Cheating with a man who has a longterm girlfriend and says he loves her, but that he is falling in love with me. HELP?

[Anonymous]

I am currently overseas and I have been for 7 months, I only have two more to go. A month ago, a guy who's been out here the entire time with me, and I had sex. He has a girlfriend and he says he loves her so much and wants to eventually marry her. We have spent so much time together and he told me that he is falling for me and that I am his dream girl and that he cares for me and just wants to make me happy. His girl is at home, and she told him she has no desire for him anymore. This may be because of the deployment, but he is still sad for that. I don't understand how he can say he loves her and say he's falling for me. He treats me amazing and is an amazing person/man. Very sincere and genuine. He doesn't take her calls when I am with him, and he apologizes for them. He told me he has pictured our future. But he also said, "if anything ever happens, I want to be with you". What does this mean? Should I continue for the next two months, even though I know it will hurt me in the end, or what?

[Cmasterson]

So why are they still together? Clearly he's hanging onto something or that he didn't tell your the full story. He treats you this way because you let him, because you're there and you let I'm cheat on his girlfriend with you. People have their way with words especially liars and cheaters they can be manipulative and basically say anything to sweep you off your feet. So what he means is your his back up plan, if she dumps him he will be with you, if you want to settle for that by all means, but don't be surprised if he cheats on you.

[Anonymous]

He wants to continue using you as a side-chick. You're being quite naive.

[FakeName123]

1. He is lying to you to keep you as a sidechick.

2. He isn#t very sincere nor genuine if he is lying and cheating.

3. You are equally scum, because you keep making him cheat. Don't do things to others that you don't want ot have done to yourself. If he really was interested in you, he would break up with his girlfriend or at least not have sex with you until things are clear.

4. Grow up and stop being naive.

[FakeName123]

And 5. If he cheated on her, he would cheat on you even if you were to become the "main-chick"

[Nishant_Ingle]

he is surely cheating but he don't want to accept it. It's simply attraction. Tomorrow if he left his girlfriend and you gonna become his new girlfriend then after couple of months he may start liking other girl. He is a fluctuating guy. Say no to him quick and move on. I don't think it will damage your friendship that much but you should think of your life, your future.

[JohnDoe3000]

You are so naive and have a very bad taste in men... But I guess he's handsome and tells you exactly what you want to here so you're going to ignore all the good advice people are going to give you here anyway...

[Intraluminal]

Here's the thing that you need to consider. He IS LYING to *someone* and he *says* that "she told him she has no desire for him anymore" but you don't know what the truth really is.

[Sara413]

I'd he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you...

[Sara413]

Pretty shitty of you to knowingly be the other woman in the first. place tho. Maybe you guys deserve each other...

[sp33d]

Walk
Away

simple

[Asker]

What if though?

[sp33d]

blablabla, words.. if anything.. ever.., be with.. YOU.. yeah, that's nice. But ONLY WORDS.
As I was saying, clear your head, drink some water, take a big breath of the morning air and the answer to your dilemma is simple. Walk Away

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