My neighbor - I'm way too shy to talk! Could he possibly like me?

[Anonymous]

In brief words, I saw my neighbor in September 2009. From then on, I've been in love with him. We've never talked, because I am too shy to do that. We're the same age. I found out we had some mutual friends.

But I used to have trichotillomania, and I'm waiting for my hair to grow. I don't feel pretty because I always wear an up do or a ponytail. My hair is probably the biggest problem since I work out regularly and I don't have an ugly face.

He has given me a few signs, when I let my eyes meet his. He always looks away from mine when I detect him staring at me. Once he was hanging out with friends and he was just laughing crazily when I came by and they all stopped laughing and talking suddenly. Some of them even tried to make friends with me one day, but I denied.

I caught him whistle at me and my friend but all in all, I avoid him. I am scared. I don't have pretty hair, and I'm afraid he won't like me. I know it may sound a bit hollow, but I want to be attractive.

My hair is growing okay, but it's been 8 months! I cannot stand it anymore. I have no desire to do absolutely anything, and I spend hours thinking of him.

I wonder if he might like me? What do you think? Why is he always silent when I pass him by? Damn it, I am too shy to look into his eyes!

PLEASE HELP GUYS AND GIRLS!

[shesindierock]

i know how it feels when you know your not ugly but some how you don't like your legs, hair, teeth, etc but you need to accept that, your hair will eventually grow, right (I hope so *thumbs up) but I know it may sound hard but you need to be more confident in yourself. you can act as if you are super confident until you actually feel confident. but apart from that I think you should really give it a try, believe me its better to take a risk that to never do it and regret it later. and if he does not what to have a relationship with you o whatever he is the one who's going to loose you, I mean because everybody has a treasure, you just need to unlock it.

i wish you the best of luck, and remember: your worth it! you can do it! :D

PS: can you check out me question and give me some advice of your own? I'd appreciate that, thank you :)

its [Does Shy girl + shy guy work?] ^_^

[iceequeen]

im confused.. you like him, but you don't want anything to happen until your hair has grown longer/back?

is the trichotillomania very obvious? if it isn't you should try and just get over it and make some contact.. it seems as though he has tried to express some interest but when shut someone and their friends down repeatedly your kind of giving off the vibe that your not interested...

what you have isn't love its obsessive infatuation... reel it back.. take a breathe and just think... would you want to be with someone who didn't like the way your hair is?

[Asker]

Well yes, I can't call it love either. I just didn't find the right expression. Just sexual attraction, since I don't know him in person.

Well, it is considerably obvious. I haven't worn my hair down loose for almost a year (I mean outside).

Thanks for the comment. :)

[iceequeen]

Its clear you REALLY like him. your hair has been growing for 8 months, if it looks ok to you or to your girlfriends (ask them) then you might just be being a bit too self conscious.. and although boys appreciate the aesthetics of a girl, a lot of them don't really notice the finer details most of the time ie nails, hair, shoes... so if you really think he is interested then give it a shot.. ask him if he wants to get a drink or see a movie...

[CrazynKinky]

Your an idiot!

Are you twelve?

You don't love him, so stop with that right away. Your just crushing!

Why would you denie friends? If he liked you that was probably his move.

Stop being so self conscious about your stupid hair! Who cares really, your the only one!

No one can help you till you get some friggin self confidence and talk to the kid

[Asker]

Excuse my poor English. :D I don't love him of course. I didn't find the right idiom.

You're actually right. I am an idiot. Head over heels for the first time in many years. I'm almost 16.

[CrazynKinky]

Then just get some balls and talk to him instead of obsessing over a guy you don't even try for

[Elisha]

That was mean. You're not an idiot, just realistic. I think you have a shot with him but you're smart to be cautious because no one knows how he will react to your hair or anything. Guys can seem really sweet but be an ass underneath. I'm not saying this guy is an ass (he could be sweet and understanding). Just go fot it and see what happens. If he needs up being an ass don't worry about it, there are other guys. Good luck!

[HitByTheTruth]

You said you wanted to be attractive and that is nothing bad - I think everyone wants to be attractive to that one that they love and wish to be with ya know.

By what you have said I think he does have something for you and maybe he is a little shy to show it also. Some guys are shy when by themselves but when with friends they have a little more courage to do what they might not do by themselves like whistle at you ya know.

Don't worry about your hair either, if he had any issues with it he would not have done some of the flirty things he has already = )

Like they all say go for it.

[Anonymous]

Aww you're sweet. Go for it. Just start by smiling at him or say hi. Don't have to do anything too outrageous. Sometimes that's all it takes to break the ice. I know how you feel because sometimes I get kinda nervous if I'm around a girl that I like. The trick is to not concentrate too much on being nervous or shy and focus more on them. It sounds like he could be interested in you especially with the staring or looking away. Maybe he was trying to find out more about you when his friends were trying to make friends with you. Say hi and see what happens :)

[wrestling18]

Well to tell you the truth, you really should just go for it. I am a very self conscious person myself but the thing is I always regret not going after a girl that I like. And regrets don't make for a good life. So I say go for it. I know its easier said than done but trust me, if he likes you now, he's really going to like you after you make the first move.

[ddancing]

go for it girl !

ur probarly really pretty and he is mad about you !

look in his eyes and it will say all

good luck :)

can you answer my question {on the guy that stares at me } I need more advice thank you :)

[Asker]

Thank you very much, friend! :)) You really encouraged me! *hugs*

I'm going for your question now! *runs*

[mangaturtle]

My ex had trichotillomania. a good man will think you're pretty anyway. she was.

[AkilJoseph]

I wish I could find a girl like you.Truth is,Talk to him before someone else does.

[Anonymous]

sounds like an obsession. lol but anyways. if he's your neighbor maybe have your parents talk or something. or just start talking to him on Facebook like "hey neighbor, I haven't seen you in a while!" orrr, just open up and talk to him.