourself. I know this because my mom was on drugs for a long time and she did a shit load of shady shit to men that I had to defend her from.

[Jbear27]

This isn’t true. While I think the girlfriend is a disgusting liar, the birds of a feather thing isn’t the end all be all. I have plenty of acquaintances that do drugs and I never touch the stuff and my friends respect that and never try to get me to do drugs with them. They never do drugs in front of me either. But I hate when people assume that just because I know these people that I’m also a fellow user of recreational drugs.

[Sofargone93]

That's where you're wrong. You haven't been put in that situation yet to know what I'm telling you.

[Sofargone93]

Fuck around and find out. like your gut isn't telling you the truth. Trust youself man. Hell. I don't know everyone but I know people who do drugs. Shit don't end well.

[Sofargone93]

If you think your dad doesn't appreciate a phone call then. If you think your mom isn't worried about your well being.. it's because they lived it. They just hope you make better choices... But we all go through it. We are human. Much love 🤘

[Biancam13]

I wouldn't be with her anymore, personally. Lying about such a big thing like that, and being so complacent about it as well, is a huge signal of something bigger and more worrying about your girlfriend.

[tzdc21]

You should have expected her to lie about the body count. Very rarely girls will be honest about that. As for what you do now, it's simple. You dump her lying ass

[BourbonAndBacon]

You gotta get rid of her. She will drag you down