Why does he leave me on read for hours then reply?

[Anonymous]

It's super annoying when he does this and it makes me think he doesn't like me :c

[Anonymous]

sometimes guys will read a message from a girl and won't reply because either:

a he's busy (rarely!)
b) not know what to say back (worried he'll mess up if he likes you back either openly or secretly)
c) too lazy too (all guys are!)
d) not understand what you said even if it's clear as water (too lazy to ask what you meant, most guys are!)

these are just my suggestions because me being a guy, I've done all of these to my wife in the past. she sometimes gets annoyed, but knows i will reply no matter what. :)

[Asker]

Lol he ended up completely ignoring my question then at midnight for New Years Day he messaged to say "HAPPY NEW YEARS" but by then I was already pretty annoyed with him

[MementoMori_]

Two possibilities are:
1. He's just checking in to read and doesn't have time to reply until later.
2. He wants to think about what you wrote before he responds.
3. He's doesn't like you. <<< just threw that in for a laugh. It's possible, but if you have an actual relationship with him it's more likely #1 or #2.

Relax... you should have more confidence in yourself. If you let your emotions live or die based on someone else's responses, you aren't in control of yourself.

[Asker]

It's not that I let my emotions live or die based on his response - more like I start to doubt if he really likes me whenever he does this
Also it's kinda rude and irritating cause sometimes I would actually like it if he just answered my questions

[MementoMori_]

Hmmmm... hard to tell if he just isn't responding because of one of the three reasons above or because he doesn't like the "questions." It could be that too. As a guy there are a lot of questions a girl can ask me that I don't want to respond to. Depends on what it is about.

[Asker]

Lol he asked me what I was doing for New Years Eve and I answered then said "what about you?"

[Asker]

Anyway he never answered the question. He just ignored it till midnight then messaged me saying "HAPPY NEW YEAR"

[MementoMori_]

He may have had plans and didn't want to tell you about them.

[LonelyBird5]

1. He doesn't like you
2. He forgets to text back
3. Just laziness
4. He's busy
5. You need to get a new mans

[Streamhopper]

On KiK? Like the other guy said, he's probably busy. I know in my case, I'll send a message, someone will read it and get back to me but I'm at work, and can't reply until break. My friends are ok with it. Plus we're dealing with time differences, and that adds to the complexity.

[Asker]

Nah not on kik
Messenger

[Streamhopper]

Close enough, lol. I just thought of KiK cause it's happened to me on there. But really, he's probably just busy. Unless you think there's some other reason? You're in the situation, you're better to judge that than I am.

[Asker]

The last time we hung out I asked him what he does when he's not eating out with friends and he told me he stays up playing games with people overseas 😑

[Streamhopper]

Oh, you snagged a gamer. Well in that case... ok, I can't say too much cause I am, too, but I'm not super crazy like some people are. But if he's in game, yeah, I can vouch that it takes a lot of time and attention, and doing anything else is tough. And the window between games is short; people get really silly about this kind of thing. He'll get past this at some point, but it isn't going to be quick.

[Asker]

Ahhh why are gamers like this

[Streamhopper]

Cause we're competitive. Sucks, but that's the way guys are. At least some guys. I'm not a huge gamer. To be honest, my girlfriend is a bigger gamer than I am. But I accept it, it's who she is. Trust me, sooner or later, he'll settle down. He'll realize life is gnawing on his tail and he better get his stuff straight.

[dogbert444]

If I leave my tab logged in to someone's kik account, it marks their message as read even if I haven't seen it. It thinks I'm watching over it like a mother hen. I might well be occupied with something else, like in the dunny!

[Asker]

Oh no we were using messenger

[dogbert444]

KIK messenger?

[dogbert444]

Nope! I see it wasn't. It probably does the same, though.

[William602]

There are a few reasons I can think of at the moment

1. Could have opened and begun typing but then get distracted, only realizing hours later he forgot to send the message

2. Opens the message when he has the time, but has to be busy again and then replies when he has the opportunity

3. Sadly, you could no longer be a priority

[Asker]

I guess I'm not a priority then cause he ended up completely ignoring my question then messaging at midnight of New Years Day to say "HAPPY NEW YEARS"

[faresjandali]

same with the person i like, she said she's busy but after we met 2 days ago she is treating me differently and seem distanced
he might be just busy dont waste your time and wait be productive and just do anything to take your mind off it. you will get used to it
you can actually do the same to him and make him wonder like you are doing now ;)

[StevenCB]

He just might not know how to respond, try messaging him something like "pay attention to me" works every time on me when my girlfriend says it

[Asker]

Lol I don't wanna seem needy

[Asker]

So I usually only message him when I really feel like talking

[Anonymous]

It's possible that he has multiple tabs open at the same time. Then if the tab with your messages gets a new one, on your end it would say read, but in reality, he is looking at a different internet page from one of the other tabs.
I have done that with leaving my Facebook tab open before while I am actually watching YouTube for hours. Then I don't know about my messages until I go back and check that tab again.

[killjoy32]

Probably has just enough time to read it, but not enough time to reply.

[Asker]

Honestly he should have time cause we're on break and he spends most of his time eating out, playing games, or sleeping

[Unicrone]

It could be because he is too busy to respond at the moment or needs to think of something to say so he doesn't sound stupid

[Kaazsz]

We have to do it on purpose. if we respond asap you will lose interest.

[wolfie12]

I do this, but not because I dont like somebody, but because I'm busy.

[Walrus_au]

'leave me on read' ? you have a 'read' setting? Does it stop excessive talking? How do I get one installed on other girls?

[BeastRB]

He's either lazy or busy

[Asker]

Lazy is most likely the case. He's always like this 😑😑

[BeastRB]

Chances are it's nothing personal at least

[gdivyam26]

May be he has some problems.. it doesn't meana that he is ignoring u... and believe me... if he truly feel for u then he will nvr ignore u.

[lumberman9]

He might not like texting

[Asker]

I kinda already know he doesn't but when I ask him a question it's nice for him to reply

[lumberman9]

Of course it is maybe he's busy or he just might not have enough respect to give you the time of day.

[Asker]

Maybe. He ignored a lot of messages from people so I'm not surprised he does this with me too.
I mean I guess I should be happy he replies at least but he's not really busy during these times.
Like we're on break so he spends his time playing games or eating out..

[Anonymous]

We have our rights to think for our next message. 😢

[bloodmountain1990]

He's probably busy

[Asker]

I doubt it lol were on break and he spends most of his time playing games or outside eating

[Zqueaker]

he is busy