Is a hug at the end of a first date a bad sign?

[Anonymous]

So I haven't dated in several years, so dating is new again to me. I've been reading online articles lately about male body language, and how to tell if they're into you. This guy messaged me online, and we talked for a bit before he asked me out. We went to a dive bar, of my choosing. I can be pretty awkward and quiet on first dates. I can also be pretty guarded-especially with body language. don't want to come off like I like someone too much on the first date, so I try to be very neutral. He kept asking questions, and sometimes there was a silence when I was trying to come up with one. However, I think for the most part, the conversation flowed. We did laugh quite a bit. Now for the most part his body language was fairly neutral too. Most of the time his crotch was facing the bar, and his upper body towards me. At one point though, he faced his chest away from me for a couple minutes before swinging back. He never tried to touch me except when we said hello and goodbye. The date only lasted about 1 hr 45 min bc he said he had to be up early for work. Now towards the end of the date he asked what my plans were for the rest of the week. I told him that I was working the next day and was on call the day after. We then left the bar, and said goodbye outside. He hugged me goodbye, with both arms, and said have a good night or something like that. I really can't tell if he likes me. On the one hand he did maintain eye contact, and for a lot of the night his eyebrows were raised. But the hug and have a good night makes me wonder. As well as the not pointing his crotch towards me. I need advice. What do you think?

[Anonymous]

Odds are he likes you but is just trying to be respectful. It is really tough for some of us guys to do stuff such as kissing without obvious intent (cause I'm assuming you weren't asking him to kiss you). Give him some time, once he knows you like him and want things to move forward he'll start becoming bolder (since he will feel like his affections are reciprocated). Like you said he already wants to make more plans and that to me is the most obvious indicator that he does indeed like you.

[Asker]

He didn't say he wanted to make more plans though. He just asked me what mine were for the rest of the week. Then we got on a different subject

[Opinion Owner]

I'd still say he's into you regardless. I don't know why he wouldn't, you seem to have had a good time together.

[Psuedoscape]

holy shit how did you remember all of that. If you were out a bar and drinking, and he didn't have the balls to try to start touching you or go for the kiss he was either really shy, an idiot, or not into. Its hard to really say for sure. Just have to do like everyone else and wait it out, see if he gets a hold of you. In the meantime date some other people.

[Soshy]

So you spent the whole date looking at his crotch? Nice! I wouldn't take any of those advice as Gospel to be honest. If you spend so much time focusing on these little signs you won't enjoy yourself. If someone is enjoying your company you will just know it. Wait to see if you hear from him again. It sounds like you need to enjoy yourself with no expectations next time. A hug is never a bad thing, in the early stages I would say he is just trying to be polite here.

[Asker]

lol, no I didn't spend the whole date looking at his crotch. But even if I'm looking at his face, and enjoying the date, I can still notice those things with my peripheral (or whatever it's called at the bottom of your eye). I'm a very analytical person, and I don't want to get my hopes up if he thinks the date didn't go well. So yes, I'm constantly noticing things-AND enjoying myself. Then I just come home and analyze.

[loushi]

maybe he is not sure if he likes you or not , so he keep it neutral..

[ClumsyAngel]

No he could just be shy and didn't want to rush things

[GingerGuy]

A hug is good, I've been on dates where there isn't one. The fact that he asked about your upcoming week is all the sign you need to know he's interested, at least in another date. Otherwise he wouldn't even ask. He's probably trying to gauge your interest if anything so a simple hug is usually safe.

[EAFPortillo]

Maybe he is shy or very respectful, although most guys know that you have to try to kiss the girl on the first date to make it obvious what you are going for, otherwise you risk getting friendzoned.

[Regular1]

Wait to see if he asks you on a second date. On the second date, be sure and give him a blowjob